Life My mom is sick - Page 2

**SAUTO** · 05-14-2018, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by ottawa_chiefs_fan

same - my mom had dementia - she is gone now.....it is really really tough. There are times you question why you go to visit her when she does not know who you are - you may not actually admit that to anyone - but you feel it. And that can be a tough bit of guilt to deal with....

Yep. But you still go

Al Czervik · 05-14-2018, 06:08 PM

Jake,

Thoughts and Prayers to your Mom and your family.

Pants · 05-14-2018, 06:25 PM

Thoughts and prayers your way, Jake.

**Ming the Merciless** · 05-14-2018, 12:05 PM

Im really sorry man....

I have a loved one going through this...its extremely hard......

A couple pieces of advice that I have learned the hard way...if they say something like 'we are going to X , y or z' and it isnt true -- dont argue...just agree with them....I have a loved one who constantly thinks they are supposed to be going somewhere and I tried for a long time to explain and tell them that we werent and it felt weird to 'lie' and agree...but it was a big anxiety relief for them when i just started agreeing with their delusions.....instead of trying to fight them

and,try not to take it personally....its really tough

sign up for whatever services you can ...IHHS...etc....any type of support you can get because you might need it.

big hugs dude

UChieffyBugger · 05-14-2018, 12:07 PM

Sorry to hear that but hopefully God will bless her with a full recovery.

Simply Red · 05-14-2018, 12:08 PM

Sorry Jake. Prayers outward and upward to you.

Al Bundy · 05-14-2018, 12:13 PM

I'm sorry to see this. My girlfriend's dad is going through it as well. He doesn't recognize anyone really at this point.

**srvy** · 05-14-2018, 12:27 PM

So sorry for that news thoughts and prayers and stay strong.

**BigRichard** · 05-14-2018, 01:20 PM

Hoping for the best... My mom is getting up there and having COPD issues(she is on constant oxygen now) and lives about 4 hours from me and 2 hours from my other brother. She doesn't have anyone living with her and she just doesn't have a ton of friends. The few she has live 30 or 40 minutes away. She is slightly reclusive. It just scares the shit out of me that she is all that way from anyone. I am really hoping to get a larger place here sooner rather than later and try and talk her into moving in with the wife and I.

bricks · 05-14-2018, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by JakeF

I guess she has something called Frontotemporal dementia. It's basically sudden onset Alzheimer's.

Yesterday she didn't even realize who I was

Oh god.

Jake stay strong bro. I agree with what others are saying in try to remember her for who she was. Be as compassionate as you can even though it may be difficult at times.

Prayers and thoughts go out to you.

**ChiTown** · 05-14-2018, 01:27 PM

God Bless ya, Jake. I wish you and your Mom nothing but the best. You have a long hard road ahead of you. Prayers to the both of you.

WhawhaWhat · 05-14-2018, 01:38 PM

I was very close to my Grandma and the same thing happened to her. I wouldn't wish it against my worst enemy.

My best advice is to have someone to talk to about what's happening because it's tough to deal with on your own. Maybe even consider going to a therapist because it can put a strain on all family relationships. I wish you and her all the best.

**LoneWolf** · 05-14-2018, 03:58 PM

Sorry, Jake. Positive thoughts headed your way.

KS Smitty · 05-14-2018, 04:24 PM

So sorry Jake, sending prayers and good vibes your way.

There's a lot of good advice already in this thread, take advantage of it. The Planet is a good place during times of need.

BryanBusby · 05-14-2018, 04:49 PM

My grandmother had a stroke last year and I'm now starting to suspect that dementia is setting in. It sucks.

05-14-2018, 06:08 PM	#2
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05-14-2018, 12:05 PM	#4
Ming the Merciless Emporer of Mongo Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Milky Way Casino cash: $-682444	Im really sorry man.... I have a loved one going through this...its extremely hard...... A couple pieces of advice that I have learned the hard way...if they say something like 'we are going to X , y or z' and it isnt true -- dont argue...just agree with them....I have a loved one who constantly thinks they are supposed to be going somewhere and I tried for a long time to explain and tell them that we werent and it felt weird to 'lie' and agree...but it was a big anxiety relief for them when i just started agreeing with their delusions.....instead of trying to fight them and,try not to take it personally....its really tough sign up for whatever services you can ...IHHS...etc....any type of support you can get because you might need it. big hugs dude __________________ ---- 2018 Adopt-A-Chief : Chris Conley 2017 Adopt-A-Chief : FRANK ZOMBO Click here-->*The Holy Chiefsplanet Lexicon **
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05-14-2018, 12:13 PM	#7
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05-14-2018, 01:20 PM	#9
BigRichard Buddy Christ is a Chiefs fan Join Date: Nov 2008 Casino cash: $-1950454	Hoping for the best... My mom is getting up there and having COPD issues(she is on constant oxygen now) and lives about 4 hours from me and 2 hours from my other brother. She doesn't have anyone living with her and she just doesn't have a ton of friends. The few she has live 30 or 40 minutes away. She is slightly reclusive. It just scares the shit out of me that she is all that way from anyone. I am really hoping to get a larger place here sooner rather than later and try and talk her into moving in with the wife and I. __________________ "You know, they lay down with their ugly wives in front of their ugly children and just look at their loser lives and then they look at me and say, "I CAN'T PROCESS IT!" Well, no, and you never will. Stop trying. Just sit back and enjoy the show .... You know?" Carlos Irwin Estevez
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05-14-2018, 01:38 PM	#12
WhawhaWhat MVP Join Date: Feb 2013 Casino cash: $-688884	I was very close to my Grandma and the same thing happened to her. I wouldn't wish it against my worst enemy. My best advice is to have someone to talk to about what's happening because it's tough to deal with on your own. Maybe even consider going to a therapist because it can put a strain on all family relationships. I wish you and her all the best.
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05-14-2018, 03:58 PM	#13
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KS Smitty Cool as a Cucumber Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: on the edge Casino cash: $2736717	So sorry Jake, sending prayers and good vibes your way. There's a lot of good advice already in this thread, take advantage of it. The Planet is a good place during times of need. __________________ A D with Sneed is a D indeed.
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05-14-2018, 04:49 PM	#15
BryanBusby In Search of a Life Join Date: Mar 2006 Casino cash: $3159900 VARSITY	My grandmother had a stroke last year and I'm now starting to suspect that dementia is setting in. It sucks.
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