Life Confronting a cheater - Page 27

The Dude Abides · 05:30 PM

Haven't been here in awhile, so check this out. Guess this could be related to the cheaters thread, but oh well. I had been seeing this woman for about 3 years. Everything was great, we got along, amazing sex, etc. But during this whole time, I live in Wichita, she in Newton, a 30 minute drive. She always had to visit me at my house because she lived with her ex. They had never been married, just dated for 9 years. Long story short, I saw the end coming, she was pulling away, as she had done before a few years ago, so I found where she lived and told her supposed ex the whole story of me and his woman. Oh yeah, they were very much together, he said. But he was a big puss and didn't get mad or anything. But needless to say, she got hysterical, said she hated me, i ruined her life, etc. I knew all this was going to happen anyway, but I just couldn't let her get away with her doing the whole player thing. So basically, what is your opinion on confronting the cheaters significant other?

Katipan · 02-17-2009, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by keg in kc

Weird? Nah, I expected that.But not that.

Well in my defense, a wink is a closing motion. Mine is already closed. Whats the opposite of a wink? I bet I can do that!

The Buddha · 02-17-2009, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Katipan

Unless we had at one time been sexually attracted to you.
The body never forgets.

What makes you sexually attracted to a guy?

Once again, I think I need to start working out. As I said before, I think I'm kind of like Evan from Superbad, which doesn't seeeem to be the type of guy women go for.

Mecca · 02-17-2009, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by DeezNutz

Two words: confidence and humor.

Women don't want to be around a pussy, and making them laugh is the best way to make them scream.

If you're falling into the "friend category," you need to assert yourself.

This is why I rule, I'm a funny asshole.

The Buddha · 02-17-2009, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Katipan

Well in my defense, a wink is a closing motion. Mine is already closed. Whats the opposite of a wink? I bet I can do that!

A fart... Don't do that.

Mecca · 02-17-2009, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by The Buddha

What makes you sexually attracted to a guy?

Once again, I think I need to start working out. As I said before, I think I'm kind of like Evan from Superbad, which doesn't seeeem to be the type of guy women go for.

Their wallet...

keg in kc · 02-17-2009, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by DeezNutz

Two words: confidence and humor.

Women don't want to be around a pussy, and making them laugh is the best way to make them scream.

If you're falling into the "friend category" you need to assert yourself.

The older they get (well, most of them) the more careful you need to be that "confidence" isn't arrogance. Because as women get wiser they realize that a lot of guys that they used to think were confident were just putting on a show. Then they start to look for 'real'. Whatever the **** that means.

The Buddha · 02-17-2009, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Mecca

Their wallet...

Hmmm... does pre-law count?

Katipan · 02-17-2009, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Mecca

In that case he was probably never just a friend to begin with.

Thats a horrible thought. I've been attracted to plenty of guy friends... Girlfriend's boyfriends, dads, mailmen.

I'm an evil evil woman.

**DeezNutz** · 02-17-2009, 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Mecca

This is why I rule, I'm a funny asshole.

Mindset.

When I walk into a bar I think I'm the best looking guy there. I don't think I'm lucky to be talking to any girl, and I sure as hell never used to think I was lucky to be going home with anyone.

She was lucky, because I'm good looking and I know she's going to have a good time.

Have this mindset without coming off as an arrogant prick, which can be tough, and you'll have a wet dick more times than not.

RJ · 02-17-2009, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by keg in kc

I was gonna ask if you got a daughter, but that would be classless and deranged.

Damn straight. It's even worse than walking on my lawn.

**Iowanian** · 02-17-2009, 08:52 PM

This is a sweet moment. great, great resources too.

Budda, stop posting. Go to the HOC and read every thread with the word "girl" in the title by RoyIII and gochiefs.

Then return.

Mecca · 02-17-2009, 08:52 PM

I would tell any guy that, when you go out act like you are important and everyone is lucky to speak with and be in your company, it works.

keg in kc · 02-17-2009, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Katipan

Well in my defense, a wink is a closing motion. Mine is already closed. Whats the opposite of a wink? I bet I can do that!

I bet you can. Something tells me you're not entirely foreign to the concept of kegel exercises.

Say, wait, what did you guys think they were winking at us? Sheesh.

The Buddha · 02-17-2009, 08:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

This is a sweet moment. great, great resources too.

Budda, stop posting. Go to the HOC and read every thread with the word "girl" in the title by RoyIII and gochiefs.

Then return.

Okay. I need to go study anyway, too.

The best advice I heard is to stop thinking. I try not to, but I still do. But the more you think, the more you psych yourself out. And usually what people think about when they're approaching someone isn't positive. More thoughts = more fear = more chance of rejection. Its kinda like that crappy advice of "be yourself."

That, and don't focus on yourself and what you're doing, what's wrong with you, etc. Focus on the other person instead. Kind of the same advice. Now if I can only listen to it.

keg in kc · 02-17-2009, 08:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

This is a sweet moment. great, great resources too.

Budda, stop posting. Go to the HOC and read every thread with the word "girl" in the title by RoyIII and gochiefs.

Then return.

Shit, dude asking me where I pick up chicks should be just about enough to get us in the HOC.

02-16-2009, 04:21 PM
The Dude Abides Starter Join Date: Jan 2006 Casino cash: $6744940	Confronting a cheater Haven't been here in awhile, so check this out. Guess this could be related to the cheaters thread, but oh well. I had been seeing this woman for about 3 years. Everything was great, we got along, amazing sex, etc. But during this whole time, I live in Wichita, she in Newton, a 30 minute drive. She always had to visit me at my house because she lived with her ex. They had never been married, just dated for 9 years. Long story short, I saw the end coming, she was pulling away, as she had done before a few years ago, so I found where she lived and told her supposed ex the whole story of me and his woman. Oh yeah, they were very much together, he said. But he was a big puss and didn't get mad or anything. But needless to say, she got hysterical, said she hated me, i ruined her life, etc. I knew all this was going to happen anyway, but I just couldn't let her get away with her doing the whole player thing. So basically, what is your opinion on confronting the cheaters significant other? Last edited by The Dude Abides; 02-16-2009 at 05:30 PM..
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Mecca Hockey Town Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Kansas City, Missouri Casino cash: $-772950	I would tell any guy that, when you go out act like you are important and everyone is lucky to speak with and be in your company, it works.
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