Life Would it bother you if your SO/spouse made more money than you? - Page 3

**Rausch** · 06-15-2010, 08:02 AM

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Originally Posted by alpha_omega

Wouldn't bother me. In fact, i just wish my wife had a job at all!

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**Rain Man** · 06-15-2010, 08:05 AM

the problem is not the guy's attitude. the problem is the woman getting all uppity if she makes more. from what i've seen, things are shared equally when the guy makes more, but if the woman makes more then you have the 'why don't you make more' arguments and the 'i make more so the difference is mine' arguments. the sense of teamwork is dependent on the woman getting more than her share.

not in every case, i'm sure, but i've observed the pattern enough to propose it as a strong theory.
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**DaKCMan AP** · 06-15-2010, 08:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

the problem is not the guy's attitude. the problem is the woman getting all uppity if she makes more. from what i've seen, things are shared equally when the guy makes more, but if the woman makes more then you have the 'why don't you make more' arguments and the 'i make more so the difference is mine' arguments. the sense of teamwork is dependent on the woman getting more than her share.

not in every case, i'm sure, but i've observed the pattern enough to propose it as a strong theory.
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My sociology professor from 8 years ago said whoever makes more is the boss and has more say in financial decisions. While he currently made more than his wife, and was the boss in financial matters, he admitted that once he retired in a couple of years she would become the boss.

**Rain Man** · 06-15-2010, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP

My sociology professor from 8 years ago said whoever makes more is the boss and has more say in financial decisions. While he currently made more than his wife, and was the boss in financial matters, he admitted that once he retired in a couple of years she would become the boss.

there may be truth in this. it's odd, though, how the dynamic shifts when the ratio goes from 55/45 to 45/55.

i've been married 19 years and have made more money or been the main breadwinner in consulting income for 12 of those. i've seen both situations and it's easier if I make more.
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Consistent1 · 06-15-2010, 08:12 AM

I think Rain Man makes a good point. It also gives people like in-laws ammo to put in commentary,etc. If the male makes all/more money, that is fine. If it is the other way around, people put their two cents in more.
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wildcat09 · 06-15-2010, 08:31 AM

My wife has a higher base salary than I do but I bring home some pretty decent commission bonuses every quarter so by the end of the year, I actually bring more home. If she made more than me (and she might be someday very soon) I would be fine with it. She is a very talented women and she deserves to be compensated accordingly. I am proud of what she has accomplished at a very young age. I would be just fine staying home and playing golf all day.

Huffman83 · 06-15-2010, 08:36 AM

I mean...it is a football team fan forum...it seemed relevant at the time!

**petegz28** · 06-15-2010, 08:39 AM

If my wife made more money than me I would just see it as her making up for all the years I made more than her.

Jilly · 06-15-2010, 08:41 AM

I wish Sully had a job and if he made less or more than me, I wouldn't care a bit. I'd be happy for the extra income and so would he.

**DaKCMan AP** · 06-15-2010, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Jilly

I wish Sully had a job and if he made less or more than me, I wouldn't care a bit. I'd be happy for the extra income and so would he.

I guess Rain Man is right. The woman brings home the dough and she even speaks for the guy.

Jilly · 06-15-2010, 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP

I guess Rain Man is right. The woman brings home the dough and she even speaks for the guy.

Perhaps. Although, I am sure he's not responding in this thread as he's getting my supper ready for tonight, doing my laundry, and cleaning my house!

I'm kidding. He's probably just trying to conquer level 5 on Red Dead Redemption.

SenselessChiefsFan · 06-15-2010, 08:43 AM

If my wife ever makes more than me.... I will forgive her for throwing it in my face. I wish that was a problem that I could have at least once in my life.

|Zach| · 06-15-2010, 08:45 AM

Wouldn't bother me.

boogblaster · 06-15-2010, 09:00 AM

She doesn't but she gives me all that she doesn't spend on her little things she wants so how could i care more money for the pile suits me fine ...

ToxSocks · 06-15-2010, 09:17 AM

**** no. Bring it on baby. Make me a househusband!

View Poll Results: Would it bother you if your souse/SO made more money than you?
She does, and no it doesn't bother me.	22	26.51%
She does and it bothers me, but not that much.	2	2.41%
She doesn't, but it wouldn't bother me.	57	68.67%
She doesn't, but it would bother me if she did.	2	2.41%
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06-15-2010, 08:05 AM	#2
Rain Man Seize life. Be an ermine. Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: My house Casino cash: $-692449 VARSITY	the problem is not the guy's attitude. the problem is the woman getting all uppity if she makes more. from what i've seen, things are shared equally when the guy makes more, but if the woman makes more then you have the 'why don't you make more' arguments and the 'i make more so the difference is mine' arguments. the sense of teamwork is dependent on the woman getting more than her share. not in every case, i'm sure, but i've observed the pattern enough to propose it as a strong theory. Posted via Mobile Device
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06-15-2010, 08:12 AM	#5
Consistent1 _____________ Join Date: Aug 2005 Casino cash: $10004900	I think Rain Man makes a good point. It also gives people like in-laws ammo to put in commentary,etc. If the male makes all/more money, that is fine. If it is the other way around, people put their two cents in more. Posted via Mobile Device
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06-15-2010, 08:31 AM	#6
wildcat09 well.....alright Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: GC Casino cash: $10004900	My wife has a higher base salary than I do but I bring home some pretty decent commission bonuses every quarter so by the end of the year, I actually bring more home. If she made more than me (and she might be someday very soon) I would be fine with it. She is a very talented women and she deserves to be compensated accordingly. I am proud of what she has accomplished at a very young age. I would be just fine staying home and playing golf all day. __________________
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06-15-2010, 08:36 AM	#7
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06-15-2010, 08:39 AM	#8
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06-15-2010, 08:41 AM	#9
Jilly MVP Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Lee's Summit Casino cash: $9984925	I wish Sully had a job and if he made less or more than me, I wouldn't care a bit. I'd be happy for the extra income and so would he. __________________ "In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight." — Ram Dass
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06-15-2010, 08:43 AM	#12
SenselessChiefsFan MVP Join Date: Nov 2008 Casino cash: $10005450	If my wife ever makes more than me.... I will forgive her for throwing it in my face. I wish that was a problem that I could have at least once in my life. __________________ A bad day at the gym is better than a good day on the Couch.
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06-15-2010, 08:45 AM	#13
\|Zach\| For The Glory Of The City Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Kansas City Casino cash: $3016768	Wouldn't bother me.
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06-15-2010, 09:00 AM	#14
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06-15-2010, 09:17 AM	#15
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