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08-28-2013, 09:14 AM | #46 |
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Revenge solves nothing. We are not judges. Let God be the judge. Live life as Jesus would have, and life is pretty easy.
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08-28-2013, 10:32 AM | #47 |
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It depends on the situation. If its something big, I tend to be the type of person that holds onto the grudge forever. I will eventually find the opportunity for payback. Wether it be 5 days, months, years or decades. I will deliver vengeance.
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08-28-2013, 10:41 AM | #48 |
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I forgive, but I do not forget. I know some people will say "then you didn't truly forgive the person". I respond to that by saying, that me forgiving you, does not mean that you enter back into my circle of trust. Once hurt, I do not expose myself to be hurt again. Trust takes a second to lose and a lifetime to gain.
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08-28-2013, 10:50 AM | #49 |
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Read a book by a professional. I am sure there are some for raising kids.
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08-28-2013, 10:56 AM | #50 |
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Forgive - yes, as long as i believe they really didn't mean it or are really sorry. If it was an accident, then i can forgive very quickly. If it was a deliberate decision to screw me over then it takes longer.
Forget - not so much
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08-28-2013, 11:04 AM | #52 |
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It's a good question. Coming into this thread, i had my answer; forgive and forget.
But if i dig a little deeper down, i'd be a hypocrite if i said i applied that to everything in life. For the most part i do. I believe that grudges are a waste of energy, i hate being mad at someone because it's a waste of my leisure time, i'd rather be doing something else than be mad about something. For the most part, men have a better ability to let go of things than women do. You can get into a fight with your friend, get it all out of you, get over it and then the two of you go smoke a bowl and get some munchies. That's the way i view Chiefsplanet as well. But....I don't think i've forgiven my dad. I haven't seen the guy since i ran away 13 years ago. If i can forgive everyone else, i should be able to forgive him. But i haven't. Not sure that i could. I don't know. I do know that my upbringing has affected me as a "family man" and not always in a good way. I don't know that meeting my dad again and working it out would change any of that though. It might be too late for that. |
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08-28-2013, 11:16 AM | #53 |
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as I've grown into an old bastard, I've learned to forgive others. it takes a little longer, but I can also forget how others may have wronged me.
forgiving myself though, is a problem, and i'm sure it always will be. sec
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08-28-2013, 11:17 AM | #54 |
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The people who have seriously wronged me are no longer a part of my life and haven't been for years or decades. Most are in other states, or other countries. Some are dead (no, I didn't do it). So the betrayal/torment/whatever at this point only exists in my memory. I some cases these events have scarred me, in others, they've just molded me. But the perpetrators are long gone. It's not like any of them are actually ****ing with me now, or I run into them at the grocery store. And even if I did, I'd probably just scowl at them and go on my way.
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08-28-2013, 11:20 AM | #55 |
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Forgiveness has always been tied to respect for me. I struggle to forgive somebody who has repeatedly and intentionally disrespected me or my family. Other than that, I forgive easily. There are 3 or 4 people out there that will probably never be fully forgiven but I try not to let it consume me. That shit isn't healthy at all.
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08-28-2013, 11:35 AM | #60 |
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If you can truly forgive then you should. You'll feel better afterwards. But when I say "forgive" I mean that you are prepared to continue on with your life behaving as if the event never happened. You can still absorb life lessons from the event but you have to treat the person as if they never did you wrong, and do so willingly without rancor. If you can't do that then you shouldn't try to live as if you've forgiven someone because you haven't.
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