Life Confronting a cheater - Page 6

The Dude Abides · 05:30 PM

Haven't been here in awhile, so check this out. Guess this could be related to the cheaters thread, but oh well. I had been seeing this woman for about 3 years. Everything was great, we got along, amazing sex, etc. But during this whole time, I live in Wichita, she in Newton, a 30 minute drive. She always had to visit me at my house because she lived with her ex. They had never been married, just dated for 9 years. Long story short, I saw the end coming, she was pulling away, as she had done before a few years ago, so I found where she lived and told her supposed ex the whole story of me and his woman. Oh yeah, they were very much together, he said. But he was a big puss and didn't get mad or anything. But needless to say, she got hysterical, said she hated me, i ruined her life, etc. I knew all this was going to happen anyway, but I just couldn't let her get away with her doing the whole player thing. So basically, what is your opinion on confronting the cheaters significant other?

**DeezNutz** · 02-16-2009, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

People that live with their mother and have never had a significant relationship wouldn't have a clue how a man with both testicles dropped would react.

I understand the reaction, but what does it solve?

It's not prevention; it's revenge. And after my wife would do something like this, I wouldn't care enough about her to even so much as look at her or talk to her. Why take it to another level?

It doesn't anyone more manly. The other guy has already smoked my wife...

**Iowanian** · 02-16-2009, 05:13 PM

Mecca's relationship experience is based off of internet porn skits and yahoo chat with low self estemed high school girls.

You're gochiefs with a shitty haircut.

If someone knocked on my door and said they'd been banging my wife, I guarantee they'd find out about a temper problem.

Some men don't care, some men wouldn't do anything about it...thats why shitheads think its acceptable and can justify it to themselves.

'Hamas' Jenkins · 02-16-2009, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

People that live with their mother and have never had a significant relationship wouldn't have a clue how a man with both testicles dropped would react.

What does attempting to kick The Dude Abides' ass solve in this situation?

The Dude Abides · 02-16-2009, 05:14 PM

But I'm keeping the pics and home movies. Good stuff.

Mecca · 02-16-2009, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by DeezNutz

I understand the reaction, but what does it solve?

It's not prevention; it's revenge. And after my wife would do something like this, I wouldn't care enough about her to even so much as look at her or talk to her. Why take it to another level?

It doesn't anyone more manly. The other guy has already smoked my wife...

Fighting makes you a good family man...I'm not sure in the logic in that. I also love how a disagreement leads to insults.

Also I don't think "that guy slept with my wife" is gonna fly when you're trying to explain to a cop why you assaulted someone.

Mecca · 02-16-2009, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

Mecca's relationship experience is based off of internet porn skits and yahoo chat with low self estemed high school girls.

You're gochiefs with a shitty haircut.

If someone knocked on my door and said they'd been banging my wife, I guarantee they'd find out about a temper problem.

Some men don't care, some men wouldn't do anything about it...thats why shitheads think its acceptable and can justify it to themselves.

And what did you solve, your problem is with your shitty woman not the guy?

GoChiefs with a shitty haircut, Iowa rage feel it, better hide the corn.

**Iowanian** · 02-16-2009, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by 'Hamas' Jenkins

What does attempting to kick The Dude Abides' ass solve in this situation?

It may not solve anything. Its a reaction.

You're married. Put yourself in that situation. The Dude just knocked on your door. You going to fix him a drink and pull out the checker board?

Mecca · 02-16-2009, 05:17 PM

So you need anger management?

'Hamas' Jenkins · 02-16-2009, 05:18 PM

What makes a woman who cheated on you worth fighting over?

Yeah, if some other guy smacked your wife, it's on, but if she's running out on you, what's the point of putting yourself in even more physical and legal danger (in addition to the STDs you may or may not get) by fighting some other dude.

Best case scenario: You whip the guy's ass and you still have a wife who cheated on you.

That still leaves you open to felony assault charges.

So again, I ask, what is to gain from this?

The Dude Abides · 02-16-2009, 05:18 PM

They were not married. Oh, and she may be 3 months along. Did I mention that?

stevieray · 02-16-2009, 05:18 PM

anger masks sadness...if something like that doesn't make you angry or sad..then you prolly won't ever have a loving relationship.

that said, some people handle things differently, and the risk of being shot does exist.

Mecca · 02-16-2009, 05:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 'Hamas' Jenkins

What makes a woman who cheated on you worth fighting over?

Yeah, if some other guy smacked your wife, it's on, but if she's running out on you, what's the point of putting yourself in even more physical and legal danger (in addition to the STDs you may or may not get) by fighting some other dude.

Best case scenario: You whip the guy's ass and you still have a wife who cheated on you.

That still leaves you open to felony assault charges.

So again, I ask, what is to gain from this?

Hey that's what I said.

In Iowa logic doesn't apply.

**Iowanian** · 02-16-2009, 05:19 PM

I don't need life skills advice from a semi employed dipshit who lives at home and has no family of his own. I know that much for certain.

This isn't an issue in my home, because I chose wisely.

Hopefully, next time you noodle up some other guy's gal, he finds you and does care.

**DeezNutz** · 02-16-2009, 05:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Iowanian

It may not solve anything. Its a reaction.

You're married. Put yourself in that situation. The Dude just knocked on your door. You going to fix him a drink and pull out the checker board?

I can see the guy knocking on your door getting a lot different reaction. It's not nearly the same as seeking this guy out.

Pioli Zombie · 02-16-2009, 05:20 PM

Abide. Not cool.
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02-16-2009, 04:21 PM
The Dude Abides Starter Join Date: Jan 2006 Casino cash: $6774940	Confronting a cheater Haven't been here in awhile, so check this out. Guess this could be related to the cheaters thread, but oh well. I had been seeing this woman for about 3 years. Everything was great, we got along, amazing sex, etc. But during this whole time, I live in Wichita, she in Newton, a 30 minute drive. She always had to visit me at my house because she lived with her ex. They had never been married, just dated for 9 years. Long story short, I saw the end coming, she was pulling away, as she had done before a few years ago, so I found where she lived and told her supposed ex the whole story of me and his woman. Oh yeah, they were very much together, he said. But he was a big puss and didn't get mad or anything. But needless to say, she got hysterical, said she hated me, i ruined her life, etc. I knew all this was going to happen anyway, but I just couldn't let her get away with her doing the whole player thing. So basically, what is your opinion on confronting the cheaters significant other? Last edited by The Dude Abides; 02-16-2009 at 05:30 PM..
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02-16-2009, 05:13 PM	#77
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1658454	Mecca's relationship experience is based off of internet porn skits and yahoo chat with low self estemed high school girls. You're gochiefs with a shitty haircut. If someone knocked on my door and said they'd been banging my wife, I guarantee they'd find out about a temper problem. Some men don't care, some men wouldn't do anything about it...thats why shitheads think its acceptable and can justify it to themselves.
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02-16-2009, 05:18 PM	#84
'Hamas' Jenkins Now you've pissed me off! Join Date: Jan 2006 Casino cash: $7129572	What makes a woman who cheated on you worth fighting over? Yeah, if some other guy smacked your wife, it's on, but if she's running out on you, what's the point of putting yourself in even more physical and legal danger (in addition to the STDs you may or may not get) by fighting some other dude. Best case scenario: You whip the guy's ass and you still have a wife who cheated on you. That still leaves you open to felony assault charges. So again, I ask, what is to gain from this? __________________ "When the Know-Nothings get control, it will read 'all men are created equal, except negroes, and foreigners, and Catholics.' When it comes to this I should prefer emigrating to some country where they make no pretense of loving liberty – to Russia, for instance, where despotism can be taken pure, and without the base alloy of hypocrisy.”--Abraham Lincoln
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stevieray Most things I worry about… Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Under Pressure Casino cash: $-1364727	anger masks sadness...if something like that doesn't make you angry or sad..then you prolly won't ever have a loving relationship. that said, some people handle things differently, and the risk of being shot does exist.
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Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1658454	I don't need life skills advice from a semi employed dipshit who lives at home and has no family of his own. I know that much for certain. This isn't an issue in my home, because I chose wisely. Hopefully, next time you noodle up some other guy's gal, he finds you and does care.
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