Life Flabbergasted and pissed - Page 6

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 04:07 PM

Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain.

I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again.

He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon.

So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!"

When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sh*t. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool.

But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F***'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this a**hole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks.

*So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?

**cdcox** · 08-01-2010, 06:22 PM

At the least, he could have personally hooked you up with a ride with one of the other guests, but it's not worth getting bent out of shape over.

Consistent1 · 08-01-2010, 06:38 PM

That wedding shit is pretty much
all for women anyway. She thought ahead and had her bus deal covered because it was family. Women got everybody helping them think of everything also. It most likely never even crossed his mind. The dude prolly didn't even want to do half of it himself. Prolly wanted to kill the mother-in-law at several points too. Giving him money to help is another issue, but let the ride thing go bro.

**Iowanian** · 08-01-2010, 06:38 PM

I say a groom has enough to worry about on his wedding night and you're a big boy.

I think you were being a chic about it.
You're a grown ass man, get a cab, hotel or a ride and move on like a big boy.

Consistent1 · 08-01-2010, 06:38 PM

That wedding shit is pretty much
all for women anyway. She thought ahead and had her bus deal covered because it was family. Women got everybody helping them think of everything also. It most likely never even crossed his mind. The dude prolly didn't even want to do half of it himself. Prolly wanted to kill the mother-in-law at several points too. Giving him money to help is another issue, but let the ride thing go bro.

**The Bad Guy** · 08-01-2010, 06:41 PM

Seriously, what are you complaining about?

It sounds like you aren't versed in wedding responsibilities. Every single wedding I've been in resulted in me paying for the tux. I did my best to get discounts for my GM for my wedding, but they paid for it like I always have in weddings.

Secondly, you should have worked out transportation before hand. I think it's bad form on your part to get mad about this whole thing, when it could have been averted if you made plans prior. Carpool with someone, get a hotel somewhere, something should have been arranged prior. That's not the grooms responsibility.

It sounds like he's a dick, but I besides telling you like a dick, I fail to see the problem here.

**Iowanian** · 08-01-2010, 06:43 PM

If you keep score on favors, you're not doing favors, you're banking tokens to cash in later.

That alone makes you a C list friend to me.

**The Bad Guy** · 08-01-2010, 06:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by notorious

He should have paid for the tuxes. I would have been embarrased to make my friends pay for that after asking them to be a part of a big day in my life.

The ride is not that big of a deal.

Wait, what?

Since when is it the groom's responsibility to pay for everyone's tux? Now, as part of being in the wedding party, I gave them a sweet gift, but I never knew of this theory that the groom pays for the GM tux.

Pablo · 08-01-2010, 06:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Bad Guy

Wait, what?

Since when is it the groom's responsibility to pay for everyone's tux? Now, as part of being in the wedding party, I gave them a sweet gift, but I never knew of this theory that the groom pays for the GM tux.

I've been in a couple of weddings and I paid for my tux both times. I thought that was common. When you're asked to be a groomsman, you're basically being given an honor and being asked a big favor at the same time. So you suck it up and try to make everything go as smooth as possible on their big day.

**The Bad Guy** · 08-01-2010, 06:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PostRockPablo

I've been in a couple of weddings and I paid for my tux both times. I thought that was common. When you're asked to be a groomsman, you're basically being given an honor and being asked a big favor at the same time. So you suck it up and try to make everything go as smooth as possible on their big day.

That's the way I've been taught as well.

Sure-Oz · 08-01-2010, 07:05 PM

I've been in about 5 weddings and the only 2 i didnt pay for my tux were 2 of my life long buddies who covered it. It is expected to pay your own shit, but when they pay its nice. I will do the same for those my groomsmen too since i know they will be close friends that are in the group when they are in my wedding as well. I say get over your friends detail he missed out on and if you feel he takes advantage of you then don't go out of your way then. Atleast he tried, but i would've atleast gotten a ride back with a group or planned that ahead of time.

58-4ever · 08-01-2010, 07:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cdcox

At the least, he could have personally hooked you up with a ride with one of the other guests, but it's not worth getting bent out of shape over.

yes, I agree. Tons of friends will be **** ups in your life. Just learn your limits with the **** ups. I will save you a lot of over-analyzation and thinking.

58-4ever · 08-01-2010, 07:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Iowanian

If you keep score on favors, you're not doing favors, you're banking tokens to cash in later.

That alone makes you a C list friend to me.

Yeah, I can see where you are coming from here. You've gotta pick and choose your battles. If he forgets how he is going to get you back to YOUR car on HIS wedding, it's not always about you.

**notorious** · 08-01-2010, 07:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Bad Guy

Wait, what?

Since when is it the groom's responsibility to pay for everyone's tux? Now, as part of being in the wedding party, I gave them a sweet gift, but I never knew of this theory that the groom pays for the GM tux.

It must be the thing to do in my circle. Oh well, to each their own.

threebag · 08-01-2010, 07:21 PM

He probably would have given you a ride home but you would have had to work it off in trade...

DJ's left nut · 08-01-2010, 07:22 PM

Dude just got hitched.

He's right - you're not his first priority.

Nut up, pussy. Get a ****ing cab and get over yourself.

08-01-2010, 04:07 PM
RedThat Banned Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Earth Casino cash: $10004900	Flabbergasted and pissed Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain. I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again. He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon. So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!" When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sht. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool. But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this ahole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks. *So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?
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08-01-2010, 06:22 PM	#76
cdcox www.nfl-forecast.com Join Date: Sep 2000 Casino cash: $-578231	At the least, he could have personally hooked you up with a ride with one of the other guests, but it's not worth getting bent out of shape over.
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08-01-2010, 06:38 PM	#77
Consistent1 _____________ Join Date: Aug 2005 Casino cash: $10004900	That wedding shit is pretty much all for women anyway. She thought ahead and had her bus deal covered because it was family. Women got everybody helping them think of everything also. It most likely never even crossed his mind. The dude prolly didn't even want to do half of it himself. Prolly wanted to kill the mother-in-law at several points too. Giving him money to help is another issue, but let the ride thing go bro.
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08-01-2010, 06:38 PM	#78
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1668454	I say a groom has enough to worry about on his wedding night and you're a big boy. I think you were being a chic about it. You're a grown ass man, get a cab, hotel or a ride and move on like a big boy.
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08-01-2010, 06:38 PM	#79
Consistent1 _____________ Join Date: Aug 2005 Casino cash: $10004900	That wedding shit is pretty much all for women anyway. She thought ahead and had her bus deal covered because it was family. Women got everybody helping them think of everything also. It most likely never even crossed his mind. The dude prolly didn't even want to do half of it himself. Prolly wanted to kill the mother-in-law at several points too. Giving him money to help is another issue, but let the ride thing go bro.
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08-01-2010, 06:41 PM	#80
The Bad Guy Scott Pioli Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: The Copacobana Casino cash: $9283645	Seriously, what are you complaining about? It sounds like you aren't versed in wedding responsibilities. Every single wedding I've been in resulted in me paying for the tux. I did my best to get discounts for my GM for my wedding, but they paid for it like I always have in weddings. Secondly, you should have worked out transportation before hand. I think it's bad form on your part to get mad about this whole thing, when it could have been averted if you made plans prior. Carpool with someone, get a hotel somewhere, something should have been arranged prior. That's not the grooms responsibility. It sounds like he's a dick, but I besides telling you like a dick, I fail to see the problem here. __________________
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08-01-2010, 06:43 PM	#81
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1668454	If you keep score on favors, you're not doing favors, you're banking tokens to cash in later. That alone makes you a C list friend to me.
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08-01-2010, 07:21 PM	#89
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08-01-2010, 07:22 PM	#90
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