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Not so much...
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I'd say that's a given...
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08-28-2013, 01:54 PM | #79 |
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Easy for me to forgive. The forget part that's tough at times, I live by the rule that I hate no one. It takes to much energy to hate.
I refuse to be that old grumpy guy that was an ass when I was a kid. **** that . |
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08-28-2013, 01:57 PM | #80 |
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I reserve all of my hating for the Chiefs and the fine patrons of Chiefs Planet.
Works like a charm.
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08-28-2013, 02:00 PM | #81 |
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08-28-2013, 02:10 PM | #82 |
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Your question reflects wisdom so that is a good place to begin. One of the other posters said something to the effect that there will be people in your life where you never get the chance for forgiveness to take root. I have found this to be very true and there is a long term affect that nobody grasps until you find yourself in the abyss of it. That is that later in life you will fully appreciate the wisdom in quick forgiveness, but you struggle with that lost sense of justice when forgiveness doesn't hold. That is so hard to accept and while subtle, it will change you over time. You get to the point where you focus so much on the pain internally (of injustice) that it prevents you from realizing the full potential of blessings at your feet. My advice to you is to understand that it is ok to align rebuke with giving forgiveness. While Jesus said to turn the other cheek, he didn't say to turn the other cheek so it could be hit too. My minister told me that and it was a tremendous help. A person can become trapped by obedience to their faith, which is why the faith walk has to be continuous. I think the trick here to depending on the promise of forgiveness is to harness the manner in which you tie rebuke to it. That is where you want to focus. Learn to see far below the surface of the wrong, like Superman looking through a wall. You'll realize that having to forgive is not really a cost, it is an opportunity. It's an opportunity to relieve a tremendous burden from another, and even to deliver an effect rebuke that changes not only the dynamic, but lives.
So if I were you I would accept your own struggle with the issue, be on guard for when that lost sense of justice begins to irritate you, and set out to teach your kids how rebuke and forgiveness together solve the problem. There is no God of Justice anymore. He was replaced by the God of Love. |
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"Forgive" does not equal "Forget". Forgiveness does not mean allowing, abusive spouses, drug addicts, manipulators, bullies, violent people, users, gossips, drama kings/queens, and other toxic people, to remain in your life, or "treat the person as if they never did you wrong." Forgiveness means relieving yourself of the hatred and anger that goes along with being hurt. Sometimes it means understanding that the person made a mistake, and being OK with it. Other times, it means recognizing the person as they are, and understanding that you can neither change them nor have them in your life. I can forgive someone after they borrowed my car, got drunk and wrecked it. Letting the same person borrow my truck isn't forgiveness, it's stupid.
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I forgive, and forget pretty easily.
Yeah, I get mad, but if someone is willing to take steps towards moving away from stupid stuff, I will meet them half way, and often times try to be the bigger man about things.
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This makes me angry...
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