Life I thought she was just a friend & she is married - Page 8

LiveSteam · 01-11-2012, 04:49 PM

Today she let me know, she wants to be more than friends. I don't wanna have an affair.
I have known her since we were 11,12 years old.So I don't wanna lose her friendship either. She is beautiful.& if she was single/ HELL YES.
Two years ago I had my first & only affair with a different girl. I'm ashamed of the affair,ashamed that I actually believed the bullshit she told me about her marriage & how the marriage was over. All lies.

Never again will I mess with a married chick! Its shameful & pathetic IMO

So how do I tell this woman NO. & not hurt her feelings? Just wanna work on being friends?

**bevischief** · 01-12-2012, 06:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Bugeater

Shit, I don't remember any of her friends. But if you've known this girl since you were 12 I don't see how I could possibly not know who she is.

Sounds like the next class reunion is going to be a blast...

jlscorpio · 01-12-2012, 07:06 AM

is it too late to hit it & quit it w/A2M?

The Iron Chief · 01-12-2012, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by LiveSteam

Never again will I mess with a married chick! Its shameful & pathetic IMO

So how do I tell this woman NO. & not hurt her feelings? Just wanna work on being friends?

I did not have time to read all the replies in this thread I'm sure some are serious others are not its a given here.
But I will say You are correct it is shameful To mess around with a married woman.
Sure I'm showing my age here but marriage is the ultimate trust.
Lets pretend you messed around had fun and never did it again, this lady will now always go to bed at night or look at her husband knowing that she cheated.
Things would never be the same for her ever.
I'm 44 but I do have some college age friends who tell me how easy it is to take a married woman home and it makes my blood boil.
These guys take them home for a night and laugh about it the next day.
Sadly these are what you might call polite mannered nice guys but in this day and age they actually pin it on the cheating bitch.
I try to explain but it never sinks in.

My wife of 20 plus yrs have an understanding if one of us ever catches the other cheating with another we walk away..the trust is broken never EVER could it ever be the same, feel the same.

She lets me joke about the Hot chick walking down the beach and she does it too with the guys.
We have a great thing going but to go out and have sex or an affair with someone else and it all ends...and telling the kids would begin.

I feel bad enough about sleeping with an older unmarried bitch just months prior to our engagement..this sneaks into my mind here and there but I needed to let that go.

Eh sorry to sort of go serious here I'm sure most of the replies were bend her over show us pics etc..umm are there any pics?

**Lumpy** · 01-12-2012, 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by notorious

I bartended for 8 years. You wouldn't believe what "Respectable" wives would do. Over 80% of Men are scum, period, but the woman side of things blew me away.

I love my wife, and don't believe she would ever step out, but shit happens to good people all of the time.

80%?

That seems a bit high.

**The Bad Guy** · 01-12-2012, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by LiveSteam

I think im going to just lie. Tell her I am dating someone, & now aint the time.
& hope that's enough.

Be a freaking man and tell her that you have morals and messing around with a married woman isn't happening.

Good freaking lord.

**Lumpy** · 01-12-2012, 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by The Bad Guy

Be a freaking man and tell her that you have morals and messing around with a married woman isn't happening.

Good freaking lord.

Um...

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Originally Posted by LiveSteam

We talked tonight. I wouldn't say it went good. But I wouldn't say it went bad either.
I told her I care about her as a friend & that anything more at this time would just ruin our friendship. I don't think that's what she wanted to hear.
She went on about .What if I leave him?
I told her it still wouldn't work. I don't want everyone we know thinking I wrecked your marriage. Mutual friends would blame me just for the fact that I'm ME!
That's kinda where we left it.

**gblowfish** · 01-12-2012, 10:01 AM

If she'll cheat on her husband, eventually she'll dump on you too. And maybe get you shot to death. Not worth it.

The Iron Chief · 01-12-2012, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by The Bad Guy

Be a freaking man and tell her that you have morals and messing around with a married woman isn't happening.

Good freaking lord.

This or tell her your only interested if she loves you enough to have a baby with you...

Guessing that would end it fast

**DaKCMan AP** · 01-12-2012, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Lumpy

80%?

That seems a bit high.

Consider the sample environment.

**notorious** · 01-12-2012, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Lumpy

80%?

That seems a bit high.

Alcohol.

**Lumpy** · 01-12-2012, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP

Consider the sample environment.

Well, I know on CP it's probably around 95%.

-King- · 01-12-2012, 10:07 AM

Don't do it. This could end with you getting beat with a hammer because you had sex with her and her kids...*

*cross thread humor. No pedo.
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**notorious** · 01-12-2012, 10:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Lumpy

Well, I know on CP it's probably around 95%.

And that is being conservative.

Dragonocho · 01-12-2012, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Lumpy

80%?

That seems a bit high.

80% of married women in bars cheating. But 100% of married women arent hanging out in bars.

**Lumpy** · 01-12-2012, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by notorious

And that is being conservative.

Yes, but I would like to think that a large percentage of you guys put on airs and aren't douchebags in RL.

01-11-2012, 04:49 PM
LiveSteam The Constitutional Choo choo Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: homeof43conferencetitles Casino cash: $-1674568	I thought she was just a friend & she is married Today she let me know, she wants to be more than friends. I don't wanna have an affair. I have known her since we were 11,12 years old.So I don't wanna lose her friendship either. She is beautiful.& if she was single/ HELL YES. Two years ago I had my first & only affair with a different girl. I'm ashamed of the affair,ashamed that I actually believed the bullshit she told me about her marriage & how the marriage was over. All lies. Never again will I mess with a married chick! Its shameful & pathetic IMO So how do I tell this woman NO. & not hurt her feelings? Just wanna work on being friends?
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