Life Flabbergasted and pissed - Page 9

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 04:07 PM

Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain.

I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again.

He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon.

So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!"

When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sh*t. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool.

But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F***'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this a**hole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks.

*So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by chasedude

Screw these ****ers... they're just enjoying a good pile on.

I know. I know this place pretty good by now. Thanks for your support.

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

Dude - no crappy water beer at my house. The stuff you bring here ... a twelver is plenty for two dudes.

Whatever you like man.

Have a beer shed a tear. Its all good.

tonyetony · 08-01-2010, 11:28 PM

The way you're bitching about this incident leads me to believe that you have been pissed off at this dude for a while. You obviously have come to some conclusions about his behavior based on past experience..........So what are you really angry about?? Because you agreed to be in this douchebags wedding or are you in love with his fiancee?

Chiefshrink · 08-01-2010, 11:36 PM

Something tells me you surround yourself with a fair amount of people who like your so-called friend sh** on you alot?????

But seriously you already knew for along time this guy was a "me first type" exhibiting many times to you his self-absorbed life. How in the hell could you expect "ANYTHING" from this narcissistic prick 'ESPECIALLY' on his wedding day/weekend??????????????????????

The question then becomes what 2ndary dysfunctional emotional gain do you get from this guy/or people that you set yourself up to be sh** on, on a regular basis??

**BigMeatballDave** · 08-02-2010, 12:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Bugeater

That's pretty standard. It's what you sign up for when you agree to be a best man/groomsman/usher. The women normally have to buy their dresses as well.

Yeah, I had to buy my ex-fiancees Bridesmaid dress for her sisters wedding. She and I split 6 weeks later. It cost me $180.

vincent · 08-02-2010, 02:37 AM

Step 1: Realize your friend is a dick...

Step 2: Get your gameface on and try to grab a bridesmaid to take with you in your cab.

CoMoChief · 08-02-2010, 02:56 AM

Well, One would assume the Groom would make arrangements for the grooms party to be escorted back to their transportation. Whether you all were going to spend the night there or drive home drunk is another story. He should have at least told you up front that the bus wasn't going to drop them off, at least letting them know before, as opposed to AFTER everyone was already drunk at the reception. Dick move on his part, just sounds like he's un-organized thoughtless idiot.

Simply Red · 08-02-2010, 03:18 AM

you two need to talk, talk THROUGH this. You may need some third party counseling. Nobody likes a dramatic Bridal party.

SPchief · 08-02-2010, 03:28 AM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain.

I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again.

He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon.

So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!"

When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sh*t. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool.

But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F***'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this a**hole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks.

*So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?

I'm guessing this is your first wedding?

XXXshogunXXX · 08-02-2010, 03:41 AM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone . Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon.

So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!"

*So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?

i found the bold pretty funny. He ordered a limo to pick YOU up and drive around to the banquet, church, etc. But you bought a bottle of sky vodka for $20 and he's entitled to drop you off at home instead of going to his honeymoon? hahaa

it mightve been overlooked how you guys were going to get home, but that shouldve been arranged earlier. oh well. That doesnt mean you have to storm off like a girl. really though, it's his night. the last thing on his mind is worrying how YOURE getting home. You should be more worried about things go his way for the rest of the night and honeymoon on.

**The Bad Guy** · 08-02-2010, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

I did know others at the wedding but honestly Im not going to go up to them and ask them for a ride home. Dude, I'd feel embarrassed to do that.

*I see your point of view, but Im grateful in a way that stuff like this happens because it shows the true colours of a person. jmo

Wait, wait, wait.

You'd feel bad asking someone you knew at the wedding for a ride, but you had no reservations about asking the groom how to get home on his wedding night?

You are showing your true colors of being a drama queen.

**bevischief** · 08-02-2010, 07:16 PM

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Originally Posted by vincent

Step 1: Realize your friend is a dick...

Step 2: Get your gameface on and try to grab a bridesmaid to take with you in your cab.

Or the bride...

Your friend is a total Ahole.

**MahiMike** · 08-02-2010, 07:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RedThat

Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain.

I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again.

He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon.

So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!"

When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sh*t. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool.

But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F***'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this a**hole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks.

*So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?

You're a whiny bitch. This guy is getting married. He doesn't have to think about anything else. Besides only the women plan every detail out.

KC2004 · 08-02-2010, 08:59 PM

I had friends like that.

KC2004 · 08-02-2010, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by MahiMike

You're a whiny bitch. This guy is getting married. He doesn't have to think about anything else. Besides only the women plan every detail out.

Your as wrong as he was.

08-01-2010, 04:07 PM
RedThat Banned Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Earth Casino cash: $10004900	Flabbergasted and pissed Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain. I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again. He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon. So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!" When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sht. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool. But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this ahole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks. *So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?
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08-01-2010, 11:28 PM	#123
tonyetony tonyetony Join Date: May 2001 Location: Yeah Right! Casino cash: $9977948	The way you're bitching about this incident leads me to believe that you have been pissed off at this dude for a while. You obviously have come to some conclusions about his behavior based on past experience..........So what are you really angry about?? Because you agreed to be in this douchebags wedding or are you in love with his fiancee?
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08-02-2010, 02:37 AM	#126
vincent Starter Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Independence, MO Casino cash: $10004900	Step 1: Realize your friend is a dick... Step 2: Get your gameface on and try to grab a bridesmaid to take with you in your cab.
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08-02-2010, 02:56 AM	#127
CoMoChief Mahomes Dynasty Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Parts Unknown Casino cash: $7672254	Well, One would assume the Groom would make arrangements for the grooms party to be escorted back to their transportation. Whether you all were going to spend the night there or drive home drunk is another story. He should have at least told you up front that the bus wasn't going to drop them off, at least letting them know before, as opposed to AFTER everyone was already drunk at the reception. Dick move on his part, just sounds like he's un-organized thoughtless idiot.
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08-02-2010, 03:18 AM	#128
Simply Red You Sweetie! Join Date: Sep 2005 Casino cash: $2021206219 VARSITY	you two need to talk, talk THROUGH this. You may need some third party counseling. Nobody likes a dramatic Bridal party.
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08-02-2010, 08:59 PM	#134
KC2004 I'm with stupid ^ Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Small town, Missouri Casino cash: $9877400	I had friends like that.
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