Life GF of 3 years left me yesterday.... - Page 14

Pushead2 · 01-04-2011, 07:55 AM

She's going for her PhD, it takes up a lot of her time & I felt a tad bit neglected. I know it's tough for her as it is but I told her how I felt. She told me in response that she loves me to death but doesn't feel the same about being in love with me anymore.....

I'm still young & I've left a long relationship (4 years) before but this was different. She was more than my gf but my best friend too.....I was planning on proposing to her later this year but that's clearly out the window.

I'm getting 50/50 opinions from people on if I should just let her be & move on or fight for the girl I love / my best friend. She was all torn up hysterically crying last night when the conversation was going on.....Don't know, felt like I needed to air it out to a different crowd than my friends. What y'all think?

JD10367 · 01-04-2011, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Donger

I don't agree. I would argue that most, if not all, women require drama. Obviously with varying levels from a lot to a little, but I've never known one who was fine with none. Women are CONSTANTLY thinking and/or worrying about things. I don't understand it (and don't really want to), but to ignore it is folly.

Whatever works for you, I guess. I prefer relationships where I don't act like "a bit of an ass" or give my woman "drama", and get neither in return.

ClevelandBronco · 01-04-2011, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Donger

Boys, it really isn't that hard. Most females want you to be just like her best friend, with a penis.

The "with a penis" part only applies before the third child.

JD10367 · 01-04-2011, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by tooge

What he said! CP is slacking.

Not really. He didn't bother with a pic because he knew it would only generate 78 "PIIHB" responses.

**DaKCMan AP** · 01-04-2011, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by tooge

What he said! CP is slacking.

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tooge · 01-04-2011, 03:26 PM

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Originally Posted by JD10367

Not really. He didn't bother with a pic because he knew it would only generate 78 "PIIHB" responses.

Yeah, but if he can't have her, then he might as well supply some of his, lets say, off (see meat dragon, billay), CP pals with whack off material.

NaptownChief · 01-04-2011, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by JD10367

Quite possibly the stupidest thing I've read on the Internet, and that's saying something. A long-term permanent relationship is supposed to be about love. Love is not about "being a bit of an ass" under any circumstances.

Sorry to break it to you but there are a ton of things in life that should be simple and straight forward but they aren't.....and women prime among them.

Relationships and marriages are also supposed to be about trust, honesty and fidelity as well. However I hate to inform you that those that are bored and without the spark that comes from a little drama are on Myspace and Facebook trying to get guys they knew from college and high school like me to roll them around in the rack while their husbands and boyfriends aren't looking.

So assuming your wife/girlfriend is still attractive and desirable I recommend you get a little more in tune with reality instead of what is "supposed to be" unless you want to be tasting some other guys junk when you give her a kiss.

**Iowanian** · 01-04-2011, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Comanche

Sorry I haven't quoted any of your mancrushes from Jersey Shore. "Yo, Pauly D, aks her if she is DTF (scratch, scratch in the groin area)?"

You seem to know a lot about shows douchebags watch that I never have.

01-04-2011, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP

Post #63

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pics or it didn't happen

That doesn't count.

JD10367 · 01-04-2011, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by NaptownChief

Sorry to break it to you but there are a ton of things in life that should be simple and straight forward but they aren't.....and women prime among them.

Relationships and marriages are also supposed to be about trust, honesty and fidelity as well. However I hate to inform you that those that are bored and without the spark that comes from a little drama are on Myspace and Facebook trying to get guys they knew from college and high school like me to roll them around in the rack while their husbands and boyfriends aren't looking.

So assuming your wife/girlfriend is still attractive and desirable I recommend you get a little more in tune with reality instead of what is "supposed to be" unless you want to be tasting some other guys junk when you give her a kiss.

I think that says more about you, and those two-timers, than it does about me, but thanks anyway.

**dirk digler** · 01-04-2011, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Pushead2

not away a lot with hockey...She doesn't hang out on week nights anymore because she's either grading papers or she is writing papers to be published.
In the first two years she use to travel with me because she loves seeing new cities. Once the PhD came into play it was a done deal,

I spoke to her today to air some things out, it was a good productive talk. She never lied or hid anything from me & vice versa. She told me "I wish it was another man, it would be easier for both of us....." She feels that we were both too different of people & feels guilty for making me try to be someone I wasn't.

Sorry to hear that but what happened is a lot better than being cheated on.

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Originally Posted by Pushead2

I'm afraid it's over & damage is done....

What damage did you do?

**gblowfish** · 01-04-2011, 03:51 PM

I'm glad I'm too old for all this "social networking" stuff. Dating was hard enough back in the 1970s and 1980s, before cell phones, and Twitter and Facebook and internet dating and such.

We did have answering machines. So you could screen your calls. But elsewise, you had to communicate face to face with a girl.

I had one girlfriend for all four years of undergrad time, and second one for three years during Master's degree chase. Both have been married for years and have their own kids in college now.

I turned out just fine, thanks to the lovely Mrs. Blowfish.
Thanks Mrs. Blowfish!

I know I sound like the Grumpy Old Man from SNL...

"We only had answering machines and no fancy schmantzy IPhones, but we wrote letters by hand and walked them to the mail box and we LOVED IT!!!!"

Also you could have a slump buster if you needed it, and didn't have to worry about anything worse than the clap or crabs -or pregnancy. World is a much more dangerous place for loose sex now.

01-04-2011, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by dirk digler

Sorry to hear that but what happened is a lot better than being cheated on.

Yeah. No doubt. Infidelity leaves the jilted party with trust issues and unresolved anger - years later. But, I don't really know too much about that.

JD10367 · 01-04-2011, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

Yeah. No doubt. Infidelity leaves the jilted party with trust issues and unresolved anger - years later. But, I don't really know too much about that.

Dude, you just crushed your mouse with your right hand.

**dirk digler** · 01-04-2011, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

Yeah. No doubt. Infidelity leaves the jilted party with trust issues and unresolved anger - years later. But, I don't really know too much about that.

No kidding. It also destroys families and I feel my daughter is paying a huge price for it.

R8RFAN · 01-04-2011, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Pawnmower

THIS^^^^^^

If she is gonna get hysterical for you telling her that you're feeling a little neglected than what would happen when some way more intense life problems occur....?

You feeling neglected could even be a sign of realizing she is distancing herself from you. I hate to say this , but her so rapidly wanting to break up after you mentioning feeling neglected could even be a sign she already has found someone else...Someone in her PHD program most likely...A 'friend' of hers.

Take this as a good thing...learn and grow and use this as motivation to hit the gym and find someone who wont give up so easily on you.

You lying sack of shit, you don't even like women

01-04-2011, 07:55 AM
Pushead2 **** off Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: New York Casino cash: $7341882	GF of 3 years left me yesterday.... She's going for her PhD, it takes up a lot of her time & I felt a tad bit neglected. I know it's tough for her as it is but I told her how I felt. She told me in response that she loves me to death but doesn't feel the same about being in love with me anymore..... I'm still young & I've left a long relationship (4 years) before but this was different. She was more than my gf but my best friend too.....I was planning on proposing to her later this year but that's clearly out the window. I'm getting 50/50 opinions from people on if I should just let her be & move on or fight for the girl I love / my best friend. She was all torn up hysterically crying last night when the conversation was going on.....Don't know, felt like I needed to air it out to a different crowd than my friends. What y'all think?
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01-04-2011, 03:51 PM	#206
gblowfish Be Kind To Your Pets Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Glorious Independence, MO Casino cash: $17666178 VARSITY	I'm glad I'm too old for all this "social networking" stuff. Dating was hard enough back in the 1970s and 1980s, before cell phones, and Twitter and Facebook and internet dating and such. We did have answering machines. So you could screen your calls. But elsewise, you had to communicate face to face with a girl. I had one girlfriend for all four years of undergrad time, and second one for three years during Master's degree chase. Both have been married for years and have their own kids in college now. I turned out just fine, thanks to the lovely Mrs. Blowfish. Thanks Mrs. Blowfish! I know I sound like the Grumpy Old Man from SNL... "We only had answering machines and no fancy schmantzy IPhones, but we wrote letters by hand and walked them to the mail box and we LOVED IT!!!!" Also you could have a slump buster if you needed it, and didn't have to worry about anything worse than the clap or crabs -or pregnancy. World is a much more dangerous place for loose sex now.
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