Life New Dating Megathread - Page 24

**Buck** · 03-03-2013, 12:50 PM

Luv's old thread is in the HOC for being too big.

Post all your dating questions, comments, concerns, advice, and scrutiny in here!

Valiant · 03-27-2013, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Ecto-I

Ok...gonna throw this out there.

In my 29 years of life I've either been the guy that casually dates a lot of girls, but when I get into a relationship, its VERY fast. Like my last GF and I spent every day together after our first date.

So now, I've been dating a girl for about 3.5 weeks. We see each other like once or sometimes twice per week. We had sex for the first time last week. Now I really like this chick so I'm thinking "Yay! Ecto will get to see her like a lot more than once or twice per week!"

Au Contraire. She's still a bit aloof and confining me to the 1-2 hangouts per. So here's my question....

What is normal dating frequency for a 3.5 week relationship and for how long? I'm obviously used to very fast relationships which may not be normal or healthy which is why this feels soooo slow for me!

That seems normal for a chick that knows what she wants.. If you want to surprise her and she gets defensive, then shes banging some other dude at the same time.. But more then likely she is moving it slow.. If you would of knocked her socks off, then she would of increased it.. ;D

Valiant · 03-27-2013, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

I'm currently smitten over a guy I've gone out with a couple of times. However, he's unsure about dating. He hasn't been divorced that long, he has his kids half the time, he works a couple of part time jobs while he finishes school (like me, he went back later in life). I have no clue how he feels about me. He's so busy, and he's rediscovering himself and readjusting his priorities. I try not to read much into him not having time to see me, but, at the same time, I wish he was ready to make a little more time. I don't want to push it though.

I am sorry Luv, but if he likes you, he would let you know at this point. Seems to me if what you have said is all true, you are a convenience date.. Ask him on a date for the weekend or a weekday a few days in advance and see what happens. You fail 100% the time if you do not try.

ThaVirus · 03-27-2013, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Valiant

But more then likely she is moving it slow.. If you would of knocked her socks off, then she would of increased it.. ;D

Heh, there's probably some truth to this.

But I'm not sure, honestly. I've known people in relationships that seem to spend every waking moment together. I've never been in one of those relationships. I like my own space.

Ecto-I · 03-27-2013, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Valiant

That seems normal for a chick that knows what she wants.. If you want to surprise her and she gets defensive, then shes banging some other dude at the same time.. But more then likely she is moving it slow.. If you would of knocked her socks off, then she would of increased it.. ;D

Ha...this is definitely TMI, but on the orgasm ratio, it was like 3 to 1 me to her...(or more accurately, 6:2

)

ThaVirus · 03-27-2013, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Ecto-I

Ha...this is definitely TMI, but on the orgasm ratio, it was like 3 to 1 me to her...(or more accurately, 6:2

)

Took three tries to get her the big O?

Ya gotta work on your stamina, breh!

Ecto-I · 03-27-2013, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Dave Lane

Yeah sorry there sparky, you are obviously quite young. In my 20s and 30s I believed such things. All of this is false, women are attracted to status real or perceived. And on the sex side women like to bone more than men.

They are just smart enough not to show it.

You're right that women are attracted to status...ANY kind of status. If you act like a leader, thats status. If you have a lot of friends, that's status. Not necessarily monetary status.

BUT, there are far more attraction triggers than status...personality, sense of humor, good looks, long schlong, success in anything etc.

ThaVirus · 03-27-2013, 04:47 PM

Jk, of course. It's usually pretty tough to get a chick to "finish" the first time around. You have no idea what the **** they like so you're at a pretty legitimate disadvantage.

Ecto-I · 03-27-2013, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by ThaVirus

Took three tries to get her the big O?

Ya gotta work on your stamina, breh!

Either that or my technique!

ThaVirus · 03-27-2013, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Ecto-I

Either that or my technique!

I applaud you for being able to go 3 rounds in the first place. After I get mine I'm usually about ready to pass out

That's why I gotta get it right the first time.

Ecto-I · 03-27-2013, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Buck

Ecto, are you the guy who drives that car around in San Diego? I've seen it in La Mesa a few times.

I WISH. I just like the movie. I pick up chicks my showing them my hawt '05 Toyota Corolla and they just my bones immediately.

keg in kc · 03-27-2013, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Ecto-I

You're right that women are attracted to status...ANY kind of status. If you act like a leader, thats status. If you have a lot of friends, that's status. Not necessarily monetary status.

BUT, there are far more attraction triggers than status...personality, sense of humor, good looks, long schlong, success in anything etc.

Many of those "attraction triggers", however, require you to be close enough to them for those attributes to be notable. And it requires status, real or perceived, to get there.

Like, being a nice guy with a great sense of humor and an anaconda wrapped around your waist doesn't matter if you're socially awkward/inept or if you aren't able to project confidence.

ThaVirus · 03-27-2013, 04:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Dave Lane

Yeah sorry there sparky, you are obviously quite young. In my 20s and 30s I believed such things. All of this is false, women are attracted to status real or perceived. And on the sex side women like to bone more than men.

They are just smart enough not to show it.

I think its tough to say. All women are different, but unlike men, they seem to have a wider range of things they look for in a guy. In general, I feel like most dudes just want the hottest chick they can get. Of course that's a huge generalization and no one wants to be locked down with a super hot idiot for the rest of their life (or do they??), but I think most would agree that physical attraction is probably the most important thing for men.

Women, on the other hand, like nice things and security. That's why the guys with the good job, nice cars, and nice clothes can bag chicks most would consider "out of their league". But women also look for physical attraction. I know waayyyyyy too many bums (jobless, carless) that are considered studs who get loads of pussy just because girls think they look good.

**Buck** · 03-27-2013, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by ThaVirus

Jk, of course. It's usually pretty tough to get a chick to "finish" the first time around. You have no idea what the **** they like so you're at a pretty legitimate disadvantage.

Getting back to the Jar game that I played the other night with her, one of the questions is "What is your favorite position?"

My answer was Cowgirl because of the amazing view and how great it feels.

Her answer was Missionary because it's the easiest for her to cum. Her words exactly

At least I know right away.

**Buck** · 03-27-2013, 05:46 PM

I am horrible on the phone and with texts. Very short, give a lot of one word answers.

When she texts me, it makes me feel amazing, and I wanted to do that with her, so I thought long and hard and sent a text that I thought she would like.

She replied that I was sweet. 10 minutes later she replied that she wanted to see me on Friday.

I guess it worked.

**The Franchise** · 03-27-2013, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Buck

I am horrible on the phone and with texts. Very short, give a lot of one word answers.

When she texts me, it makes me feel amazing, and I wanted to do that with her, so I thought long and hard and sent a text that I thought she would like.

She replied that I was sweet. 10 minutes later she replied that she wanted to see me on Friday.

I guess it worked.

When should I expect to receive a wedding invitation?

Oh....and FTR.....I better ****ing get one when it actually goes down.

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ThaVirus 20 Menthol KOOLs Join Date: Sep 2007 Casino cash: $2022369	Jk, of course. It's usually pretty tough to get a chick to "finish" the first time around. You have no idea what the **** they like so you're at a pretty legitimate disadvantage.
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Buck Take a Chill Pill Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: South Carolina Casino cash: $8319900	I am horrible on the phone and with texts. Very short, give a lot of one word answers. When she texts me, it makes me feel amazing, and I wanted to do that with her, so I thought long and hard and sent a text that I thought she would like. She replied that I was sweet. 10 minutes later she replied that she wanted to see me on Friday. I guess it worked.
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