Online flirting

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Clint in Wichita

My original post just asked for the others' opinions on online flirting.

I don't know why any of my personal information would be relevant.

Because it's the only thing that is relevant and is why you posted this thread and everybody knows it. You want to make it a non-personal issue to feel more comfortable OK. Bottom line is the woman who has a man upset because she flirts online owns him and she knows it. The problem isn't the computer or the guys online either. The problem comes down to being owned and the women becoming board with her relationship because of it. The chase is over she already has his papers. Where is the excitement there? Many guys don't know this but ask a woman and if she is honest will tell you this is the absolute truth. In a relationship it is the womans job to take control of the relationship and it is the mans job to make sure that never takes place. The reason for this is if she ever takes control and he lets her she loses attraction BIG TIME. Women want what they can't have or a least something that still remains a challenge. She may still stay in the relationship but it's not a relationship worth having IMO. The question isn't whether you personally think it is right or wrong. The question is what are you going to do about it? Bitching to all your buddies on the BB she posts on isn't going to do it rest assured. That is a total wussy move and if there is anything in the world more unattractive to a woman than being a wussyman I don't know what it is. Maybe some guy that smells funny or something. I could tell you what to do but you probably wouldn't listen, you never have before.

[Katipan]

Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY

The problem comes down to being owned and the women becoming board with her relationship because of it. The chase is over she already has his papers. Where is the excitement there? Many guys don't know this but ask a woman and if she is honest will tell you this is the absolute truth. In a relationship it is the womans job to take control of the relationship and it is the mans job to make sure that never takes place. The reason for this is if she ever takes control and he lets her she loses attraction BIG TIME. Women want what they can't have or a least something that still remains a challenge. She may still stay in the relationship but it's not a relationship worth having IMO.

It's so sickeningly true.

I don't know why men date us.

[Lurch]

Originally Posted by Mer

It's so sickeningly true.

I don't know why men date us.

Two words: Keegle excercises

They keep us coming back.

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Mer

It's so sickeningly true.

I don't know why men date us.

I don't know what I'm talking about though just ask Clint. You will find him bitching on a sports BB about his wifes flirting behavior.

No matter how much a man loves his women he has to be ready to leave that relationship rather than lose control at any time if he wants it to be a good one. It's not like women I have been with over the years have not crossed the line. Instead of bitching about it to her and having a fight and acting all jealous thereby losing all power in the relationship I chose to go another direction, exactly the opposite of what you would expect. Without getting jealous at all I just told her I thought she should hook up with that guy. I told her how hot he was and said I would want to **** him if I was a woman and left it at that. I gotta tell you it worked wonderfully. "I love you. I want to be with you. Stop it that's not funny" type of reactions followed by the hug that announces to whoever the other guy is that she has no intention of wandering.

[Clint in Wichita]

Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY

I don't know what I'm talking about though just ask Clint. You will find him bitching on a sports BB about his wifes flirting behavior.

No matter how much a man loves his women he has to be ready to leave that relationship rather than lose control at any time if he wants it to be a good one. It's not like women I have been with over the years have not crossed the line. Instead of bitching about it to her and having a fight and acting all jealous thereby losing all power in the relationship I chose to go another direction, exactly the opposite of what you would expect. Without getting jealous at all I just told her I thought she should hook up with that guy. I told her how hot he was and said I would want to **** him if I was a woman and left it at that. I gotta tell you it worked wonderfully. "I love you. I want to be with you. Stop it that's not funny" type of reactions followed by the hug that announces to whoever the other guy is that she has no intention of wandering.

So, she fed you a line like, "I love you, I want to be with you" and you ate it up.

Who's the bitch again?

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Clint in Wichita

So, she fed you a line like, "I love you, I want to be with you" and you ate it up.

Who's the bitch again?

I let her have slack if I didn't she wouldn't do it. At the end of the night she is always coming home with me. If she cheats she's gone. It's real simple I don't feel the need to piss on my territory to mark it. She knows if if we break up it will take me no time to go out and get another woman who is hot and I will. She knows all my past girlfriends have been bi too so I will find another. I gotta tell you I feel more secure in our relationship than the great majority of people we know. I am WAY more secure in ours that you are in yours. Who's approach is working better? Call me a bitch all you want.

[Clint in Wichita]

Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY

I let her have slack if I didn't she wouldn't do it. At the end of the night she is always coming home with me. If she cheats she's gone. It's real simple I don't feel the need to piss on my territory to mark it. She knows if if we break up it will take me no time to go out and get another woman who is hot and I will. She knows all my past girlfriends have been bi too so I will find another. I gotta tell you I feel more secure in our relationship than the great majority of people we know. I am WAY more secure in ours that you are in yours. Who's approach is working better? Call me a bitch all you want.

Which brings us back to the original topic. What constitutes cheating in your book?

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Clint in Wichita

Which brings us back to the original topic. What constitutes cheating in your book?

OK specifics. Cheating is sex specifically. What is going too far? Groping on each other, kissing, blowjobs, sex. Specific enough?

[Clint in Wichita]

Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY

Because it's the only thing that is relevant and is why you posted this thread and everybody knows it. You want to make it a non-personal issue to feel more comfortable OK. Bottom line is the woman who has a man upset because she flirts online owns him and she knows it. The problem isn't the computer or the guys online either. The problem comes down to being owned and the women becoming board with her relationship because of it. The chase is over she already has his papers. Where is the excitement there? Many guys don't know this but ask a woman and if she is honest will tell you this is the absolute truth. In a relationship it is the womans job to take control of the relationship and it is the mans job to make sure that never takes place. The reason for this is if she ever takes control and he lets her she loses attraction BIG TIME. Women want what they can't have or a least something that still remains a challenge. She may still stay in the relationship but it's not a relationship worth having IMO. The question isn't whether you personally think it is right or wrong. The question is what are you going to do about it? Bitching to all your buddies on the BB she posts on isn't going to do it rest assured. That is a total wussy move and if there is anything in the world more unattractive to a woman than being a wussyman I don't know what it is. Maybe some guy that smells funny or something. I could tell you what to do but you probably wouldn't listen, you never have before.

Women (men too) who need a "chase" simply need to grow up.

BTW, I never did get your opinion on online flirting...

[Lurch]

Is this your way of telling us to leave Red alone? If so, just come out and say, "Guys, I don't appreciate ya'all messing with Red." That would be preferable to beating around the bush about it. Of course, that would likely only increase the "flirting," heh.

[Clint in Wichita]

Originally Posted by Lurch

Is this your way of telling us to leave Red alone? If so, just come out and say, "Guys, I don't appreciate ya'all messing with Red." That would be preferable to beating around the bush about it.

Not at all.

If that's what I wanted to say, believe me, I'd say it.

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Clint in Wichita

Women (men too) who need a "chase" simply need to grow up.

BTW, I never did get your opinion on online flirting...

Online flirting, going in a club flirting whatever. I give lil momma a lot of slack. She can do what she wants within reason. Fortunately she likes women at least as much as men so she is usually flirting with them. I can do what I want though and do. It's worked for a long time but I have to admit it's not for everyone. Most people are not secure enough to be like that.

[Taco John]

Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY

Online flirting, going in a club flirting whatever. I give lil momma a lot of slack. She can do what she wants within reason. Fortunately she likes women at least as much as men so she is usually flirting with them. I can do what I want though and do. It's worked for a long time but I have to admit it's not for everyone. Most people are not secure enough to be like that.

I don't get it... You're allowed to cheat on her, but she's not allowed to cheat on you?

[patteeu]

Originally Posted by Taco John

I don't get it... You're allowed to cheat on her, but she's not allowed to cheat on you?

Only with men.

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Taco John

I don't get it... You're allowed to cheat on her, but she's not allowed to cheat on you?

We went out this weekend and I was dancing with different girls, she doesn't care that I spend time with them or hang out. Of course I don't cheat on her unless you consider having sex with another women in a threesome as cheating.