Misc Got a visit from Child Welfare services last Friday. - Page 2

**TimBone** · 08-11-2014, 03:44 PM

My wife and I both work evenings. When we arrived home from work Friday night, there was a letter on the door saying that Child welfare URGENTLY needed to meet with us. This was extremely odd. We have one son, that is 2 1/2 years old, and I consider him to be taken care of very well. I immediately went into panic mode, as I assume a lot of parents would. I do spank the kid when necessary and use time out with it. Never hard spankings, though. Just enough to get the message through.

So, I ask my wife if he's had any weird bruises(I assume all young kids get a lot of bruises because kids are a bit reckless on their own). She say no.

I next start to worry if some random weirdo driving by didn't like something I was doing in the yard with the kid. Our driveway is off of a highway, but the house sits back about 200 yards. He is outside working with me a lot. He loves riding the mower, so we do that quite often. Sometimes it's spur of the moment, so he's not always wearing his ear protection. We also check the mail with the mower which requires driving right up to the highway. I always make sure there's not even any cars in sight though, so that there's no danger. Anyways, I started nit picking stuff like that to see if there was any way some random asshole reported us as they drove by.

I also worried that maybe the babysitter was under investigation. Maybe he was being harmed there. Lots of crazy shit went through my head.

Like I said, we got this notice on Friday night. Their offices are closed until Monday. We were left to worry about this all weekend.

I called them first thing this morning. The lady who left the note was out in the field, and she didn't call back until 1:30 this afternoon. She casually explained to me that they put the notice on the wrong house.

I was relieved and pissed off all at the same time. I calmly explained to her the worry that note caused and that maybe they should create a policy of not leaving those kinds of notes on the doors of people on Friday afternoons if they have yet to have any initial contact with those people. If it's someone who already knows there is an investigation going, then fine, leave a notice if you want. But leaving us that note left us on the dark and worrying for 72 hours.

Am I crazy for suggesting that?

sedated · 08-11-2014, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Count Zarth

The Royals should be sued for child endangerment...thousands of children in the KC metro area going to be depressed come playoff time.

Most children in the KC area barely even know who the Royals are.

rtmike · 08-11-2014, 03:55 PM

Our daughter was in 1st or 2nd grade, can't remember.

She had a bruise on her arm that none of us knew where she got. She showed it to me & I asked her if it hurt. She adamantly said NO. So being the ornery person I am I pushed on it a little & asked if it hurt now.

Anyhoots she went to school & in the process of telling her teacher it was understood that I was responsible. It wasn't long & we got the dreaded call from Child Protective Services. Embarrassed & pissed at the same time.
She laughed it off & I learned a valuable lesson.

_________________________________________

I'm a worry wart anyways so if I got a letter on a Friday afternoon, I'd be a nutcase by Sunday. That's messed up. I feel you were in the right to say what you did...absolutely.

**TimBone** · 08-11-2014, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by rtmike

Our daughter was in 1st or 2nd grade, can't remember.

She had a bruise on her arm that none of us knew where she got. She showed it to me & I asked her if it hurt. She adamantly said NO. So being the ornery person I am I pushed on it a little & asked if it hurt now.

Anyhoots she went to school & in the process of telling her teacher it was understood that I was responsible. It wasn't long & we got the dreaded call from Child Protective Services. Embarrassed & pissed at the same time.
She laughed it off & I learned a valuable lesson.

_________________________________________

I'm a worry wart anyways so if I got a letter on a Friday afternoon, I'd be a nutcase by Sunday. That's messed up. I feel you were in the right to say what you did...absolutely.

Glad you understand. It's crazy how easy it is to end up being investigated, especially if they're getting the story from the child, like in your case. I understand they have to investigate though.

Side note: through this situation, I found out my mom had been reported for abuse twice while my sister and I were very young. It was by her ex - husband though and the cases went nowhere.

Deberg_1990 · 08-11-2014, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Sandy Cheeks

you spank your 2 1/2 yr old????

Reported to Child welfare

Sandy Vagina · 08-11-2014, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Deberg_1990

Reported to CPS

yep.. +1

BucEyedPea · 08-11-2014, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Flybone McTimmerson

Am I crazy for suggesting that?

No. It created unnecessary anxiety. They're incompetent boobs.

**TimBone** · 08-11-2014, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Deberg_1990

Reported to Child welfare

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Originally Posted by Sandy Cheeks

yep.. +1

Meh...it's old hat, now.

NewChief · 08-11-2014, 04:02 PM

Speaking of nightmare CPS incidents, the following happened to some good friends of mine:

First of all: this couple have their shit together. They're great, compassionate parents with good jobs. They have a special needs son who is their world and they're extremely active in being activists for him and making sure that he has a great life. They also have two other children.

So here's what happened. Their special needs son has an iPad that is, unknowingly to them, set up with their imessaging because it's on their apple account. He's at school working with the iPad. The couple are texting back and forth on their phones using imessage. They're discussing their marijuana useage in texts and actually talking about ceasing smoking marijuana altogether. Their son's paraprofessional sees the messages on the iPad (due to the fact it's synced, unbeknowest to them, to their iMessaging) and turns it over to CPS. Their lives have been a living hell for the last 6 months as a result of the incident. They're actually moving back here because of it as their lives in the State in which they live have been irreparably damaged as a result.

I don't really hold the paraprofessional to blame, as s/he is a mandated reporter, but damn... be careful with your iMessaging and any of your children's devices which might be linked into your app store account.

Simply Red · 08-11-2014, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Flybone McTimmerson

Yes.

The correct answer was/is - 'You God Damned Right I DO!!'

**TimBone** · 08-11-2014, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by NewChief

Speaking of nightmare CPS incidents, the following happened to some good friends of mine:

First of all: this couple have their shit together. They're great, compassionate parents with good jobs. They have a special needs son who is their world and they're extremely active in being activists for him and making sure that he has a great life. They also have two other children.

So here's what happened. Their special needs son has an iPad that is, unknowingly to them, set up with their imessaging because it's on their apple account. He's at school working with the iPad. The couple are texting back and forth on their phones using imessage. They're discussing their marijuana useage in texts and actually talking about ceasing smoking marijuana altogether. Their son's paraprofessional sees the messages on the iPad (due to the fact it's synced, unbeknowest to them, to their iMessaging) and turns it over to CPS. Their lives have been a living hell for the last 6 months as a result of the incident. They're actually moving back here because of it as their lives in the State in which they live have been irreparably damaged as a result.

I don't really hold the paraprofessional to blame, as s/he is a mandated reporter, but damn... be careful with your iMessaging and any of your children's devices which might be linked into your app store account.

Damn.......that is crazy.

**TimBone** · 08-11-2014, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Simply Red

The correct answer was/is - 'You God Damned Right I DO!!'

Haha...my bad. I'll get the next one with that. I'm sure more folks will ask.

beach tribe · 08-11-2014, 04:04 PM

Obvious who in this thread has kids, and who don't.

This would ruin my entire weekend, and have my woman frantic until we spoke to them.

Hammock Parties · 08-11-2014, 04:05 PM

Can marijuana users really be responsible parents, though?

What if you're high as **** and the kid needs to go to the hospital?

**TimBone** · 08-11-2014, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by beach tribe

Obvious who in this thread has kids, and who don't.

This would ruin my entire weekend, and have my woman frantic until we spoke to them.

That's pretty much what it did. Surprisingly, my wife was less worried. She's apparently completely confident in every thing she's done with the kid and has the utmost faith in the babysitter.

NewChief · 08-11-2014, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Flybone McTimmerson

Damn.......that is crazy.

What really disturbs me: how many other private messages about other, non-illegal but equally intimate matters, had the school employees seen from the parents without notifying them of the fact that they could see them.

Imagine if some 3rd party was privy to all the texts between you and your spouse? Jeezus.

08-11-2014, 03:44 PM
TimBone Mostly Ignored Join Date: Jul 2013 Casino cash: $8499985	Got a visit from Child Welfare services last Friday. My wife and I both work evenings. When we arrived home from work Friday night, there was a letter on the door saying that Child welfare URGENTLY needed to meet with us. This was extremely odd. We have one son, that is 2 1/2 years old, and I consider him to be taken care of very well. I immediately went into panic mode, as I assume a lot of parents would. I do spank the kid when necessary and use time out with it. Never hard spankings, though. Just enough to get the message through. So, I ask my wife if he's had any weird bruises(I assume all young kids get a lot of bruises because kids are a bit reckless on their own). She say no. I next start to worry if some random weirdo driving by didn't like something I was doing in the yard with the kid. Our driveway is off of a highway, but the house sits back about 200 yards. He is outside working with me a lot. He loves riding the mower, so we do that quite often. Sometimes it's spur of the moment, so he's not always wearing his ear protection. We also check the mail with the mower which requires driving right up to the highway. I always make sure there's not even any cars in sight though, so that there's no danger. Anyways, I started nit picking stuff like that to see if there was any way some random asshole reported us as they drove by. I also worried that maybe the babysitter was under investigation. Maybe he was being harmed there. Lots of crazy shit went through my head. Like I said, we got this notice on Friday night. Their offices are closed until Monday. We were left to worry about this all weekend. I called them first thing this morning. The lady who left the note was out in the field, and she didn't call back until 1:30 this afternoon. She casually explained to me that they put the notice on the wrong house. I was relieved and pissed off all at the same time. I calmly explained to her the worry that note caused and that maybe they should create a policy of not leaving those kinds of notes on the doors of people on Friday afternoons if they have yet to have any initial contact with those people. If it's someone who already knows there is an investigation going, then fine, leave a notice if you want. But leaving us that note left us on the dark and worrying for 72 hours. Am I crazy for suggesting that?
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rtmike union paraplegic organizer Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: western Kansas Casino cash: $9094600	Our daughter was in 1st or 2nd grade, can't remember. She had a bruise on her arm that none of us knew where she got. She showed it to me & I asked her if it hurt. She adamantly said NO. So being the ornery person I am I pushed on it a little & asked if it hurt now. Anyhoots she went to school & in the process of telling her teacher it was understood that I was responsible. It wasn't long & we got the dreaded call from Child Protective Services. Embarrassed & pissed at the same time. She laughed it off & I learned a valuable lesson. _________________________________________ I'm a worry wart anyways so if I got a letter on a Friday afternoon, I'd be a nutcase by Sunday. That's messed up. I feel you were in the right to say what you did...absolutely. __________________ I like to sleep For I'm walking in my dreams. Live life like every DAY is your last!
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NewChief In Search of a Life Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Fayetteville, AR Casino cash: $9580204	Speaking of nightmare CPS incidents, the following happened to some good friends of mine: First of all: this couple have their shit together. They're great, compassionate parents with good jobs. They have a special needs son who is their world and they're extremely active in being activists for him and making sure that he has a great life. They also have two other children. So here's what happened. Their special needs son has an iPad that is, unknowingly to them, set up with their imessaging because it's on their apple account. He's at school working with the iPad. The couple are texting back and forth on their phones using imessage. They're discussing their marijuana useage in texts and actually talking about ceasing smoking marijuana altogether. Their son's paraprofessional sees the messages on the iPad (due to the fact it's synced, unbeknowest to them, to their iMessaging) and turns it over to CPS. Their lives have been a living hell for the last 6 months as a result of the incident. They're actually moving back here because of it as their lives in the State in which they live have been irreparably damaged as a result. I don't really hold the paraprofessional to blame, as s/he is a mandated reporter, but damn... be careful with your iMessaging and any of your children's devices which might be linked into your app store account. __________________ In this world of sin and sorrow there is always something to be thankful for; as for me, I rejoice that I am not a Republican. - H. L. Mencken
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08-11-2014, 04:05 PM	#28
Hammock Parties I'll be back. Join Date: Nov 2002 Casino cash: $4380478	Can marijuana users really be responsible parents, though? What if you're high as **** and the kid needs to go to the hospital?
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