Why Monogamy is Ridiculous

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Originally Posted by SportsRacer

I think Dan Savage's point isn't that the world should be a free-for-all ****fest. What he's really saying is that people in monogamous relationships should be more open with their partners about their needs and whether they're being fulfilled, and whether it's necessary for either partner to search for solutions to those needs outside of the relationship. If people in marriages were more open about stuff like who they're attracted to and whether they have had a desire to "cheat" -- and more importantly, if people kept an open mind when being told about these things, keeping in mind the fact that monogamy isn't a natural state -- then the marriages would last longer and end up stronger in the long run. It's ultimately about communication.

Great observation, and a very good point. Couples are too afraid to show their true feelings and to talk about it. Talking about cheating is usually the final nail in the coffin. The partner that fesses up they have a desire to cheat is usually put on surveillance. If only things were so simple.