New Dating Megathread

[Buck]

Luv's old thread is in the HOC for being too big.

Post all your dating questions, comments, concerns, advice, and scrutiny in here!

[HoneyBadger]

Originally Posted by Canofbier

Had a second date with a pretty cool girl tonight. I cooked her a fancy dinner and we watched Little Shop of Horrors huddled under a blanket. Romantic shit, right?

The interesting part: we met on Match, and it's tricky to convince someone to quit paying attention to/responding to all of the propositions she's getting. I'm thinking that I'll bring up the item of exclusivity next time around; three dates seems like a good deciding point, no?

Just block her and tell her you deleted your account. She'll delete hers if she's serious about you.

[Eureka]

Originally Posted by Canofbier

Had a second date with a pretty cool girl tonight. I cooked her a fancy dinner and we watched Little Shop of Horrors huddled under a blanket. Romantic shit, right?

The interesting part: we met on Match, and it's tricky to convince someone to quit paying attention to/responding to all of the propositions she's getting. I'm thinking that I'll bring up the item of exclusivity next time around; three dates seems like a good deciding point, no?

I think this is a bad idea. You're being NICE and you know how that can finish. Try to make her think it was her idea of being exclusive.

By all means continue to date other chicks. Can you see when she's last logged into match?

[Canofbier]

Originally Posted by HoneyBadger

Just block her and tell her you deleted your account. She'll delete hers if she's serious about you.

That might work, but I'm not really into mind games.

Originally Posted by Eureka

I think this is a bad idea. You're being NICE and you know how that can finish. Try to make her think it was her idea of being exclusive.

By all means continue to date other chicks. Can you see when she's last logged into match?

I know for a fact she's still active on the site, because I am too. Again, I'm not into playing mind games. I'm thinking that I'll just lay it out like it is: I like her a lot, and I'd be interested in making things exclusive (and shutting down the Match accounts). If she's not interested, there will be plenty who are, and I won't wait for her. That's the truth, and if it's not enough to motivate her, then I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with her after all.

[SPchief]

Exclusive after 2 dates?

[Discuss Thrower]

Disabled OKC a minute ago. There has been a backslide of talent that even I can't look past.

[Titty Meat]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

Disabled OKC a minute ago. There has been a backslide of talent that even I can't look past.

That's too bad. I've been talking to a 45 year old from there.

[Canofbier]

Originally Posted by SPchief

Exclusive after 2 dates?

Three, technically. Call me selfish, but I don't like to share women. Unless it's clearly a one-night stand or a casual thing, I'm not going to be interested for very long if I'm just one horse in a stable. I've got a lot more to offer than most of these schmucks, anyhow, so I feel pretty justified.

[HoneyBadger]

Dude dont. You'll freak her out. Dating is all about games. How else will you know who's winning?

[Eureka]

"You play to win the game"

[Discuss Thrower]

Originally Posted by HoneyBadger

Dude dont. You'll freak her out. Dating is all about games. How else will you know who's winning?

Agreed. More experienced folk, tell me if this maxim is wrong:

"Less available but stay attainable"

[keg in kc]

And folks wonder why the divorce rate is so high.

[Eureka]

Originally Posted by keg in kc

And folks wonder why the divorce rate is so high.

Women's lib

[DaKCMan AP]

Originally Posted by Canofbier

Had a second date with a pretty cool girl tonight. I cooked her a fancy dinner and we watched Little Shop of Horrors huddled under a blanket. Romantic shit, right?

The interesting part: we met on Match, and it's tricky to convince someone to quit paying attention to/responding to all of the propositions she's getting. I'm thinking that I'll bring up the item of exclusivity next time around; three dates seems like a good deciding point, no?

Originally Posted by Canofbier

That might work, but I'm not really into mind games.



I know for a fact she's still active on the site, because I am too. Again, I'm not into playing mind games. I'm thinking that I'll just lay it out like it is: I like her a lot, and I'd be interested in making things exclusive (and shutting down the Match accounts). If she's not interested, there will be plenty who are, and I won't wait for her. That's the truth, and if it's not enough to motivate her, then I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with her after all.

Kudos on the successful date(s) with a cool chick.

However, it's too soon to bring up exclusivity, brah. If she brings it up and you feel the same, fine. However, for you to bring it up after 3 dates is just too early. You may end up pushing her away. Keep doing your thing (you shouldn't be exclusive if she isn't) and let her keep doing hers. If it continues on the right path then you can bring it up at a later date.

For example, I've been talking/dating to a girl for about a month now. We've gone on 3 official dates. There's no way in hell I'm bringing up exclusivity yet (and to be honest, I'm not quite there yet).

If it's right you'll both get there. At less than a month in and 3 dates you don't want to force the issue.

[Aspengc8]

Originally Posted by SPchief

Exclusive after 2 dates?

This.

I would go on more dates and make yourself less available to her. If she is really interested you will know real quick. If she ask's where you've been, be honest and tell her you've been busy and been on a date or two. She will either let you know that she's interested or you won't hear from her again.

[Canofbier]

Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP

Kudos on the successful date(s) with a cool chick.

However, it's too soon to bring up exclusivity, brah. If she brings it up and you feel the same, fine. However, for you to bring it up after 3 dates is just too early. You may end up pushing her away. Keep doing your thing (you shouldn't be exclusive if she isn't) and let her keep doing hers. If it continues on the right path then you can bring it up at a later date.

For example, I've been talking/dating to a girl for about a month now. We've gone on 3 official dates. There's no way in hell I'm bringing up exclusivity yet (and to be honest, I'm not quite there yet).

If it's right you'll both get there. At less than a month in and 3 dates you don't want to force the issue.

Fair enough. I'm going out of town for a bit over a week next Tuesday, so we'll see how she responds to that.