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12-24-2012, 01:06 AM | #16 |
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I don't think you can just pretend you never read that and act like all's well.
Doing that will put everything else she says/does in question. Do approach it cautiously, even with an apology for looking at her texts but just letting her know how hurt you feel. If you come off accusatory in any way, she'll get defensive and focus on you reading her texts. If you share how hurt you are in an "I feel" kind of way, you'll probably fare much better. Just don't make any references to Jovan Belcher during the conversation. |
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12-24-2012, 01:06 AM | #17 |
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Repeat some of the comments made in the text during the family get together. That could be fun.
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12-24-2012, 01:07 AM | #18 |
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oooooo,, this!!!
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12-24-2012, 01:09 AM | #19 |
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I am very poor in relationships. what I would do is not say anything and sit on it. and then I would probably bring up in the next fight at a very inappropriate time.
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12-24-2012, 01:09 AM | #20 |
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You seem blindsided by this, so she's obviously very good at putting up a false front. Which means she's a skilled liar. If she's lying about this, what else is she lying about?
One word of advice, though. Confront her AFTER Christmas. Don't **** up the holiday for your family. Take the high road for another couple of days. |
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12-24-2012, 01:10 AM | #21 |
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Heh. "Remember that one Christmas when Jim Jones had that one girl he was engaged to, and started rambling off all those nasty texts he saw verbatim? What was her name again?"
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12-24-2012, 01:10 AM | #22 |
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Confront her in private. It needs to be done.
What she's said about your family>Her knowing that you read her texts |
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12-24-2012, 01:11 AM | #23 | |
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12-24-2012, 01:13 AM | #25 |
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Good shit guys. Appreciate the thoughts. I've decided I'm definitely going to confront her, but wait until after Christmas. I like the stuff about not being accusatory. My natural inclination would be to become totally accusatory and start bitching her out, but that wouldn't end well. |
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12-24-2012, 01:14 AM | #27 |
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ChiefsPlanet should have an Ann Landers section.
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12-24-2012, 01:16 AM | #30 |
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let's say she goes this Christmas thing and says something that you know is complete BS because you read those messages... I would have a hard time not starting shit right there.
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