Update on my wife... - Page 3

SCChief · 10-25-2005, 04:01 AM

I don't really know where to begin guys.

On Friday night, my wife and a few of her friends and family ambushed me for lack of a better term and took the kids. All of the time I was taking care of her, she was making arrangements to take my kids and leave. Kids that she had really had nothing to do with in a few years. She alleges abusive behavior (all of which my neighbors and friends are going to deny emphatically, and all of which is undocumented and untrue). But... in my own investigation of what happened, I uncovered some pretty surprising facts about my wife's activities over the last few months, as well as the fact that my wife abused both me and the kids. So... I got a lawyer even before she did and I am going for custody. And he is indicating that due to the extenuating circumstances I uncovered, I will win.

That is why I did not post this weekend... I was too heartbroken. I really still am. For two years, I have been the primary caregiver for my children. I cooked, I cleaned, I cared for them when they were sick or hurt, I played with them, helped my oldest with homework, taught my 2-year-old to carry on a conversation with adults... and all my wife has allowed me is to talk to them before they go to bed. My oldest tells me she just wants to come home to me. My youngest doesn't really like to talk on the phone. I look around my house and see the girls' toys that they love, and Morgan's artwork... I have never been hurt so bad.

Even while I am grieving, I am putting the witnesses together to get my children back. I think she underestimated how viciously I would fight for my kids, especially when all one of them can tell me is how she wants to come home to me. It breaks my heart that this has happened, but my girls are all I can think about.

Please pray for me to have the strength to do what is right, and pray for my girls to have the strength to get through this as well. And hell... pray for my wife to have the strength to make it through what is probably going to be a pretty bitter custody dispute. As much as I love her... she could have gone without my kids, and I would have cried, but moved on. But I cannot move on as long as I am being kept from my kids.

StcChief · 10-25-2005, 08:29 AM

Sorry to hear that. Amazes me how things like this repeat in future generations. Hope this doesn't scare the
kids enough, that they will be in the same situation in 20-30 years.... May want to talk to a shrink about how to handle and break this cycle now for you kids sake...

Best of luck. Prayers are with you and yours.

Amnorix · 10-25-2005, 08:39 AM

Best of luck. Sorry to hear about this whole saga.

Amnorix · 10-25-2005, 08:41 AM

I've seen a couple references in this thread to "a stroke". I'm not a doctor, but my understanding is that strokes can cause changes in personality. Not sure if this is at all helpful, but her recent actions might be a result of this.

bkkcoh · 10-25-2005, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by nm_dbf

Sorry to hear that. Amazes me how things like this repeat in future generations. Hope this doesn't scare the
kids enough, that they will be in the same situation in 20-30 years.... May want to talk to a shrink about how to handle and break this cycle now for you kids sake...

Best of luck. Prayers are with you and yours.

but have hope for the future, the cycle can be broke.

patteeu · 10-25-2005, 08:53 AM

Damn. Good luck SCChief. I can't imagine...

htismaqe · 10-25-2005, 08:54 AM

Good luck dude. We're thinking about you.

**ChiTown** · 10-25-2005, 09:03 AM

Can't imagine what you are going though. Best of luck to you, and you have our prayers.

Pat

**KC Dan** · 10-25-2005, 09:14 AM

Good luck to you. I went through the very same thing in SC 12 years ago. Worst time of my life but it all worked out in the end. It always does.

Wrasse · 10-25-2005, 09:19 AM

Best of luck and you and your children will be in my thoughts and prayers.

SCChief · 10-25-2005, 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

I'm trying to do the math, but the sum isn't adding up.

A couple of weeks ago she's "having stroke", now her she and her family accuse you of abuse and take the kids, but she hasn't been around the kids for a long time?

did you knock her out to cause the "stroke symptoms"?

No. Basically, all of her symptoms seem to be guilt-related, cause she has been behind my back for months now. And the more compassion I showed her in her physical state, the more guilty she felt, and the higher her BP went.

**Iowanian** · 10-25-2005, 09:59 AM

So....she was shagging the landscapers, had a mental breakdown over the guilt, while you were caring for her, made it worse...and all the while she was finalizing plans to yank the kids and drop the Big D.

Good luck. Sounds like you'll be better off without the nutjob.

bringbackmarty · 10-25-2005, 10:04 AM

fight fight fight it man. get the best lawyer you can get, and good luck and god bless you and especially those kids.

bringbackmarty · 10-25-2005, 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Chief Henry

Lawyers have to play dirty. It s the way of the world. But if your's doesn't...good luck. I hope things work out for the best for you and your kids.

I wouldn't say that lawyers have to play dirty, but the knowledge that they have of the legal system lends itself easy to abuse. They have such an unfair knowledge of the legal system in some cases over their clients, and they can then make the clients make poor financial decisions.
aw **** it, they are all crooks, they get out of law school and then they're ****in greedy pigs. especially my wife, and she doesn't even have a real job yet.

**ExtremeChief** · 10-25-2005, 10:15 AM

Good luck and God Bless, SC.

Calcountry · 10-25-2005, 10:29 AM

One day at a time, sweet Jesus.....

10-25-2005, 04:01 AM
SCChief Starter Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: South Carolina Casino cash: $10004900	Update on my wife... I don't really know where to begin guys. On Friday night, my wife and a few of her friends and family ambushed me for lack of a better term and took the kids. All of the time I was taking care of her, she was making arrangements to take my kids and leave. Kids that she had really had nothing to do with in a few years. She alleges abusive behavior (all of which my neighbors and friends are going to deny emphatically, and all of which is undocumented and untrue). But... in my own investigation of what happened, I uncovered some pretty surprising facts about my wife's activities over the last few months, as well as the fact that my wife abused both me and the kids. So... I got a lawyer even before she did and I am going for custody. And he is indicating that due to the extenuating circumstances I uncovered, I will win. That is why I did not post this weekend... I was too heartbroken. I really still am. For two years, I have been the primary caregiver for my children. I cooked, I cleaned, I cared for them when they were sick or hurt, I played with them, helped my oldest with homework, taught my 2-year-old to carry on a conversation with adults... and all my wife has allowed me is to talk to them before they go to bed. My oldest tells me she just wants to come home to me. My youngest doesn't really like to talk on the phone. I look around my house and see the girls' toys that they love, and Morgan's artwork... I have never been hurt so bad. Even while I am grieving, I am putting the witnesses together to get my children back. I think she underestimated how viciously I would fight for my kids, especially when all one of them can tell me is how she wants to come home to me. It breaks my heart that this has happened, but my girls are all I can think about. Please pray for me to have the strength to do what is right, and pray for my girls to have the strength to get through this as well. And hell... pray for my wife to have the strength to make it through what is probably going to be a pretty bitter custody dispute. As much as I love her... she could have gone without my kids, and I would have cried, but moved on. But I cannot move on as long as I am being kept from my kids.
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10-25-2005, 08:29 AM	#31
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10-25-2005, 08:39 AM	#32
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10-25-2005, 08:41 AM	#33
Amnorix In BB I trust Join Date: May 2003 Location: Boston, Mass. Casino cash: $10029808	I've seen a couple references in this thread to "a stroke". I'm not a doctor, but my understanding is that strokes can cause changes in personality. Not sure if this is at all helpful, but her recent actions might be a result of this. __________________ "I love signature blocks on the Internet. I get to put whatever the hell I want in quotes, pick a pretend author, and bang, it's like he really said it." George Washington
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10-25-2005, 08:53 AM	#35
patteeu The 23rd Pillar Join Date: Sep 2002 Casino cash: $10019237	Damn. Good luck SCChief. I can't imagine... __________________ “Boy, you all want power. God, I hope you never get it.” - Lindsay Graham
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10-25-2005, 08:54 AM	#36
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10-25-2005, 09:03 AM	#37
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10-25-2005, 09:14 AM	#38
KC Dan Red, White & Blue for the U.S. Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: The Great Northwest now.. Casino cash: $1354235	Good luck to you. I went through the very same thing in SC 12 years ago. Worst time of my life but it all worked out in the end. It always does. __________________ "And if you don't know where you're going Any road will take you there" - George Harrison
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10-25-2005, 09:19 AM	#39
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10-25-2005, 09:59 AM	#41
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $4638454	So....she was shagging the landscapers, had a mental breakdown over the guilt, while you were caring for her, made it worse...and all the while she was finalizing plans to yank the kids and drop the Big D. Good luck. Sounds like you'll be better off without the nutjob.
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10-25-2005, 10:04 AM	#42
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10-25-2005, 10:15 AM	#44
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10-25-2005, 10:29 AM	#45
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