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View Poll Results: Did you seek father's permission/blessing? | |||
Yes, it is a tradition I wanted to keep | 42 | 27.10% | |
Yes, it is a tradition I knew spouse's family wanted to keep | 19 | 12.26% | |
No | 78 | 50.32% | |
I've never proposed | 16 | 10.32% | |
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01-16-2013, 11:51 AM | #1 | |
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01-16-2013, 11:56 AM | #2 |
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I didn't either, until yesterday. I'd never even heard of the Tort of Seduction until then. It wasn't until 1874 that a state (Iowa) allowed a woman to sue her master on her own behalf. Her master (employer) had molested or raped her.
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01-16-2013, 11:38 AM | #3 |
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if you have a daughter do you expect your future son in law to ask you?
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01-16-2013, 11:42 AM | #4 |
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I don't have a daughter right now, so my answer is a bit premature, but no, I wouldn't. I would expect my daughter to have the right goals and values in her life to make her own decision that would align with her happiness. And that's what I would be concerned about.
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01-16-2013, 11:49 AM | #5 | |
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01-16-2013, 12:00 PM | #6 |
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01-16-2013, 11:54 AM | #7 |
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01-16-2013, 11:58 AM | #8 |
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01-16-2013, 11:58 AM | #9 |
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01-16-2013, 11:49 AM | #10 |
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"I'm seeking your blessing for the marriage. I'm also seeking $10,000. Weddings aren't free, newdad." That's the order of the course.
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01-16-2013, 11:49 AM | #11 |
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"Generally it is a nice gesture, assuming your sweetheart is close with her parents and that they are relatively traditional. If they are non-traditional, or you are worried they (or she) might see it as a sexist gesture, simply be careful about the way you phrase it. Rather than asking for their permission, ask for their blessing. Situations where you shouldn't ask include if she is estranged from her parents, if she is an older bride, or if you think her parents will spoil the surprise of your proposal. "
I think we should just club them over the head drag them back to our places and they should be ours again like in the old days... |
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01-16-2013, 11:50 AM | #12 |
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I did because it's the respectable thing to do, and the last thing you want when you are going to spend the rest of your life with a woman, is for her father to think you don't respect him. I expect the same when my daughter is proposed to .
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01-16-2013, 11:51 AM | #13 |
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I didn't, and I don't regret it at all. It didn't feel appropriate at the time. We had been together for 5+ years and I think that us getting married was a bit of a foregone conclusion.
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01-16-2013, 11:57 AM | #14 |
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Dad was already dead and mom loved me so, no worries on the permission front.
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01-16-2013, 11:58 AM | #15 |
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I think it's a sign of respect that you love his daughter, and wnt to spend your life together with her. and in some ways, it's also asking/implying that you want to be a part of their family as well. At least, that's the way I read the Italian way.
I've since learned that her family is WAY big on family/respect. There are just some things that are pretty much a slap in the face if they were not done. They'll do anything for anyone in their family at a drop of a hat - immediate family, cousins, aunts etc. I was married when I was 26 and she was 27. I asked both her mom and step-dad, as well as her dad.
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