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08-20-2008, 11:12 AM | #16 |
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I guess I'm missing something. If he didn't say "I like the hair" would there be a problem?
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Did she just have something dramatically different done to her hair? If so, it wouldn't seem out of place for her to get similar comments from lots of different people.
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I'm not a parent, but I was once a teenage girl, and the story is always the same. You are ten times better off developing your daughter's warning bells and whistles than trying to preempt and protect which I'm sure is any good father's first instinct.
Girls aren't taught to have power in the right way. Everyone has the power to control their own involvement in a situation, and if you approach any situation with all the correct boundaries in place, there is room for those intense relationships with mentors whether male or female. As a father, what you can't count on, is the mentor/ coach being able to set those boundaries all by themself, especially if they are young or haven't been teaching long. Teach your daughter to appreciate and trust a mentor, but to keep it transparent to you or others always. There is never a time when secrets are shared with them that she wouldn't share with you or her best friend. |
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I really wouldn't look too much into it. Now when she starts going over to his house for private lessons, then you need to start worrying.
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People in a position to work with teenagers have to find a way to connect with them. First impressions are important and they know that. If you pay an attractive teenager a compliment about her hair in front of her father that's innocent, IMO. He made a point to do it while you were there - that's a courtesy with which you should not feel threatened. Now if he's doing it while unattended then you have problems.
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Listen to your "bells and whistles" talk to other parents that have had contact with him. Actively practice communication with your daughter.
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this could go a couple of ways, You could actually be one of many that have concerns and prevent or stop something from happening... OR it could be totally false and these comments could ruin the future for this guy, when he is totally innocent. It is a very fine line, I am not sure how I would approach it. My daughter goes to a private Christian school and I have most if not all of her teaches/principles etc on speed dial. So far the school is very very good and nothing likes this has even remotely been an issue. |
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True, but dont start something that isnt true. be coy about your approach and feel out the other parents before you start saying anything... Let someone else insert foot into mouth.
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