need advice with family issue

[Coogs]

Originally Posted by Mile High Mania

Sounds like a good move, but it's a situation that likely won't go away... at some point you'll need to address it in your own way with her and him as well.

This. And again, I would start having things at your house instead of your moms. Then the ball is in her court to come over or not, and you don't look like the bad guy if you don't get together. She isn't going to want to be denied seeing her kids and grandkids for to long IMO before she tosses the dude out.

[Mile High Mania]

Originally Posted by Coogs

This. And again, I would start having things at your house instead of your moms. Then the ball is in her court to come over or not, and you don't look like the bad guy if you don't get together. She isn't going to want to be denied seeing her kids and grandkids for to long IMO before she tosses the dude out.

And, again - if all else fails, what would the Sons of Anarchy do?

[memyselfI]

Don't further isolate your Mom. Domestic violence victims are often isolated and that enables the abuse to continue. She trusted you and now you are using information she gave you in confidence against her.

Show up and back up your words. You can even corner the jackass in private and tell him that there is no way in hell you will allow him to come between you and your mother. You only need to be adult and civil to the jackass. Not warm fuzzy.

Your kids won't be in danger and your Mother deserves to see her grandkids. Just make it clear to her that it's too late to make alternate arrangements for this holiday but for Christmas and next year if her situation is the same then you will be making different plans.