OK,My friend asked me for advise......

[ROYC75]

( Hang with me, long read.... What would you do ? ) ( Scott & Rita ) My friend of 15 years here ( my diesel truck / auto mechanic ) asked me for advise. He has 1 daughter ( Mary ) that has 2 kids, she is 27 years old with 2 girls. He asked me because I have 2 daughters thinking I could give him sound advise on what I would do in this situation.

Mary is going thru a divorce, has 2 girls, 3 and 4 years old. Her husband ( William ) has driven her self esteem way down to thinking she is a loser , a slut, etc. All this time while married, she was faithful and kissed his ass. He cheated on her, often and always wanted to have 3 way sex with her.

Now being seperated, she has gone wild. Parties, smoking weed,letting the girls stay up late,having sex with different men and even letting men sleep on the couch and love seat overnight at times. Scott & Rita was talking to her on the phone while Mary was away from the house, taking one of the guys she hangs with to get a burger. They asked her where the girls were, she told them at home with her friends, meaning 2 male friends.

Scott & Rita was livid....... they went off on Mary for leaving the girls with 2 guys, ages from 23 to 30. So mad that they waited till midnight to go visit her.

Suprise, suprise........ at midnight, they walked into Mary's house without notice to find 2 guys asleep in the front room while she was cleaning the house. OH BOY, Mary was pissed and humilated when Scott & Rita cleared the house out,making the young men go away.

They drilled her left and right, telling her she was setting a bad example for the 2 girls. Naturally, Mary couldn't see this, she felt violated that they showed up without warning, just walking right in. She was 27 , an adult, who can live her own life as she choose's.

The jumped on her for no food in the house, more beer than food. More parties and card games than quality time being spent with the girls.

Again, Mary couldn't see this, she was still humiliated and felt violated. This has been a week now and Mary is not speaking to them.

He asked me if they did the right thing, making a visit. Walking right in without warning.

I told him.... If it was me, damn straight, I would really be pissed if one of my 2 daughters acted like that.

I asked both of my daughters if they thought they were right, 1 said Yes, 1 said No, they should have called her 1st.

What would you do ?

[trndobrd]

Originally Posted by ROYC75

The story goes, the grandparents have offered several times, Mary is sneaky and doesn't want her parents to know what is going on. They actually found out from one of Mary's female friends about her lifestyle.

I feel they have every right to walk in on here and make multiple visits until she comes to her senses. So far the mother/daddy - daughter talks didn't have any effects. So the suprise visit came up..... Now Mary wants to feel violated ?

What about the kids ?

If William finds out ? Now she welcomes his ex ? Smells like a setup to me.

It's their house? They pay the rent? If so, then by all means they should feel free to walk in any time they like. If not, the words we are looking for are 'criminal trespass'. Hope she doesn't call the police the next time the grandparents show up for an 'inspection', Grandma and Grandpa might get to spend the night in jail.

Maybe Mary is upset that her parents believe the friend rather than the daughter and seem to be bent of thinking the worst ("more beer than food, sleeping around, etc.). Maybe she doesn't think very highly of her parents. Maybe the friend is jealous and wanting to cause trouble. Who knows?

[milkman]

OK Roy, the answer to your question, or your friends question is in the answer to this question.

What would Rich Scanlon do?

[ROYC75]

Originally Posted by trndobrd

It's their house? They pay the rent? If so, then by all means they should feel free to walk in any time they like. If not, the words we are looking for are 'criminal trespass'. Hope she doesn't call the police the next time the grandparents show up for an 'inspection', Grandma and Grandpa might get to spend the night in jail.

Maybe Mary is upset that her parents believe the friend rather than the daughter and seem to be bent of thinking the worst ("more beer than food, sleeping around, etc.). Maybe she doesn't think very highly of her parents. Maybe the friend is jealous and wanting to cause trouble. Who knows?

According to Scott & Rita, Mary and one of the men present admitted to the beer,the sex and the pot. They admitted to many nights of sleep overs. These men only live less than 100 feet away from mary's house.

The 2 girls talk about them stay over, wait till there daddy finds theis crap out.

IMHO,If Mary wants to act like an inmature adult with an alternate lifestyle, let the grandparent have the kids. They have offered several times to keep them.

You seem to act like Mary is, can't see the forest for the trees, it's about Mary, instead of the kids.

I applaude them stepping in........

[ROYC75]

Originally Posted by milkman

OK Roy, the answer to your question, or your friends question is in the answer to this question.

What would Rich Scanlon do?

Clean house ?

[Mosbonian]

Originally Posted by trndobrd

It's their house? They pay the rent? If so, then by all means they should feel free to walk in any time they like. If not, the words we are looking for are 'criminal trespass'. Hope she doesn't call the police the next time the grandparents show up for an 'inspection', Grandma and Grandpa might get to spend the night in jail.

If she had her Mom and Dad arrested for Criminal Trespass, then I would be concerned about her mental state.....I've been awfully mad at my parents throughout my life for things that they did to me which made "Criminal Trespass" seem like Jaywalking, and I would never once dream of having my parents arrested.

Originally Posted by trndobrd

Maybe Mary is upset that her parents believe the friend rather than the daughter and seem to be bent of thinking the worst ("more beer than food, sleeping around, etc.). Maybe she doesn't think very highly of her parents. Maybe the friend is jealous and wanting to cause trouble. Who knows?

If she is upset, why not act like a mature adult and address the issue with her parents...

Or maybe Mary DOES have something to hide and is smoking pot with the kids around....leaving her kids with strangers who shouldn't be trusted.....or maybe the friend is a well-meaning individual who has first hand knowledge of something and doesn't want 2 innocent victims...

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[Iowanian]

wrong.

Rich Scanlon would DP Mary...with no one to assist.

Thats right.....RS has two(2) pickles.

[KCChiefsMan]

thats why I believe that white trash shouldn't be allowed to reproduce

[ROYC75]

Originally Posted by KCChiefsMan

thats why I believe that white trash shouldn't be allowed to reproduce

OK, Me knowning this girl, I wouldn't call her that.But she does needs a reality check for sure. More like a good girl gone bad, the mental abuse she took the last year has gotten to her and the attention she craved got overwhelmed by the takers she allowed in her life.

[chubychecker]

I would recommend Mary set up a webcam and sell videos of her "lifestyle" over the internet. I'm sure a poster or two here could help set her up with the necessary hardware. Hell, this gal may even throw a little GoChiefs way.