Marriage problems: First one to mention Anti-freeze wins

[Iowanian]

I think this issue isn't as much about money as it is trust. Trust and Respect come from honesty and are the key building blocks for success in this area IMO.

I don't really care what those that think that you should only have 1 account. There are good reasons to have separate accounts, but even when you do, its community money. We have online access, exchange pins etc....The bills are paid out of both accounts based on income, but if one would get short, the other mentions it, and transfers some greenbacks.

If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to hide.

I'm lucky to have a fiscally responsible and conservative wife, we both know the important bills come first, secondary bills and then fun.

My advice is, if you're upset, walk away for a while....Both of you calm down, come to the table later to discuss your issues as rationally as possible and find a workable solution. Good luck.