New Dating Megathread

[Buck]

Luv's old thread is in the HOC for being too big.

Post all your dating questions, comments, concerns, advice, and scrutiny in here!

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by luv

Okay, so she's oppressed, but fat chicks will be the norm in less than 10 years? This is one girl in complete and total denial. I know because I've been there.

What's tragic, though, is that she could be fairly right about it being the norm eventually. People in general have grown up lazy and undisciplined. They give in to the super sized conveniences, and are too lazy to do anything about it. What's worse is that it will eventually be the norm because obesity in children is increasing. People can't discipline themselves, let alone their children. You're hungry? Here, have a big kid meal (or whatever they're called) from McDonald's. I don't feel like dealing with you, so go play a video game, get on the computer, or watch tv. So, so, sad.

I'm glad I woke the **** up before I turned 40.

Just as a warning, you may interpret this as a mean comment when you start to read it, but it's not intended that way. This is more of a supportive thought.

Speaking as someone who's been where you are, you may have woken up before 40, but don't for a second think that you've figured things out, or that you've solved anything. It's going to be a fight, it may take longer than you think, and you aren't going to be done when you get your weight where you want it to be. This is something you're going to have be responsible about for a long time, at least until the changes you've made are ingrained enough into you that they take over "normal" from what you had been doing the other 30-odd years of your life. Change is not an easy thing. So be careful not to let yourself get complacent, or to get too comfortable with the thought that you've got all the answers now. Just keep fighting the good fight.

[Pasta Little Brioni]

Maybe luv and discuss should have a date?

[AndChiefs]

Originally Posted by Katipan

Heh I don't think they're doing much apologizing.

I feel bad about it. I realize it's superficial in a lot of ways.

I've played sports my entire life, up to and including college. I never had to worry about becoming fat as I was so active that it would've been almost an impossibility.

There are a lot of overweight people in my family, however, so the genes were always there. About three years ago I started a position that made it difficult to play sports as I traveled for work and was unable to join any leagues. I've never been one to enjoy running/solo workouts so I basically just stopped.

That, combined with eating out every meal of every day (while on the road) was not a good combination. Before I knew it I had ballooned up to about 225-230 (I'm 6'2) from 190. If I had kept on that route I have no doubt I could have become obese.

Instead, I changed up what I was ordering at restaurants and started working out in the hotel gym while on the road and regular gym at home. I've since dropped to 195 with a lot more muscle than I previously had at 190.

I had no excuse for getting fat, and outside of a medical reason (after pregnancy, thyroid issue, etc.), my wife/girlfriend doesn't either. If I take pride in staying healthy it's only fair that I expect the same from them.

P.S. I applaud Luv working to get herself in shape.

[luv]

Originally Posted by keg in kc

Just as a warning, you may interpret this as a mean comment when you start to read it, but it's not intended that way. This is more of a supportive thought.

Speaking as someone who's been where you are, you may have woken up before 40, but don't for a second think that you've figured things out, or that you've solved anything. It's going to be a fight, it may take longer than you think, and you aren't going to be done when you get your weight where you want it to be. This is something you're going to have be responsible about for a long time, at least until the changes you've made are ingrained enough into you that they take over "normal" from what you had been doing the other 30-odd years of your life. Change is not an easy thing. So be careful not to let yourself get complacent, or to get too comfortable with the thought that you've got all the answers now. Just keep fighting the good fight.

No offense taken at all.

It's already habit. I don't feel right if I don't go to the gym. I no longer crave what I used to. If I do, I save it for my cheat meal. By no means have I got everything figured out, but I'm having so much fun discovering myself. Sometimes, this new found confidence comes across as over-confidence, or maybe you all just aren't used to it yet (you really should get used to it, though). What I'm doing now is my new normal. I'm not "dieting". This is how I eat now. I don't drag myself to the gym. I have a million and thirty reasons for going to the gym on any given day.

[luv]

Originally Posted by PGM

Maybe luv and discuss should have a date?

Maybe you and I should say more than two things to each other so someone will say the same thing about us?

[Pasta Little Brioni]

Originally Posted by luv

Maybe you and I should say more than two things to each other so someone will say the same thing about us?

How you doin?

[Discuss Thrower]

Maybe PGM and luv should go on a date.

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by luv

No offense taken at all.

It's already habit. I don't feel right if I don't go to the gym. I no longer crave what I used to. If I do, I save it for my cheat meal. By no means have I got everything figured out, but I'm having so much fun discovering myself. Sometimes, this new found confidence comes across as over-confidence, or maybe you all just aren't used to it yet (you really should get used to it, though). What I'm doing now is my new normal. I'm not "dieting". This is how I eat now. I don't drag myself to the gym. I have a million and thirty reasons for going to the gym on any given day.

Like I said, coming from experience. It's good that you're confident, just expect that there may come times where it's harder, even if you think you're there now and nothing can ever get you down. Hopefully you're still saying the same things a year from now.

(I know in my case, my habits tend to yo-yo in a fairly predictable pattern every year, good from march to september, bad through the winter. Basically I go down 20 pounds when it's warm and go up 20 pounds when it's cold, and always fall about 5 pounds short of my long-term goal. It's pretty comical actually.)

[Titty Meat]

Originally Posted by PGM

How you doin?

Hit that shit playboi!

[luv]

Originally Posted by keg in kc

Like I said, coming from experience. It's good that you're confident, just expect that there may come times where it's harder, even if you think you're there now and nothing can ever get you down. Hopefully you're still saying the same things a year from now.

(I know in my case, my habits tend to yo-yo in a fairly predictable pattern every year, good from march to september, bad through the winter. Basically I go down 20 pounds when it's warm and go up 20 pounds when it's cold, and always fall about 5 pounds short of my long-term goal. It's pretty comical actually.)

Completely understand what you're saying. Been at it six months and I've lost 67 lbs. I've yo-yo'd several times before, but I'm doing things differently this time. The transformation has been inside and out.

[luv]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

Maybe PGM and luv should go on a date.

[Titty Meat]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

Maybe PGM and luv should go on a date.

Agree

[ThaVirus]

Originally Posted by PGM

Maybe luv and discuss should have a date?

This idea has merit.

[Hammock Parties]

[luv]

Originally Posted by ThaVirus

This idea has merit.

Do not feed the animals.