New Dating Megathread

[Buck]

Luv's old thread is in the HOC for being too big.

Post all your dating questions, comments, concerns, advice, and scrutiny in here!

[Titty Meat]

Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP

Wrong.





Right.


It's about confidence. Sure, looks can give you confidence. So can exercising, socializing, and self-improvement. Many girls are attracted to a guy who is confident and that guy becomes better looking than he really may be.

I am confident after reading a Dakc post because he is awesome

[DaKCMan AP]

Originally Posted by Chocolate Hog

I am confident after reading a Dakc post because he is awesome

True story.

[GordonGekko]

Originally Posted by Demonpenz

Being a "Hot guy" is not all about looks. You can be the top 99% of wit, humor, money making, social skills, etc. You can be a hot guy with average looks. I have a bag O tricks because I have years in the game. I have tools that I can use to bring down those hot girls bitch face. Of course people want to whine and play xbox all day because they are lazy ****s. I also am not of the approach "let it happen" I don't see any other skills in life where people "let it happen" it's not like you learn to play piano by "Not thinking about it and letting it happen" you work on your game and you work on relationships like any other skills. Think about what you want and what you don't want and improve yourself over time to get that. In my world "Let it happen and don't worry about it" gets you some sea donkey that sucks at making me laugh and can't do shit for herself.

Solid.

This goes to the poeple who act like victims in this thread. In the love game no one is a victim. The good ones go out and make it happen.

[Pasta Little Brioni]

Billay how is that milf?

[ThaVirus]

Originally Posted by Demonpenz

Being a "Hot guy" is not all about looks. You can be the top 99% of wit, humor, money making, social skills, etc. You can be a hot guy with average looks. I have a bag O tricks because I have years in the game. I have tools that I can use to bring down those hot girls bitch face. Of course people want to whine and play xbox all day because they are lazy ****s. I also am not of the approach "let it happen" I don't see any other skills in life where people "let it happen" it's not like you learn to play piano by "Not thinking about it and letting it happen" you work on your game and you work on relationships like any other skills. Think about what you want and what you don't want and improve yourself over time to get that. In my world "Let it happen and don't worry about it" gets you some sea donkey that sucks at making me laugh and can't do shit for herself.

Originally Posted by GordonGekko

Solid.



This goes to the poeple who act like victims in this thread. In the love game no one is a victim. The good ones go out and make it happen.

Eh.

Dating is nothing like getting fit, learning to play piano, getting your dream job, etc. There is compatibility involved. You can be the "best" you there is to be and still not find the right woman until the time is right.

When we're talking about "letting it happen" we don't mean sit on your ass all day playing Xbox expecting your dream girl to be your pizza delivery driver or some shit like that. Just be yourself, go out and meet people, and eventually you will find the right girl for you.

[Valiant]

Originally Posted by Count Zarth

he is a great motivational speaker.

[Valiant]

Originally Posted by PackerinMo

How about the schmucks that are like" Yeah I'll go get me a wife overseas.?" As soon as she becomes Americanized she will be out the door. A friend of my dads married this chick from Brazil and like a year later her and her mother took everything of his and kicked him out the door, how sweet of them.

is he a pussy?

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP

It's about confidence. Sure, looks can give you confidence. So can exercising, socializing, and self-improvement. Many girls are attracted to a guy who is confident and that guy becomes better looking than he really may be.

Some guys just aren't that guy. Everybody's different and some people just aren't wired that way. It's not like you can go out and buy a bottle of "change your entire being". If somebody needs real psychological help, no amount of "exercising, socializing and self-improvement" is actually going to 'fix' whatever's really wrong with them. Not that they shouldn't do those things, but without addressing the real core issues that make them the person they are, it'll just be a bi-polar roller-coaster.

[DaKCMan AP]

Originally Posted by keg in kc

Some guys just aren't that guy. Everybody's different and some people just aren't wired that way. It's not like you can go out and buy a bottle of "change your entire being". If somebody needs real psychological help, no amount of "exercising, socializing and self-improvement" is actually going to 'fix' whatever's really wrong with them. Not that they shouldn't do those things, but without addressing the real core issues that make them the person they are, it'll just be a bi-polar roller-coaster.

I don't disagree with you. Some people have issues. Discuss has severe self-esteem issues. I also realize that his issues are what drive his attitude. What I was responding to, however, is the notion that if you're not good looking, don't bother because you'll never succeed with females. While I have no experience relating to that circumstance, I have perceived confidence, among other things, to be of more importance to a woman than mere looks.

[Katipan]

Confidence makes you universally attractive but what women seek physically in men is about as universal as what you people seek in us. Quit blaming your face.

Start blaming your expression.

[Hammock Parties]

Originally Posted by Katipan

Confidence makes you universally attractive but what women seek physically in men is about as universal as what you people seek in us. Quit blaming your face.
.

Looks only get you so far, anyway.

I've learned to stop trying to connect with women simply because they're physically attractive.

There has to be SOME kind of physical attraction there, but if we don't have common interests or personalities that mesh it's not going to work.

Case in point, I had dinner two weeks ago with a very cute girl, but the conversation was like pulling teeth. I'm not wasting any more time with her unless she feels a need to get in touch again.

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP

I don't disagree with you. Some people have issues. Discuss has severe self-esteem issues. I also realize that his issues are what drive his attitude. What I was responding to, however, is the notion that if you're not good looking, don't bother because you'll never succeed with females. While I have no experience relating to that circumstance, I have perceived confidence, among other things, to be of more importance to a woman than mere looks.

Odds are if you're the kind of person who believes you won't ever have luck with the ladies because of how you look, there are also a variety of other (related) reasons why you won't have any success. It's really easy to find reasons why you won't, whether it's looks or money or age or 'being too different'.

In the end, it's all connected I think. It's all fear. Whether it's fear of rejection or fear of committment or fear of the unknown or fear of change or all of the above.. At the end of the day, being the down-on-your-luck loser can get to be a comfortable sort of mindset, and it's a lot easier to stay there than it is to move on to anywhere/-thing/-one else.

(trust me, I know...)

[Rausch]

Originally Posted by Count Zarth

There has to be SOME kind of physical attraction there, but if we don't have common interests or personalities that mesh it's not going to work.

Case in point, I had dinner two weeks ago with a very cute girl, but the conversation was like pulling teeth. I'm not wasting any more time with her unless she feels a need to get in touch again.

You learn.

It's slow sledding, but you can do it...

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by Count Zarth

There has to be SOME kind of physical attraction there

That's absolutely true, and it's not at all superficial to say it.

[Katipan]

Originally Posted by Count Zarth

Looks only get you so far, anyway.

I've learned to stop trying to connect with women simply because they're physically attractive.

There has to be SOME kind of physical attraction there, but if we don't have common interests or personalities that mesh it's not going to work.

Case in point, I had dinner two weeks ago with a very cute girl, but the conversation was like pulling teeth. I'm not wasting any more time with her unless she feels a need to get in touch again.

Perfect