My Father

[Donger]

Hello CP:

I got word today that my father was taken to the ER with what they suspect was a stroke. Unfortunately, after CT and MRI scans, they found two lesions on his brain. They believe that he has cancer somewhere else in his body and that these lesions have metastasized from that. My family and I are waiting for more word from his doctors.

I am beside myself. My father is an amazing man and until now, in unbelievable health considering his age (70) and what he has been through in his life. We were just on a tropical island together SCUBA and skin diving, with him able to descend on lung power far lower than I.

I don't have any friends except for family. I've never really had the need. But, I feel that need now. If you would, please say a prayer, send good thoughts or anything positive toward my father.

My thanks in advance.

Donger.

[Oxford]

Originally Posted by Donger

I'm sad to say that my father has double pneumonia. His immune system is shot after 14 months of chemo. So, they are stopping the chemo treatments. They are suggesting that he be moved to a hospice, which my mother is refusing. She wants him at home.

So, I guess this is it.

Thank you all for all your good thoughts and prayers since this began. I truly appreciate it. It has helped me, and I hope that somehow they reached my dad as well.

Donger

Donger, your Father can have hospice care at home. Hopefully they can get rid of the pneumonia with AntiBiotics and then address the cancer. Check around with your local "office on aging" and see what recommendations they have. Peace be with you and yours

[Donger]

Originally Posted by KC native

Condolences.

My grandmother was able to do her hospice care at home. Look into that.

Thanks and yes, that is what is going to happen. There was a lady at the hospital going over details with my mother and wife. I had to leave.

[Donger]

Originally Posted by TimBone

Sorry to hear. I hope his last moments are spent with those that he loves.

Thanks. The good news is that all of his sons and all of his grandchildren live here.

[KC native]

Originally Posted by Donger

Thanks and yes, that is what is going to happen. There was a lady at the hospital going over details with my mother and wife. I had to leave.

Sucks man. I feel your pain. My uncle who was pretty much my father growing up passed when I was younger. My grandmother played a large part in raising me passed away almost 2 years ago.

Sorry.

[DaFace]

Sorry to hear things haven't turned up more, man. Hang in there.

[Mr. Plow]

Sorry to hear all this Donger. Enjoy the time you have with him and know that I'm praying for you all.

[Buehler445]

Condolences, man. That's tough.

Prayers for you and your family.

[Meatloaf]

Prayers and good thoughts continue.

Hard to do, but just try and remember that dying is as natural as being born. Just part of our journey.....

Hang in there, bud.

[Hootie]

Good thoughts for you and your family.

[Mr. Flopnuts]

Originally Posted by Donger

Hi Everyone:

My Dad was just admitted to the ER. He has lost complete control of his legs and is hallucinating badly. He still recognizes me but he is barely lucid. He also has some kind of issue with his lungs now.

I contemplated not asking for this, but if you would, please say a prayer or send good vibes to my father at this time. I'm really trying very hard to be positive, but I suspect that we're entering into the period that I've been dreading for over a year.

And, if you also would, please say a prayer for my mother. They have been together since the were 14 and 16 (now 70 and 72 respectively), and are the most symbiotic couple that I've ever seen. She has been my father's primary care giver since this all began, and absolutely refuses to cease that care, but it's really taking a toll on her.

On a side note, please do take some time tomorrow to wish your fathers a Happy Father's Day. I have a horrible feeling that this will be my last one to say it to mine, and it would give me some comfort if a I knew that this post has some positives beyond my asking.

Thank you,

Donger

Originally Posted by Donger

I'm sad to say that my father has double pneumonia. His immune system is shot after 14 months of chemo. So, they are stopping the chemo treatments. They are suggesting that he be moved to a hospice, which my mother is refusing. She wants him at home.

So, I guess this is it.

Thank you all for all your good thoughts and prayers since this began. I truly appreciate it. It has helped me, and I hope that somehow they reached my dad as well.

Donger

I'm so sorry.

[Chiefaholic]

I'm very sorry to hear this, bud. Enjoy the time with him that he has left, and realize that he's going to a much better place. Thought and prayers for you and your family.

[Smed1065]

Thoughts and prayers.

[Boise_Chief]

Hang in there. What is your dad's name. It helps me to use a first name when praying. Really will be praying hard for him. My FIL just had a 1/4 of his lung removed for a tumor.

[DaNewGuy]

Just hearing the word hospice almost makes me sick. My dad was in the same place my mother wanted him home and literally 20 mins after he passed the hospice lady started grilling my mom about the drugs like she was gonna take them or some shit. **** that place. Im so very sorry Donger but all the memories you and your pops had will never go away. May you and your family find peace in this very very difficult time. Your CP family will always have your back

[Donger]

My Dad passed a few hours ago. They gave him three months after diagnosis. He made it 14 months. They said that he'd live a day or two after discharge. He made it a week.

That was, is and always will be, my father. He always demanded that expectations not only be met, but exceeded, and he always led by example. Even at the end.

He passed with my mother embracing him, which is what he wanted. They are so close. Thankfully, all my brothers and I are only a 30 minutes away, so we all got there at exactly the same time to support my mother.

I want to thank each and every one of you for your kind words, thoughts and prayers. It has brought me a lot of comfort since this began and now that it has ended.

Thank you,

Donger