Divorce....

[baitism]

Well, yeah it sucks. Could someone who has been through a divorce with a spouse that was cheating send me a PM? Kansas laws. I need to get the hell out of this situation and could use some advice. Thanks.

[Al Bundy]

Originally Posted by rico

Ok so here is what happened to me.

The wife and I had been mutually pissing each other off and pushing each other off for about a year. It finally reached a head when she filed for divorce in May and hired the biggest shark of a custody attorney. The lady has a reputation for taking fools (men and women she represents) to the cleaners... and we went to a Chiefs game with her (vs. Steelers this year where her and my wife hit it off well). She is a Chiefs fan...a big one...uncommon for SEI. Her and I didn’t hit it off well. There was a moment she got upset with me because she had a booger hanging on her nose and I (thinking I was doing her a favor) told her about it and she got pissed. I told her, “might as well tell you so no one else sees it.” And then she had a friend meet up with her 2nd half and she kept saying snippy things about my wife and my wife wasn’t hearing it...but I was. After the game, I was already upset by the outcome of the game and this attorney and her loud friend and a couple others were loitering outside laughing. Her friend made another snippy comment about my wife being ditzy and it pissed me off and I was like, “Wife, let’s get away from these dumb****s.” And the lawyers bf (great dude) reaches out his hand to shake my hand and I looked at him and was like “**** off.” Overreaction on my part for sure. He didn’t do anything wrong. I explained on the way back how this gal was clowning in her for an hour and she didn’t know. Anyways, this attorney gal remembered that...and didn’t like me. And she was representing my wife...and again, this attorney is a known shark.

Got the decree and she took me to the cleaners...because I work 3rd shift (another reason to hate 3rd shift). I was fighting for split custody, she was fighting for primary physical care and child support...and she was awarded it on the temporary decree. I was only to see my kids every other weekend as long as I’m not working (I work most weekends) and was ordered to pay her $265 a week in child support... and I had a good attorney myself. This 3rd shift thing works against you big time with custody. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.

I thought my life was over. 5 minutes after reading this, I received a call from my wife and she was crying. I congratulated her for taking me to the cleaners. She informed me that’s why she was crying. She told me she loved me and couldn’t do that to me or the kids and that she’d drop the divorce if I took her to the courthouse on the condition we go to marriage counseling (something I always procrastinated, unfortunately...but not now). I was there in 15 minutes. Divorce is dropped. Lot of money wasted, but it’s dropped. And we’ve never gotten along better. And marriage counseling has us on the right track. I’m really gonna put some left effort in making this work...she could have totally eaten me up alive and refused to when it came down to it.

I am happy.

A lot happened between the time we separated and got back together on both ends, but we are just gonna have to forgive and move on. It is possible.

But yeah that’s why I’ve been incognito for a while.

That's good to hear, my ex and I had no kids when we divorced and very little assets. I knew what I wanted to do with my life and wanted her out of it before I did it so she couldn't **** with it.

[rico]

Originally Posted by Al Bundy

That's good to hear, my ex and I had no kids when we divorced and very little assets. I knew what I wanted to do with my life and wanted her out of it before I did it so she couldn't **** with it.

Not a bad situation.

[rico]

Originally Posted by baitism

Meeting with a divorce lawyer on Thursday. My wife is stupid, so I have that working for me. Plus, I have lined up a few smash pieces. All and all, things are looking up.

Good luck bro. Be careful with social media and smash pieces, though. They WILL be used against you.

I am 35 and have a brother who just graduated HS. I’m not shitting you and I have no idea why, but the girls in his grade hit on me the most. I was always straight up with them...”I can be your father and you shouldn’t talk to me that way.” One of them (her and her group of friends said they had a little girl crush on me since they saw me giving my bro rides places and what not) got her pic with me and plastered it on Instagram. Made it appear as if t was something it wasn’t. And it was used against me.

18 year olds act like this. Unbelievable. It was shocking to me.

[redfan]

Originally Posted by Chazno

Have you used them? I get a Jimmy johns feel looking at their website. "With enough money, you too can own your own Cordell and Cordell branch". I mean they have a 100 offices just in the US. Offices that they review to make sure they are up to Cordell & Cordell standards...

I talked with them, and had I decided to go that route, I'd have gone with them. I'm not aware of their web presence or any of their TV ads; I went to them on a recommendation from an associate.
If you have kids, these are the folks.

[Flying High D]

Originally Posted by rico

Thanks man, me too. Taking the right steps.

It was a close one. That was really, really nice of her and it proved that she does love me, IMO.

I hated not seeing her beautiful face. I swear I didn’t go a minute without thinking of that beauty of hers.

Yeah, yeah pics....gladly.

And to think she’s 35...

Pic was taken 30 minutes after we revoked the divorce. She looks happy.

Pics of the booger in the nose would be sweet. Did you tell her she had a bat in the cave? Asking for Jack Osborne.

[Steron]

Originally Posted by BryanBusby

If you haven't mentioned you found out she's cheating, or the Divorce word than right now you're in good shape. If not, you need to literally drop everything you're doing right this very second and do this next step.

Get to whatever places you bank at jointly and set up new accounts ASAP and dump all of your liquid funds into them. Some of it hers too? Well, feel free to charge a processing fee and take that shit too. Do that before she does it to you, because she absolutely will.

Anything else that she could somehow access that you don't want her to access? Get her the **** off that shit right ****ing now.

Once you're done with that, you need to secure your own dwelling and do it fast. House, trailer, sad bachelors studio apartment, whatever the **** it is do it. This is also a time you can start working on the lawyer front.

Whenever she's out to work or out ****ing her new man, that's when you roll up the moving truck to quickly pack your shit up and get the **** out.

Get your shit first, debate what shit is hers and what is yours after the fact. After that is complete, that's when you start dropping the truth bombs on her ass.

I'd want to complete everything from start to finish in 48 hours and would "treat her to a weekend out" to help avoid having that interference. If you can't get a place to put all your stuff so quickly, put it in a storage locker for now.

The main key here is to remove all your assets before she can even realize what the **** is going on, as until you officially do that she can take whatever of yours she feels like helping herself to. I watched a friend go through the proceedings and he followed all these steps and it was the most jedi mind trick shit I've seen.

There is some sound advice in this post.

If she's already cheated you can bet she checked out of the marriage a while ago. If she's smart, she has her ducks in a row already and OP is playing catch-up. I can't stress enough how important it is to change login information and remove her from accounts where possible. I know a couple going through the same thing now. Except the cheating went the other way. He moved out and emptied the joint account leaving the wife high and dry.

[stumppy]

If you don't do what Bryan Busby posted you will regret it.

Do you know what divorce is? IT'S ****ING WAR!

Go into it to win.

[vailpass]

Originally Posted by baitism

Meeting with a divorce lawyer on Thursday..

Stop posting on this site and any other social media sites. If you can't do that then stop posting any details or comments related to your personal situation or anything else that could be used against you.

[Frazod]

Originally Posted by vailpass

Stop posting on this site and any other social media sites. If you can't do that then stop posting any details or comments related to your personal situation or anything else that could be used against you.

Might not be a bad idea to delete this thread, too.

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by stumppy

If you don't do what Bryan Busby posted you will regret it.

Do you know what divorce is? IT'S ****ING WAR!

Go into it to win.

Meh, the best divorces I have seen have all been done by mediators. Nobody gets everything they want but at the end of the day there is 33% more to be divided up. Kids can complicate things especially if they are young.

[rico]

Originally Posted by vailpass

Stop posting on this site and any other social media sites. If you can't do that then stop posting any details or comments related to your personal situation or anything else that could be used against you.

This

[Perineum Ripper]

Originally Posted by rico

Ok so here is what happened to me.

The wife and I had been mutually pissing each other off and pushing each other off for about a year. It finally reached a head when she filed for divorce in May and hired the biggest shark of a custody attorney. The lady has a reputation for taking fools (men and women she represents) to the cleaners... and we went to a Chiefs game with her (vs. Steelers this year where her and my wife hit it off well). She is a Chiefs fan...a big one...uncommon for SEI. Her and I didn’t hit it off well. There was a moment she got upset with me because she had a booger hanging on her nose and I (thinking I was doing her a favor) told her about it and she got pissed. I told her, “might as well tell you so no one else sees it.” And then she had a friend meet up with her 2nd half and she kept saying snippy things about my wife and my wife wasn’t hearing it...but I was. After the game, I was already upset by the outcome of the game and this attorney and her loud friend and a couple others were loitering outside laughing. Her friend made another snippy comment about my wife being ditzy and it pissed me off and I was like, “Wife, let’s get away from these dumb****s.” And the lawyers bf (great dude) reaches out his hand to shake my hand and I looked at him and was like “**** off.” Overreaction on my part for sure. He didn’t do anything wrong. I explained on the way back how this gal was clowning in her for an hour and she didn’t know. Anyways, this attorney gal remembered that...and didn’t like me. And she was representing my wife...and again, this attorney is a known shark.

Got the decree and she took me to the cleaners...because I work 3rd shift (another reason to hate 3rd shift). I was fighting for split custody, she was fighting for primary physical care and child support...and she was awarded it on the temporary decree. I was only to see my kids every other weekend as long as I’m not working (I work most weekends) and was ordered to pay her $265 a week in child support... and I had a good attorney myself. This 3rd shift thing works against you big time with custody. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.

I thought my life was over. 5 minutes after reading this, I received a call from my wife and she was crying. I congratulated her for taking me to the cleaners. She informed me that’s why she was crying. She told me she loved me and couldn’t do that to me or the kids and that she’d drop the divorce if I took her to the courthouse on the condition we go to marriage counseling (something I always procrastinated, unfortunately...but not now). I was there in 15 minutes. Divorce is dropped. Lot of money wasted, but it’s dropped. And we’ve never gotten along better. And marriage counseling has us on the right track. I’m really gonna put some left effort in making this work...she could have totally eaten me up alive and refused to when it came down to it.

I am happy.

A lot happened between the time we separated and got back together on both ends, but we are just gonna have to forgive and move on. It is possible.

But yeah that’s why I’ve been incognito for a while.

I know I haven’t reached out to you during all this..had shit of my own going on..had seen how things were going on the Facebook and I’m happy you two worked it out..if you ever need anything send me a message

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by rico

Ok so here is what happened to me.

The wife and I had been mutually pissing each other off and pushing each other off for about a year. It finally reached a head when she filed for divorce in May and hired the biggest shark of a custody attorney. The lady has a reputation for taking fools (men and women she represents) to the cleaners... and we went to a Chiefs game with her (vs. Steelers this year where her and my wife hit it off well). She is a Chiefs fan...a big one...uncommon for SEI. Her and I didn’t hit it off well. There was a moment she got upset with me because she had a booger hanging on her nose and I (thinking I was doing her a favor) told her about it and she got pissed. I told her, “might as well tell you so no one else sees it.” And then she had a friend meet up with her 2nd half and she kept saying snippy things about my wife and my wife wasn’t hearing it...but I was. After the game, I was already upset by the outcome of the game and this attorney and her loud friend and a couple others were loitering outside laughing. Her friend made another snippy comment about my wife being ditzy and it pissed me off and I was like, “Wife, let’s get away from these dumb****s.” And the lawyers bf (great dude) reaches out his hand to shake my hand and I looked at him and was like “**** off.” Overreaction on my part for sure. He didn’t do anything wrong. I explained on the way back how this gal was clowning in her for an hour and she didn’t know. Anyways, this attorney gal remembered that...and didn’t like me. And she was representing my wife...and again, this attorney is a known shark.

Got the decree and she took me to the cleaners...because I work 3rd shift (another reason to hate 3rd shift). I was fighting for split custody, she was fighting for primary physical care and child support...and she was awarded it on the temporary decree. I was only to see my kids every other weekend as long as I’m not working (I work most weekends) and was ordered to pay her $265 a week in child support... and I had a good attorney myself. This 3rd shift thing works against you big time with custody. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.

I thought my life was over. 5 minutes after reading this, I received a call from my wife and she was crying. I congratulated her for taking me to the cleaners. She informed me that’s why she was crying. She told me she loved me and couldn’t do that to me or the kids and that she’d drop the divorce if I took her to the courthouse on the condition we go to marriage counseling (something I always procrastinated, unfortunately...but not now). I was there in 15 minutes. Divorce is dropped. Lot of money wasted, but it’s dropped. And we’ve never gotten along better. And marriage counseling has us on the right track. I’m really gonna put some left effort in making this work...she could have totally eaten me up alive and refused to when it came down to it.

I am happy.

A lot happened between the time we separated and got back together on both ends, but we are just gonna have to forgive and move on. It is possible.

But yeah that’s why I’ve been incognito for a while.

Glad it worked out. Money can be made again but the kid thing is a big deal. Good to hear you won't lose all that time.

[-King-]

Originally Posted by rico

You have this “forced asshole, self imposed contrarian” shtick that you do sometimes. You are the one poster who can argue the opposing side of an issue that I feel strongly about and I will walk away thinking, “ugh, why do I think this guy has a point right now.” And you are bright, witty and funny in doing so and it’s irritating. You are the Reggie Miller to me being John Starks. Haha jackass.

Anyways. This is some real life shit with people who are simultaneously dealing with some pain in their lives, me being one of them...and the last poster I want to read witty contrarian input from is your ass. Not here.

I know your type. One of my best friends is just like you. I haven’t talked to him about all this. I’ve been ignoring his calls.

I wasn't trying to be witty or a contrarian when I said getting involved in the other guys relationship with his wife was a bad idea at the moment.
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[rico]

Originally Posted by mac459

I know I haven’t reached out to you during all this..had shit of my own going on..had seen how things were going on the Facebook and I’m happy you two worked it out..if you ever need anything send me a message

Thanks bud, will do man! Getting better!