Check out this obituary from my town.

[Buehler445]

How would you like your kids to write this obituary for you.

FWIW he was a resident in the rest home where my grandpa is and they entire staff is required to wear masks 100% of the time.

Obituary of Marvin J. Farr

Dr. Marvin James Farr, 81, of Scott City, Kan., passed away Dec. 1, 2020, in isolation at Park Lane Nursing Home. He was preceded in death by more than 260,000 Americans infected with covid-19. He died in a room not his own, being cared for by people dressed in confusing and frightening ways. He died with covid-19, and his final days were harder, scarier and lonelier than necessary. He was not surrounded by friends and family.

Marvin was born May 23, 1939 to Jim and Dorothy Farr of Modoc, Kan. He was born into an America recovering from the Great Depression and about to face World War 2, times of loss and sacrifice difficult for most of us to imagine. Americans would be asked to ration essential supplies and send their children around the world to fight and die in wars of unfathomable destruction. He died in a world where many of his fellow Americans refuse to wear a piece of cloth on their face to protect one another.

Marvin was a farmer and a veterinarian. He graduated from Kansas State University in 1968. His careers filled his life with an understanding of the science of life: how to nurture it, how to sustain it, and the myriad ways that life can go wrong. As a young man he debated between studying mortuary or veterinary science. He chose life over death. The science that guided his professional life has been disparaged and abandoned by so many of the same people who depended on his knowledge to care for their animals and to raise their food.

Marvin was a religious man. He was a lay reader at St. Luke's Episcopal Church. He saw no conflict between the science of his professional life and the belief of his personal life, each enriched the other. From religion, he especially drew on lessons of forgiveness and care. Perhaps the most important comes from the Lord's Prayer:

and forgive us our trespasses,

 as we forgive those who trespass against us;

He would look after those who had harmed him the deepest, a sentiment echoed by the healthcare workers struggling to do their jobs as their own communities turn against them or make their jobs harder. He would also fail those who needed him the most at times, as he was still human, with his flaws and limits.

Marvin was a man of the community. His membership in the Anthem Masonic Lodge #284 and the Scott County Shrine Club mattered to him for both the camaraderie of his brothers and for the good works that they facilitated, the most visible of which is the Shriners Hospitals for Children network. Even in a social organization, he chose one that centered the health and medical care of others.

Marvin was a family man, both of blood and chosen family. He was preceded in death by his wife Lottie Farr; son Justin Farr; brothers Everett Farr and Howard Farr; and parents. He is survived by his children Courtney Farr and Tamra Wilkens of Eudora, Kan.; Tesa Fansler of Sanford, Fla.; and Scott and Tracy Burling of Scott, La.; and numerous grandchildren, great-grandchildren, other family and loved ones.

Memorial donations may be made to the Scott County Hospital Foundation in care of Price & Sons Funeral Homes or https://www.scotthospital.net/getpag...ame=Foundation

A memorial will be held at a later date due to covid-19.

[Delano]

Originally Posted by vailpass

Yep. So ridiculous it has transformed into comedy. I started laughing half way through. Not about the dead, but at the living.

It isn’t surprising that you get your jollies from someone’s grief when their only distinguishing features are opinions that differ from your own.

[vailpass]

Originally Posted by Delano

It isn’t surprising that you get your jollies from someone’s grief when their only distinguishing features are opinions that differ from your own.

I have nothing but sympathy for the grieving. It’s the overboard reactions, on both sides, in which some in this country are currently engaged that I find so ridiculous as to be laughable.

[loochy]

Originally Posted by Delano

You quoted a post twice spouting the same bullshit in different dialects of moron.

My issue is not with Marty, it's with the ding dong obituary writers.

Got a problem with me? Maybe you should tell people about it in your grandpa's obituary.

[Lzen]

Originally Posted by bringbackmarty

Nobody deserves to suffocate to death or not have their loved ones by their side. But now it happens nearly 3,000 times a day. As someone who has nearly died and been intubated for several days from respiratory arrest due to a severe asthma attack it's a horrible, chaotic and terrible way to die. Also because of my experience I no longer believe in an afterlife. I didn't breathe for over 8 minutes, was unconscious and intubated for 5 days. No white light, no memories of my parents whispering in my ear even though they did. Covid patients that are intubated don't hear the last phone calls, don't know anyone is there. Can't squeeze your hand. They are unconscious and cannot hear anything.

I'm truly sorry that you feel that way. I can't explain why you don't remember anything about an afterlife, I'm sure that's disappointing to you. Not trying to pick on you but I wonder if you truly believed before this happened. I would recommend you and anyone else who has read your post to read the book IMAGINE HEAVEN. The author didn't believe in the afterlife, either. He started off studying the countless documented cases of reports of NDEs (Near Death Experiences) with a healthy skepticism. After doing that, he definitely believes. All of the cases have things in common. And many of them weren't even Christians or believers in God. I can understand why you would feel the way you do. I'm only about a third the way through myself but I can't see how you would maintain the hardened heart after reading this book.

[neech]

[Buehler445]

Originally Posted by DaneMcCloud

I just read the obit and personally had no issue with it.

It's apparently a thing.

The top google search Results for "Marvin Farr Obituary" are:

1. Local Funeral home.

2. USA today Article.

3. NY Post article.

0% chance I'm reading any of those, but I'm guessing they're political in nature.

Not much of a thing for me, I just don't understand what kind of headspace you'd have to be in to make your Father's final remembrance bitching about your town wearing masks, when everyone that would have seen your father in the last 8 months would have had a mask on.

[Baby Lee]

Originally Posted by Buehler445

It's apparently a thing.

The top google search Results for "Marvin Farr Obituary" are:

1. Local Funeral home.

2. USA today Article.

3. NY Post article.

0% chance I'm reading any of those, but I'm guessing they're political in nature.

Not much of a thing for me, I just don't understand what kind of headspace you'd have to be in to make your Father's final remembrance bitching about your town wearing masks, when everyone that would have seen your father in the last 8 months would have had a mask on.

Everyone tends to think their own pain is the only pain being endured in the world.

[Buehler445]

Originally Posted by Baby Lee

Everyone tends to think their own pain is the only pain being endured in the world.

Ha. It's been awhile since I've thought that.