Do you ever feel like a disappointment?

[SuperBowl4]

People try to bring you down with their bs. The key is not to give a ****.

[In58men]

All the time, my 8 year old son keeps me going though.

[FlaChief58]

No one appreciates me for all I do for them. I take one day off and everyone loses their minds/cp server

[PAChiefsGuy]

Keep your head up OP!!!

Do a Google search on positive thinking. Study it and try to apply it to your situations in life and you will be alright. Life is mostly about how we perceive it. Same way you go looking for trouble, eventually you will find it. Same way, if you look at life in a certain way, of course you will look at yourself as a disappointment no matter who you are.

Best of luck man. Make the most of today and stay positive.

[ChiefaRoo]

https://youtu.be/kA29JVYP9rg

Could be worse. You could be this guy.


….

Seriously, do the things in life that make you happy. Small things and big things.

[Wisconsin_Chief]

Considering the junk DNA and family life I came from, I couldn't be prouder of where I am. Of course, because of those things there is a lot of self doubt that I'm constantly fighting, but I try to maintain a confident demeanor. I deal with a lot of very successful people on a daily basis and it can be very intimidating, but I try to look at it as I wouldn't be in position to deal with those people if I wasn't somewhat passable as a man.

I've always looked at is as if you're doing better for your family and society than your parents did, you're at least making progress. My sons will be even better than me without a shadow of a doubt, so I'm happy with my overall standing in life. As the old saying goes, all you can do is all you can do. If you're doing that, you have nothing to be ashamed of.

[notorious]

You are a CP member.


That alone makes you the top 1% of males to ever walk the Earth.

[notorious]

In all seriousness, happiness is not a long term thing. It’s temporary.

Find those things that give you that dose of happy. My things are: my kids, the kids I coach, and my creations at work.

Very little of it has to do with directly making myself happy. Bring joy to those around you, make them feel special. That’s the key for me.

[tooge]

I'm happy with myself and my role to my family and friends. If anyone else thinks I've fallen short of their expectations, then it doesn't concern me. I answer to God, my family, and myself first. Having said that, we aren't perfect. We can and should strive for perfection but only knowing that most of the time that is an unrealistic goal and my advice is you shouldn't beat yourself up.

[ToxSocks]

No matter how much you do, people will always ask more from you. The more you do, the more people will take you for granted and simply expect you to do those things and then assume you can and will do more on top of that. Because you've already shown that you can. If people thought less of you, they wouldn't ask you for shit. So yeah, if you don't want people to have expectations or demands or think you can do this or that, or rely on you for this or that....you could just be a lowlife loser. Then you won't have to worry about it.

That's never, ever going away. That's just part of being a man.

[ToxSocks]

In other words: Being a man is a thankless job. The better you are at it, the more people simply expect it, because that's what kind of person you are. You become the hero, or you're expected to be.

And that can often make you feel like you aren't living up to increasing demands.

[Iowanian]

Have you seen any of the shorts about when a man says "I'm fine"?


I recently had a milestone birthday and have done a lot of self-reflection on these items, and I've come up with a few things that I'm changing and a few things I'm not happy with even though I have a ton of reasons to feel good about where I am now vs where I started.

Part of being an achiever with goals is to be self-critical. The same things that make you successful are also going to chew on you at night. No one will ever be harder on me, than I am. I'll never not question myself in some ways for my career and if I should make a change for my personal happiness, or if I'm the best husband I can be, or if I'm doing enough for my kids.

What I did decide during this past birthday is that my years are growing shorter to do something, and I'm going to put more focus on people and things that are important to me and spend a lot less on things that just cause me grief.

My dreams tell me a lot about how things are going. This week I'm dreaming I'm in a dark, damp basement, down in a cistern made of stones. I'm digging hand holes to climb out, and there is little crab-monster thing the size of a ping pong ball trying to jump on me. Every time I smash it, it cracks open the shell and grows larger. I have no idea what this is telling me about what's going on, but at least I'm not wading through the large fountain pool of dark water full of crocodiles, using a broken broom handle to fight my way to get to this little kid they're trying to eat.

[Katipan]

I think you need to eat the crab.
And that's not me being funny.

[AdolfOliverBush]

I came here for the "I'm never down on myself, because your mom goes down on me daily" reply, and was disappointed.

[Iowanian]

Originally Posted by AdolfOliverBush

I came here for the "I'm never down on myself, because your mom goes down on me daily" reply, and was disappointed.

If that's what you're looking for, let me help.


Your mom is always down. DTF.