I think i need some advice

[QuikSsurfer]

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[Rain Man]

It's probably been said at some point, but ... you don't have money for a car so you can keep your job, yet you have money to waste on marijuana and drugs?

Step 1. Stop wasting money on drugs, which do nothing productive, and use that saved money to get a car. You've just solved three problems in one step: keep your job, get a car, stop using drugs.

Good luck to you.

[Herzig]

Originally Posted by Skip Towne

Last time I checked, ignorance was winning.

Yeah, it gets pretty frustrating at times.

[badgirl]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

It's probably been said at some point, but ... you don't have money for a car so you can keep your job, yet you have money to waste on marijuana and drugs?

Step 1. Stop wasting money on drugs, which do nothing productive, and use that saved money to get a car. You've just solved three problems in one step: keep your job, get a car, stop using drugs.

Good luck to you.

OOOORRRR, just drop out of school, quit your job, stop doing drugs and start selling them, then you don't have to be a professional student, won't need to work, can buy you a car, you will have quit drugs, and can tell your mother where you know you'd love to have told her years ago.

Wow thats too many things solved for you right there.

[patteeu]

Originally Posted by Psicosis

Of course, anyone advising you that the military may be your best bet should also add that there's a chance you could be shipped off and be placed into a situation where you may get your ass shot off or blown up or whatever awful things can happen in nasty places that military personnel are sometimes sent to.

Discipline isn't going to help you do better in life if you end up in a body bag, and as such, people should look at joining the military because it's something they feel strongly compelled to do, not simply because they just need some direction in their lives. Due to the potential consequences and commitments, it's something of a big decision.

The dude's killing himself now. He doesn't have enough self-discipline to save himself through half-measures (e.g. smoking dope in moderation instead of in excess). While he admits to making all kinds of bad choices, he still seems to put most of the blame on others (e.g. bad childhood memories, people disowning him, etc.). He needs to make some seriously good choices now or he might as well just jump off a bridge to get it over with faster. One of those choices needs to be to remove himself from his current circle of friends.

Joining the military has it's risks, but it isn't nearly as risky as the course he's on now.

QickSsurfer, you should seriously consider joining the military if you want to change your life for the better.

[greg63]

Take the grandparents up on their offer to get you back on your feet. You can pay them back when you are financially, physically and emotionally stable. Not trying to be brash; just giving you what you ask for: MHO. Start the New Year out on a positive note, and have a good one.

[Herzig]

Originally Posted by badgirl

OOOORRRR, just drop out of school, quit your job, stop doing drugs and start selling them, then you don't have to be a professional student, won't need to work, can buy you a car, you will have quit drugs, and can tell your mother where you know you'd love to have told her years ago.

Wow thats too many things solved for you right there.

He's lucky he's not serving time in prison taking it in the butt already...that's a quick way to end up there. Being locked up in a cage like an animal getting used as man-toy is not my idea of life.

[ChiTown]

Stop crying and start working.

Work to get clean from drugs.

Work to make your relationship better with your family.

Work to be a more productive human being.

Work to get the hours you need to finish up your degree. It can only help you going forward.

Work to get a better group of friends that don't aspire to just get high and have a good time.

Work to have goals and aspirations, and work to make them happen.

Work to find a way out of your hole, and stop blaming everyone else, and every event that has taken place in your life. YOU CONTROL YOUR OWN LIFE!

Bottom line:
Stop the crying and start working. Lazy, unmotivated losers make excuses and look for luck. People who work hard make their own luck and mostly get rewarded. So get your ass in gear and stop looking for the next excuse.

All The Best to You!

[badgirl]

Originally Posted by Herzig

He's lucky he's not serving time in prison taking it in the butt already...that's a quick way to end up there. Being locked up in a cage like an animal getting used as man-toy is not my idea of life.

If he's stupid enough to take my advice, he'd deserve one up the butt.

[greg63]

Originally Posted by ChiTown

Stop crying and start working.

Work to get clean from drugs.

Work to make your relationship better with your family.

Work to be a more productive human being.

Work to get the hours you need to finish up your degree. It can only help you going forward.

Work to get a better group of friends that don't aspire to just get high and have a good time.

Work to have goals and aspirations, and work to make them happen.

Work to find a way out of your hole, and stop blaming everyone else, and every event that has taken place in your life. YOU CONTROL YOUR OWN LIFE!

Bottom line:
Stop the crying and start working. Lazy, unmotivated losers make excuses and look for luck. People who work hard make their own luck and mostly get rewarded. So get your ass in gear and stop looking for the next excuse.

GOOD LUCK!

In other words do some "growing up". Great post!

[Skip Towne]

Originally Posted by Herzig

He's lucky he's not serving time in prison taking it in the butt already...that's a quick way to end up there. Being locked up in a cage like an animal getting used as man-toy is not my idea of life.

Especially if you still have your boyish charm.

[Saulbadguy]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

It's probably been said at some point, but ... you don't have money for a car so you can keep your job, yet you have money to waste on marijuana and drugs?

Step 1. Stop wasting money on drugs, which do nothing productive, and use that saved money to get a car. You've just solved three problems in one step: keep your job, get a car, stop using drugs.

Good luck to you.

Step 2. Steal bikes. Lots of bikes.
Step 3.
Step 4. Profit!

[chagrin]

Originally Posted by badgirl

If he's stupid enough to take my advice, he'd deserve one up the butt.

Well, if you gave the advice, does that mean you're...into it???? Quick! Call rednfeisty!

[Saul Good]

Originally Posted by QuikSsurfer

Please do not read this and make some witty/asshole comment because... i'm seriously concerned here. I know that there are a lot of elders on this board and I honestly need some advice.. In a nutshell:

I am a recent 5th year senior drop out at Ole Miss (The University of Mississippi). All I have to show for a education right now is a minor in biology and a near BA in liberal arts (psychology). I have no future plans to go back to school. College is for some people - not me.
My family is a total wreck. It has been that way for as long as I can remember. My mother is a bad mother by all standards. Take my word for it. My mother and father both can be viewed as a mirror of misery.
Okay so I'm a, nearly, 23 year old recovering cocaine addict. Boom!! now that that's out My family (mother's side; the one that matters) "officially" disowned me this xmas holiday. My mother came up from Jackson, MS a few days before xmas and took my car. She was paying for it anyway. I can't even begin to think about what's going on in my life right now. One thing is for sure, I smoke way too much ganja It is used for a "no feeling" feeling. I'm sure a few of you know what i'm talking about. Well this feeling is 100% necessary for me to live a pretty happy life. At any rate, I'm out of school and just gave my two weeks notice to my job. I was a computer repair technician, not A+ certified (i would take and pass the test if i had the money to take the blasted thing!). I had to quit because their office is moving across town and there is no possible way for me to communte to and from.
Job opportunity?? In my home town - Madison, MS?? I need this job working for Apple in Madison. Problem is, there are a lot of horrific events that had taken place in my childhood, in Madison. Every time that I'm around my mother or even in that town I am flooded with these bad memories. I cannot live there.
My grandparents live about 20 minutes from Madison and offer me a place to stay and transportation. I could manage to live with them but it would be very, very hard. My grandparents are very firm believers in the "word of god". I'm a little more open minded, you could say
I want to stay in Oxford but simply cannot afford to live on my own right now. A lot of bad decisions that I've made in the past are really catching up to me, financially. Oxford is a better fit for me emotionally but ****ing Madison could help solve my financial and drug issues... maybe.. i don't know. What do you guys think? Despite the lack of details that you would probably need in order to understand my situation a bit more, what would you do if you were me?

I don't know why you're bothering to ask for advice. My bet is you've gotten plenty of good advice in the past, but you haven't bothered to follow it just as you haven't bothered to respond to many of the responses on this thread.
So far I've gathered this much from your posts.
1. College isn't for you
2. Religion isn't for you
3. The military isn't for you
4. You're a drug addict living in a college town
5. You're blaming others for your situation

Please don't move to KC. We've got enough people like you sleeping on our streets and begging for money.

Now here's some advice put into a dumbed-down analogy. There was a Seinfeld episode where George realizes that he's a very poor decision maker so he decides to do the opposite of what he thinks he should do. (Winds up telling a girl he's unemployed and lives with his parents instead of trying to impress her, etc.) As a result, things go well for him. I think it's safe to say that your decision-making ability is piss poor. You should do what George did and reverse your decisions. Your life would look like this:

1. College graduate
2. Devoted man of faith
3. Military supporter/officer
4. Clean and sober life in a grown-up town
5. Accountable for your own actions

Now THAT is a person I would welcome into my community.

[badgirl]

Originally Posted by chagrin

Well, if you gave the advice, does that mean you're...into it???? Quick! Call rednfeisty!

I plead the 5th

If I didn't this thread would take on a whole new twist and this guy would be on drugs the rest of his life cause of all us horney, sex craved maniacs.

[ChiefsFan4Life]

Instead of replying to the thread I think he's too busy sniffing the cocaine hiding under the keys