Engaged?

[Dunit35]

To all the married people on here. How long were you with your partner before you got engaged? Did you live with your partner before you got married? Just curious as to how long people waited.

[bogie]

We met August '96, moved in together October of '96, married January '97 and she was pregnant by July of '97. I literally knew on our 1st date that I wanted to marry her.

[OgTheCaveman]

[KC Jones]

The wife and I had been living together for 2 years and dating exclusively for 3 when she started prodding me about marriage. One day I told her I would give it serious thought, but that I didn't need any sort of pressure from nagging and asked her to drop it for 1 full year. Eight months later I hadn't heard a peep, hint, etc from her on the subject and I proposed.

P.S. It'll be 11 years this August.

[acesn8s]

Originally Posted by Mr. Plow

Let's see. We dated for about 2 years - had a child along the way. Got married in 2000. Have been married ever since. At least until I find a way out - death, maybe?

Marriage is good, but tough. It's worth it.

Marriage is alot easier when you are with right person. The wrong person will only make it miserable. Know in the deapest part of your soul that she is the right one and go for it, don't look back, don't remember how good it was when you were unmarried and build the best foundation that you can for an everlasting life together.

[Iowanian]

Betty Crocker is adding this recipee in the "impending disaster" dessert section.

This sounds to me like a terrible Idea. If you're going to cohabitate....live with her.

Originally Posted by Dunit35

We are renting a house in May with her brother and her best friend. I live with her on the weekends right now.

[Iowanian]

I tried to not.....but I have to.

You don't have to buy a ring every time you get your stinger wet, III.

Since words won't convey the message, I'll use a pic I saw once to explain your impending situation.

[Rain Man]

My secret to knowing if the marriage will work: check out her friends closely. Her friends will show you what her real values are. If you like the friends, then you'll probably be in good shape for the long term. If you can't stand the friends, you're doomed.

[Dunit35]

Originally Posted by Iowanian

Betty Crocker is adding this recipee in the "impending disaster" dessert section.

This sounds to me like a terrible Idea. If you're going to cohabitate....live with her.

We live two hours apart right now...kinda hard to live with her when I'm still goin to school in a different county. When the semester is over I'm moving in with her.

Originally Posted by Rain Man

My secret to knowing if the marriage will work: check out her friends closely. Her friends will show you what her real values are. If you like the friends, then you'll probably be in good shape for the long term. If you can't stand the friends, you're doomed.

What if her friends don't put out?

[SLQ]

Dated for 5 years. No cohabitating.

Married for over 30 years.

Looking for a long awaited honeymoon in Hawaii.

[Iowanian]

I think you've misinterpreted my contribution young trooper.

1. Moving in with a girl, whom you've dated 4 months? add gas
2. Moving in with Girl, her brother and another menstruator American? Lit Match.
3. You? Soon to be Eric Warfield covering Louis Lipps.

Originally Posted by Dunit35

We live two hours apart right now...kinda hard to live with her when I'm still goin to school in a different county. When the semester is over I'm moving in with her.

I've done the long distance thing...its tough.

Be sure to let us know the results.

[Dunit35]

Originally Posted by Iowanian

I think you've misinterpreted my contribution young trooper.

1. Moving in with a girl, whom you've dated 4 months? add gas
2. Moving in with Girl, her brother and another menstruator American? Lit Match.
3. You? Soon to be Eric Warfield covering Louis Lipps.





I've done the long distance thing...its tough.

Be sure to let us know the results.

Oh...my bad. We thought about getting a place for ourselves but decided it'd be cheaper on us to have them live with us too. They're both pretty fun and I like both of them. So..we'll see what happens.

[luv]

I would recommend getting your own place. It's hard enough to try to get adjusted to each other, let alone another couple!

[SLAG]

if you serious about marriage go see a marriage counselor BEFORE you get married..

not saying shit is wrong but it wont hurt... it will give you a solid look at your relationship...

idk if your religious but if some 3rd party counselor isnt in your budget or likes you could check with your local pastor / priest / rabbi.

i do know that the Catholic church does require marriage classes and counseling before they do any marriage.

[luv]

Originally Posted by SLAG

if you serious about marriage go see a marriage counselor BEFORE you get married..

not saying shit is wrong but it wont hurt... it will give you a solid look at your relationship...

idk if your religious but if some 3rd party counselor isnt in your budget or likes you could check with your local pastor / priest / rabbi.

i do know that the Catholic church does require marriage classes and counseling before they do any marriage.

I went to an independent baptist church. Our pastor wouldn't marry people if he couldn't counsel them first. I've never been to one, but I could definitely see where they would be good. Give you some things to think about that you might not have thought about before (or chose not to think about because you're so in love).