What Serious Advice would you offer this guy?

kepp · 03-14-2008, 06:56 AM

This reminds me of an ex-neighbor. Every time he saw me outside doing stuff around the house he would come over and ask for advice about his "relationship". The two of them weren't married, she had kids and she definitely carried his jewels in her purse. She would (according to him) incite her kids to make fun of him for being overweight, ugly, etc and then join in. They had the same issues about money. I told him to move out of there and get on with your life...you're being abused. But he never did, so I finally told him to stop asking for advice if he wasn't going to follow it. The dude was seriously codependent.

DTLB58 · 03-14-2008, 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by kepp

This reminds me of an ex-neighbor. Every time he saw me outside doing stuff around the house he would come over and ask for advice about his "relationship". The two of them weren't married, she had kids and she definitely carried his jewels in her purse. She would (according to him) incite her kids to make fun of him for being overweight, ugly, etc and then join in. They had the same issues about money. I told him to move out of there and get on with your life...you're being abused. But he never did, so I finally told him to stop asking for advice if he wasn't going to follow it. The dude was seriously codependent.

Good advice, both times.

Braincase · 03-14-2008, 07:18 AM

He needs to get mad, recount all the ways she is domineering, if she interrupts tell her that he's not finished so sit the **** and shut the **** up if she has any interest in saving this marriage. At the end of it all, he's gotta look her straight in the eye and ask her if this is the same way her first marriage ended.

He might have two step kids, but unless he stands up for himself, he's not being much of a role model. He needs to pull himself up to a level playing field and just once make her feel as bad as she makes him feel.

Either that, or he leaves a note saying that he's checking into a hotel or staying at a friends house and he's planning on contacting an attorney unless she agrees to go to counseling.

03-14-2008, 06:56 AM	#1
kepp MVP Join Date: Aug 2005 Casino cash: $3459212	This reminds me of an ex-neighbor. Every time he saw me outside doing stuff around the house he would come over and ask for advice about his "relationship". The two of them weren't married, she had kids and she definitely carried his jewels in her purse. She would (according to him) incite her kids to make fun of him for being overweight, ugly, etc and then join in. They had the same issues about money. I told him to move out of there and get on with your life...you're being abused. But he never did, so I finally told him to stop asking for advice if he wasn't going to follow it. The dude was seriously codependent.
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03-14-2008, 07:18 AM	#3
Braincase Banned Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Pond> Me <Barn Casino cash: $11298284	He needs to get mad, recount all the ways she is domineering, if she interrupts tell her that he's not finished so sit the ** and shut the ** up if she has any interest in saving this marriage. At the end of it all, he's gotta look her straight in the eye and ask her if this is the same way her first marriage ended. He might have two step kids, but unless he stands up for himself, he's not being much of a role model. He needs to pull himself up to a level playing field and just once make her feel as bad as she makes him feel. Either that, or he leaves a note saying that he's checking into a hotel or staying at a friends house and he's planning on contacting an attorney unless she agrees to go to counseling. __________________ BrainCase
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