Life Confronting a cheater - Page 3

The Dude Abides · 05:30 PM

Haven't been here in awhile, so check this out. Guess this could be related to the cheaters thread, but oh well. I had been seeing this woman for about 3 years. Everything was great, we got along, amazing sex, etc. But during this whole time, I live in Wichita, she in Newton, a 30 minute drive. She always had to visit me at my house because she lived with her ex. They had never been married, just dated for 9 years. Long story short, I saw the end coming, she was pulling away, as she had done before a few years ago, so I found where she lived and told her supposed ex the whole story of me and his woman. Oh yeah, they were very much together, he said. But he was a big puss and didn't get mad or anything. But needless to say, she got hysterical, said she hated me, i ruined her life, etc. I knew all this was going to happen anyway, but I just couldn't let her get away with her doing the whole player thing. So basically, what is your opinion on confronting the cheaters significant other?

jspchief · 02-16-2009, 04:45 PM

If a guy was screwing my girl, knowing that she was my girl, he's going to get his ass kicked.

Doesn't change that my girl is a slut.

Mecca · 02-16-2009, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by dirk digler

Am I missing something he said the guy was her ex?

If you as a male believe a guy she LIVES WITH is just her ex and they aren't doing anything you are a highly gullible bastard.

**luv** · 02-16-2009, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Mecca

No it's because guys are reeruns and think it can't possibly be their g/fs fault it had to be the other guys fault....as she likely never mentioned she had a b/f or told him she was leaving him or something like that.

Alot of guys never come to terms with the fact that their g/f is just as much at fault as the other guy is.

I don't hink it's that men don't give women credit. I think it's because men want to fight, and most don't hit women.

Mecca · 02-16-2009, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

I don't hink it's that men don't give women credit. I think it's because men want to fight, and most don't hit women.

Then when they go pick a fight with this other dude and he whips their ass they're out a woman and got their ass beat, always a fun ending to a situation.

Picking a fight is how a 15 year old solves a problem.

**dirk digler** · 02-16-2009, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Mecca

If you as a male believe a guy she LIVES WITH is just her ex and they aren't doing anything you are a highly gullible bastard.

Oh I agree but I have known ex's to live with each other for a while anyway.

It seems to me she was probably playing them both

blueballs · 02-16-2009, 04:49 PM

****ing hillbillies

Katipan · 02-16-2009, 04:49 PM

Men want to blame someone. And they'd rather not blame the hole that they'll be able to guilt into becoming their slave.

I know plenty of sad angry men that take their women back.

**dirk digler** · 02-16-2009, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Mecca

Then when they go pick a fight with this other dude and he whips their ass they're out a woman and got their ass beat, always a fun ending to a situation.

Picking a fight is how a 15 year old solves a problem.

I found out my first wife cheated on me after the fact meaning after we divorced but if I would have found out while we were married I might be in jail for murder.

**luv** · 02-16-2009, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Mecca

Then when they go pick a fight with this other dude and he whips their ass they're out a woman and got their ass beat, always a fun ending to a situation.

Picking a fight is how a 15 year old solves a problem.

I don't know. I've known quite a few adult men who resolve it in the same manner.

'Hamas' Jenkins · 02-16-2009, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Mecca

Then when they go pick a fight with this other dude and he whips their ass they're out a woman and got their ass beat, always a fun ending to a situation.

Picking a fight is how a 15 year old solves a problem.

No, it's how a family man solves a problem.

(First in with, "you only say that because you couldn't take GSP in the octagon, like me!!")

Mecca · 02-16-2009, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by dirk digler

Oh I agree but I have known ex's to live with each other for a while anyway.

It seems to me she was probably playing them both

Pretty much which is why I was laughing about this whole "kick his ass!" dynamic that gets posted.

Mecca · 02-16-2009, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by dirk digler

I found out my first wife cheated on me after the fact meaning after we divorced but if I would have found out while we were married I might be in jail for murder.

And why didn't you project those feelings onto the woman it was more her fault than the guys fault...the guy doesn't know you.

**DeezNutz** · 02-16-2009, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

I don't know. I've known quite a few adult men who resolve it in the same manner.

Are they dumbasses? Seriously.

The Dude Abides · 02-16-2009, 04:54 PM

For clarification, when i went to their house, I asked him 3 times if him and the woman were in a relationship. he said yes. That is when i told him what had been going on. I was not looking for a fight, but he didnt even get mad. She had swore up and down that they were not together, I was the only one. She lied, and she got caught

**luv** · 02-16-2009, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by DeezNutz

Are they dumbasses? Seriously.

Come to think of it, one of them was my dipshit ex, so yes.

02-16-2009, 04:21 PM
The Dude Abides Starter Join Date: Jan 2006 Casino cash: $6774940	Confronting a cheater Haven't been here in awhile, so check this out. Guess this could be related to the cheaters thread, but oh well. I had been seeing this woman for about 3 years. Everything was great, we got along, amazing sex, etc. But during this whole time, I live in Wichita, she in Newton, a 30 minute drive. She always had to visit me at my house because she lived with her ex. They had never been married, just dated for 9 years. Long story short, I saw the end coming, she was pulling away, as she had done before a few years ago, so I found where she lived and told her supposed ex the whole story of me and his woman. Oh yeah, they were very much together, he said. But he was a big puss and didn't get mad or anything. But needless to say, she got hysterical, said she hated me, i ruined her life, etc. I knew all this was going to happen anyway, but I just couldn't let her get away with her doing the whole player thing. So basically, what is your opinion on confronting the cheaters significant other? Last edited by The Dude Abides; 02-16-2009 at 05:30 PM..
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02-16-2009, 04:45 PM	#31
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02-16-2009, 04:54 PM	#44
The Dude Abides Starter Join Date: Jan 2006 Casino cash: $6774940	For clarification, when i went to their house, I asked him 3 times if him and the woman were in a relationship. he said yes. That is when i told him what had been going on. I was not looking for a fight, but he didnt even get mad. She had swore up and down that they were not together, I was the only one. She lied, and she got caught
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