Confronting a cheater

[The Dude Abides]

Haven't been here in awhile, so check this out. Guess this could be related to the cheaters thread, but oh well. I had been seeing this woman for about 3 years. Everything was great, we got along, amazing sex, etc. But during this whole time, I live in Wichita, she in Newton, a 30 minute drive. She always had to visit me at my house because she lived with her ex. They had never been married, just dated for 9 years. Long story short, I saw the end coming, she was pulling away, as she had done before a few years ago, so I found where she lived and told her supposed ex the whole story of me and his woman. Oh yeah, they were very much together, he said. But he was a big puss and didn't get mad or anything. But needless to say, she got hysterical, said she hated me, i ruined her life, etc. I knew all this was going to happen anyway, but I just couldn't let her get away with her doing the whole player thing. So basically, what is your opinion on confronting the cheaters significant other?

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by luv

Interesting fun, or interesting wtf?

Indeed.

[The Buddha]

Originally Posted by Saccogoo

I think I threw up in my mouth a little bit.

Jesus, I forgot that girls are so much better at disgusting sex talk than men. I'd never even think of saying some of the things you inadvertently hear women say when they are talking amongst themselves.

I'm horrified.

I am not horrified, but I am skeptical. I have problems believing any woman would talk sexually without doing so with (at least partially) the ulterior motive of getting guy's attention.

I'm not saying I'm right, its just the first thing that comes to mind. Like when I see two girls kissing I think, "Bull crap! Eat each other's muff and then I'll be impressed."

[Color Red]

I'm not thinking it's cheating unless there is a vow somewhere. Sounds more like fornicating.

[Saccopoo]

Originally Posted by The Buddha

I am not horrified, but I am skeptical. I have problems believing any woman would talk sexually without doing so with (at least partially) the ulterior motive of getting guy's attention.

I'm not saying I'm right, its just the first thing that comes to mind. Like when I see two girls kissing I think, "Bull crap! Eat each other's muff and then I'll be impressed."

It's not talking sexually in terms of wanting to get it on with each other, it's the amount of detail and vulgarity that they use when talking with each other about sex, men and stuff. They say stuff that I would never tell a buddy in conversations dealing with such issues. And they tell each other everything.

[Mecca]

I obviously missed alot in this thread.

[The Buddha]

Originally Posted by Saccogoo

It's not talking sexually in terms of wanting to get it on with each other, it's the amount of detail and vulgarity that they use when talking with each other about sex, men and stuff. They say stuff that I would never tell a buddy in conversations dealing with such issues. And they tell each other everything.

I'm too jaded to that stuff to care... I thought you meant trying to talk about sex to get attention.

I have a strong belief that at our cores men are driven by sex, and women by attention. Maybe even beyond that, men are attached to power and women intimacy. But nevertheless, I just am very skeptical of any girl's motive when it comes to doing things men usually like.

The girls on here bring up huge red flags for being insecure and trying to fit in. But I have to tell myself that they ARE being themselves, and this is probably why they feel at home on a male-dominated message board. But I'm very skeptical at first.

As far as women talking vulgar, they still have never gotten to the level my friend and I have. They can talk about periods, anal sex, anything... I just don't care. Hell, I even bought tampons for my gf. And it was the only thing I had to get...

[Katipan]

Originally Posted by The Buddha

I'm too jaded to that stuff to care... I thought you meant trying to talk about sex to get attention.

I have a strong belief that at our cores men are driven by sex, and women by attention. Maybe even beyond that, men are attached to power and women intimacy. But nevertheless, I just am very skeptical of any girl's motive when it comes to doing things men usually like.

The girls on here bring up huge red flags for being insecure and trying to fit in. But I have to tell myself that they ARE being themselves, and this is probably why they feel at home on a male-dominated message board. But I'm very skeptical at first.

As far as women talking vulgar, they still have never gotten to the level my friend and I have.

I bet the fact that I have bigger balls than you could imagine makes me feel at home on a male dominated message board.

Originally Posted by The Buddha

They can talk about periods, anal sex, anything... I just don't care. Hell, I even bought tampons for my gf. And it was the only thing I had to get...

Awww boys are so cute at your age.

[kindra68]

i really, really need to get the internet at home...

[Jilly]

Originally Posted by The Buddha

I'm too jaded to that stuff to care... I thought you meant trying to talk about sex to get attention.

I have a strong belief that at our cores men are driven by sex, and women by attention. Maybe even beyond that, men are attached to power and women intimacy. But nevertheless, I just am very skeptical of any girl's motive when it comes to doing things men usually like.

The girls on here bring up huge red flags for being insecure and trying to fit in. But I have to tell myself that they ARE being themselves, and this is probably why they feel at home on a male-dominated message board. But I'm very skeptical at first.

As far as women talking vulgar, they still have never gotten to the level my friend and I have. They can talk about periods, anal sex, anything... I just don't care. Hell, I even bought tampons for my gf. And it was the only thing I had to get...

I'm just sayin one thing - don't expect every woman to be that way and think you have them figured out. At any given moment one could come along that totally blows out the stereotype.

[KC Dan]

Originally Posted by Jilly

I'm just sayin one thing - don't expect every woman to be that way and think you have them figured out. At any given moment one could come along that totally blows out the stereotype.

Fact!

[luv]

Originally Posted by Jilly

I'm just sayin one thing - don't expect every woman to be that way and think you have them figured out. At any given moment one could come along that totally blows out the stereotype.

I've never met two women who were alike.

[Katipan]

I've been a fly on both girls and boys bathroom walls.

I can guarantee that when girls are with just other girls, they can be far bigger pigs than men could ever strive for.

[Jilly]

Originally Posted by Katipan

I've been a fly on both girls and boys bathroom walls.

I can guarantee that when girls are with just other girls, they can be far bigger pigs than men could ever strive for.

I wouldn't know. I don't hang out with girls much. Too much drama for me.

[Katipan]

Originally Posted by Jilly

I wouldn't know. I don't hang out with girls much. Too much drama for me.

Well we've only hung out online, and we've discussed the proper way to finger bang and keg's asshole. Interestingly enough, we haven't combined those discussions yet. You're married, and I'm done dating the Internet, so it can't be bait.

The girls around me kind of have to be used to my mouth. I've found the chicks that can make fun of themselves without it being over the top deprecating humor, are the best. Course, all girls are a little funny... They'll accept another girl calling out their drama better than they will a guy doing it. Gotta be because at the end of the day, we ain't fooling any of us.

The guys are completely bamboozled tho.

[Jilly]

Originally Posted by Katipan

Well we've only hung out online, and we've discussed the proper way to finger bang and keg's asshole. Interestingly enough, we haven't combined those discussions yet. You're married, and I'm done dating the Internet, so it can't be bait.

The girls around me kind of have to be used to my mouth. I've found the chicks that can make fun of themselves without it being over the top deprecating humor, are the best. Course, all girls are a little funny... They'll accept another girl calling out their drama better than they will a guy doing it. Gotta be because at the end of the day, we ain't fooling any of us.

The guys are completely bamboozled tho.

Your the kind of girl I could deal with, I'm pretty sure, except if you're hot, I could have that danger of getting a crush....but, for now, at least I think I deal with you great on the intrawebs and think we'd probably laugh our asses off in real life. I just find with other girls....everything matters so damn much, seems like they can't let anything go.