Life This sucks at 58 - Page 5

Monk · 04-28-2009, 07:15 PM

I normally don't post on here,but damn I need to vent. I have (had) been married to the same woman for over 35 years. Never a major problem in our relationship. Five weeks ago she informs me she wants a divorce as she has met someone and wants something different in her life.

I worked 25 years for Williams Energy, we put two daughters through college and helped them, as we could, get established in life.

So,today was a meeting between the lawyers and I find out I will have to give her the house (paid for ) a car (new) and 1/2 of my pension,savings, and investments. Now all of that was ours 50/50 any way and she did her part in the marriage. Not only does it hurt like hell but now it looks like at 58 I have to start all over again.

Sorry for spelling or grammer but right now I don't care my heart is broken and soon to be homeless (STARTING OVER AT 58 )

**SAUTO** · 04-28-2009, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by AustinChief

Ok here is the long and short of it.

#1 Colorado has some F-ed up laws...
#2 Based on what I have read so far... the "standard" for CO would be for you to split the house and pay her temporary Alimony
#3 I am assuming they are trying to take ALL of the house in lieu of any alimony (bullshit!)
#4 All lawyers suck and are lazy. Period. if your attorney is highly regarded, that just means she may actually work 20 real hours a week and may actually give a shit and THINK during 2 of those. They are as unethical as automechanics and as unreliable as doctors... so, please get at least ONE other opinion before you agree to something as life changing as your final divorce decree.

(Apologies to any lawyers, docotrs or mechanics... hyperbole needed for point...)

DAMMIT CARL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Delano · 04-28-2009, 07:55 PM

Did she respond poorly to an empty nest or something?

Monk · 04-28-2009, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Bwana

It's what you make it to be honest. Like I said, after all the BS is done, old Monk needs live some dreams and have some fun. I'm not saying go bat shit crazy, but live your life and enjoy it.

Thanks BWANA, I will. But right now, well, right now I feel like the only thing I was able to accomplish in life was raising two beautiful daughters. And trust me they are worth it

Delano · 04-28-2009, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Monk

God I hope so, but right now I see none.

You've got 28,000 in casino cash. What more could a guy ask for?

In all reality, you've got many years left to enjoy. Starting over can be a good thing.

**AustinChief** · 04-28-2009, 07:58 PM

If I were you, I would counter offer, let her keep the house (better for you mentally to start over anyway) .. but in return... you keep 50% of its value (based on most recent property tax) in your pension/investments.

So, if the house is worth $200k and you have $500k in pension/investments... she would only get $150k worth of them instead of $250k

THAT seems like a fair deal.

If you cant get AT LEAST that... might I suggest antifreeze?

**Rain Man** · 04-28-2009, 07:58 PM

Gosh, I'm sorry to hear about this. It's hard to get blindsided like that.

Monk · 04-28-2009, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Delano

You've got 28,000 in casino cash. What more could a guy ask for?

In all reality, you've got many years left to enjoy. Starting over can be a good thing.

Good thing she doesn't about the casino cash or I would probably be splitting that

Cannibal · 04-28-2009, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Monk

Thanks BWANA, I will. But right now, well, right now I feel like the only thing I was able to accomplish in life was raising two beautiful daughters. And trust me they are worth it

Get a downtown Condo! All midsize and larger towns have them! Some of them are sweet fuggin pads.

Cannibal · 04-28-2009, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by AustinChief

If I were you, I would counter offer, let her keep the house (better for you mentally to start over anyway) .. but in return... you keep 50% of its value (based on most recent property tax) in your pension/investments.

So, if the house is worth $200k and you have $500k in pension/investments... she would only get $150k worth of them instead of $250k

THAT seems like a fair deal.

If you cant get AT LEAST that... might I suggest antifreeze?

Sounds like pretty good advice to me.

Monk · 04-28-2009, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by AustinChief

If I were you, I would counter offer, let her keep the house (better for you mentally to start over anyway) .. but in return... you keep 50% of its value (based on most recent property tax) in your pension/investments.

So, if the house is worth $200k and you have $500k in pension/investments... she would only get $150k worth of them instead of $250k

THAT seems like a fair deal.

If you cant get AT LEAST that... might I suggest antifreeze?

Thank you Sir I will

Delano · 04-28-2009, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Monk

Good thing she doesn't about the casino cash or I would probably be splitting that

Nice to see you've still got a great sense of humor.

beavis · 04-28-2009, 08:00 PM

Never trust a female Delmar, remember that one simple precept and your time with me will not have been ill spent.

**Buehler445** · 04-28-2009, 08:00 PM

Holy Jesus ****ing ass Christ. You should inadvertently post her address and we should off her for you. Condolences dude.

Get a new lawyer. It should be 50% of the assets and nothing more from everything that I hear. If I were you I'd say that the house is what she gets. Your retirement is absolutely assenine. You're going to get anal raped getting it out.

I don't know how it all works, but I'd take all your money out and give it to someone you trust. If she wants the house so bad, tell her it is worth way more than she wants and that way she gets no cash. That should force a liquidation of the house and that way you can give her the money and hopefully not liquidate your retirement funds.

If that doesn't work, I would seriously consider liquidating your assets and giving it to someone you trust.

Cannibal · 04-28-2009, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Monk

Good thing she doesn't about the casino cash or I would probably be splitting that

At least you still have a sense of humor.

HMc · 04-28-2009, 08:02 PM

i'd liquidate everything, hide the money in belize, then tell them all to get fkd - you gambled the money away.

04-28-2009, 07:15 PM
Monk Starter Join Date: Aug 2001 Casino cash: $10004900	This sucks at 58 I normally don't post on here,but damn I need to vent. I have (had) been married to the same woman for over 35 years. Never a major problem in our relationship. Five weeks ago she informs me she wants a divorce as she has met someone and wants something different in her life. I worked 25 years for Williams Energy, we put two daughters through college and helped them, as we could, get established in life. So,today was a meeting between the lawyers and I find out I will have to give her the house (paid for ) a car (new) and 1/2 of my pension,savings, and investments. Now all of that was ours 50/50 any way and she did her part in the marriage. Not only does it hurt like hell but now it looks like at 58 I have to start all over again. Sorry for spelling or grammer but right now I don't care my heart is broken and soon to be homeless (STARTING OVER AT 58 )
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04-28-2009, 07:58 PM	#65
AustinChief Administrator Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Austin Casino cash: $-774998	If I were you, I would counter offer, let her keep the house (better for you mentally to start over anyway) .. but in return... you keep 50% of its value (based on most recent property tax) in your pension/investments. So, if the house is worth $200k and you have $500k in pension/investments... she would only get $150k worth of them instead of $250k THAT seems like a fair deal. If you cant get AT LEAST that... might I suggest antifreeze?
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04-28-2009, 08:00 PM	#73
Buehler445 Supporter Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Scott City KS Casino cash: $-1635266	Holy Jesus ****ing ass Christ. You should inadvertently post her address and we should off her for you. Condolences dude. Get a new lawyer. It should be 50% of the assets and nothing more from everything that I hear. If I were you I'd say that the house is what she gets. Your retirement is absolutely assenine. You're going to get anal raped getting it out. I don't know how it all works, but I'd take all your money out and give it to someone you trust. If she wants the house so bad, tell her it is worth way more than she wants and that way she gets no cash. That should force a liquidation of the house and that way you can give her the money and hopefully not liquidate your retirement funds. If that doesn't work, I would seriously consider liquidating your assets and giving it to someone you trust.
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04-28-2009, 08:02 PM	#75
HMc from the very deep south. Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Sydney, Australia. Casino cash: $9944900	i'd liquidate everything, hide the money in belize, then tell them all to get fkd - you gambled the money away.
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