Life S.O. wearing ex's jewelry? - Page 4

El Jefe · 03-02-2010, 04:29 PM

So I was curious about this. Do you think it's ok for your significant other to wear jewelry or clothing articles from their previous significant others? My girlfriend has a few very minor jewlery pieces that she has from past relationships. I don't really care that much, except for a necklace she has from a previous boyfriend that I really don't like, but it's an annoyance that I can deal with. Is there some form of etiquette on this topic? If she had a ton of it, then I would probably be a little more annoyed. I'm sure a lot of you have had similar issues, just curious if it bothered you or not.

acesn8s · 03-02-2010, 09:31 PM

Antifreeze will take care of the situation.

**FRCDFED** · 03-02-2010, 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

The card itself isn't really the issue. It's the time I spend interviewing the card writer to be sure that he or she has the skill to capture the right sentiment, and then working with the writer on draft after draft to get the wording just right. And then looking over all of the proofs of the cover art, identifying the art that matches the concepts the writer is working on, and then working on various versions, adding a unicorn here or moving a flower there. Producing the card is easy compared to the work that I put in before it gets to that stage.

Rep! Awesome!

**FRCDFED** · 03-02-2010, 09:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Bugeater

I guarangoddamntee if it was the other way around she would see to it that you weren't going to wear it anymore.

this!

Spott · 03-02-2010, 09:57 PM

My ex started wearing our engagement ring after we got divorced. I didn't really care that much at the time, although I thought it would have been more fashionable for her to wear it up her ass than on her finger.

**DaFace** · 03-02-2010, 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by GoChiefs

Christ, be a ****ing man. Who gives a shit?

Pretty much this. I'm pretty sure my wife still occasionally wears jewelry one of her exes gave her. Hell, it's too bad they didn't give her more so I wouldn't have to.

**DeezNutz** · 03-02-2010, 10:48 PM

Sorry, she's still seeing him on the side.

The necklace is a sure tell.

JD10367 · 03-02-2010, 11:31 PM

My wife wears an ankle bracelet her ex gave her. I assume it's 'cause she likes ankle bracelets. If it bugged me, I'd buy her one--maybe even the exact one--and say, "Here, wear this one," LOL.

Really, though. It probably doesn't mean anything. And, frankly, if it does... so what?

Why do people assume that, once a relationship ends, you have to chuck out all the good feelings you had during that relationship? If it was a loving, deep, and meaningful relationship, and meant something to her, and didn't end crappily, let her keep her little memento. Is there a rule that says, "While in a relationship, you must love the person, but as soon as it ends you must exorcise them from your memory"? That's kinda shitty. I mean, look, she married YOU, and isn't f**king HIM any more, so what more do you want? Why do people act like being in a relationship must be a mutually-exclusive deal, where every ounce of warmth and affection--past, present, and future--must be directed at the other person?

A piece of jewelry is no different from a photograph, a music album, or some other trinket. It's just a reminder of a happy time. It doesn't mean it's a reminder of a happIER time or a BETTER time.

I have a few rings I no longer wear, and six pieces of jewelry I currently wear. Most was purchased by me, a few weren't. But the only thing I wear that my wife gave me is my wedding ring. Which I think is probably the most important piece. (Although I bought that f**ker too, LOL...)

03-03-2010, 12:49 AM

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Originally Posted by JD10367

My wife wears an ankle bracelet her ex gave her. I assume it's 'cause she likes ankle bracelets.

You should buy her a pendant with a scripted "1985" because, I'll bet she'd like that too.

03-03-2010, 12:50 AM

I make sure to take all the jewelery I purchased any ex with me. Why don't more people have this policy? The only thing I leave behind are stretch marks and mayhem. Why don't more people have this policy?

Joie · 03-03-2010, 01:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

I make sure to take all the jewelery I purchased any ex with me. Why don't more people have this policy? The only thing I leave behind are stretch marks and mayhem. Why don't more people have this policy?

Good policy. But don't leave it where the current SO will find it. Ever. That'll get your ass in trouble, too.

Sell all old jewelry. Period.

03-03-2010, 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Joie

Good policy. But don't leave it where the current SO will find it. Ever. That'll get your ass in trouble, too.

Sell all old jewelry. Period.

I may have left some on her body. Is that bad?

03-03-2010, 01:35 AM

Seriously though, I took the two rings from my ex-wife and have kept them all these years. I plan to give them to my daughters when they're old enough to care - which may be never.

El Jefe · 03-03-2010, 08:10 AM

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Originally Posted by sedated

I don't really see an issue with it.

If it was an engagement ring or a locket with his and her pictures in it, I could see having an issue, but not just some generic earings or whatever.

I still have clothes from past girlfriends, and it never brings back some emotional attachment when I wear it.

How did it come up that it was a gift from an ex? Did she specifically point it out, or did you ask?

We were talking about this kid from our church and how he used to like her, and he gave her a necklace when he was trying to get with her. Then she said that "Joe" gave her something that she still has while they dated. To be honest I just cant stand "Joe", I think he's an idiot.

El Jefe · 03-03-2010, 08:11 AM

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Originally Posted by wild1

WWOJD

FAX · 03-03-2010, 08:17 AM

You guys have me interested, now. I'm going to do an inventory of the beautiful and witty Mrs. FAX's jewelry and establish the provenance of each and every damn piece. If she's still wearing some other guy's ransom, it's going to hit ebay before you can say, "Obsessing on the distant past.". Especially if it's worth any money.

FAX

03-02-2010, 04:29 PM
El Jefe Don't tread on me. Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Where the peaches grow Casino cash: $9030572	S.O. wearing ex's jewelry? So I was curious about this. Do you think it's ok for your significant other to wear jewelry or clothing articles from their previous significant others? My girlfriend has a few very minor jewlery pieces that she has from past relationships. I don't really care that much, except for a necklace she has from a previous boyfriend that I really don't like, but it's an annoyance that I can deal with. Is there some form of etiquette on this topic? If she had a ton of it, then I would probably be a little more annoyed. I'm sure a lot of you have had similar issues, just curious if it bothered you or not.
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03-02-2010, 09:31 PM	#46
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03-02-2010, 09:57 PM	#49
Spott Court Jester Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Orlando Casino cash: $-867600	My ex started wearing our engagement ring after we got divorced. I didn't really care that much at the time, although I thought it would have been more fashionable for her to wear it up her ass than on her finger.
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03-02-2010, 11:31 PM	#52
JD10367 Cheaterlover* Join Date: May 2009 Location: RI Casino cash: $10010716	My wife wears an ankle bracelet her ex gave her. I assume it's 'cause she likes ankle bracelets. If it bugged me, I'd buy her one--maybe even the exact one--and say, "Here, wear this one," LOL. Really, though. It probably doesn't mean anything. And, frankly, if it does... so what? Why do people assume that, once a relationship ends, you have to chuck out all the good feelings you had during that relationship? If it was a loving, deep, and meaningful relationship, and meant something to her, and didn't end crappily, let her keep her little memento. Is there a rule that says, "While in a relationship, you must love the person, but as soon as it ends you must exorcise them from your memory"? That's kinda shitty. I mean, look, she married YOU, and isn't fking HIM any more, so what more do you want? Why do people act like being in a relationship must be a mutually-exclusive deal, where every ounce of warmth and affection--past, present, and future--must be directed at the other person? A piece of jewelry is no different from a photograph, a music album, or some other trinket. It's just a reminder of a happy time. It doesn't mean it's a reminder of a happIER time or a BETTER time. I have a few rings I no longer wear, and six pieces of jewelry I currently wear. Most was purchased by me, a few weren't. But the only thing I wear that my wife gave me is my wedding ring. Which I think is probably the most important piece. (Although I bought that fker too, LOL...)
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03-03-2010, 12:50 AM	#54
Phobia Guest Casino cash: $	I make sure to take all the jewelery I purchased any ex with me. Why don't more people have this policy? The only thing I leave behind are stretch marks and mayhem. Why don't more people have this policy?
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03-03-2010, 01:35 AM	#57
Phobia Guest Casino cash: $	Seriously though, I took the two rings from my ex-wife and have kept them all these years. I plan to give them to my daughters when they're old enough to care - which may be never.
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03-03-2010, 08:17 AM	#60
FAX testing ... 1, 2, 3 Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Tennessee Casino cash: $6753759	You guys have me interested, now. I'm going to do an inventory of the beautiful and witty Mrs. FAX's jewelry and establish the provenance of each and every damn piece. If she's still wearing some other guy's ransom, it's going to hit ebay before you can say, "Obsessing on the distant past.". Especially if it's worth any money. FAX
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