Parental advice needed

[wutamess]

Originally Posted by Mr. Plow

But, it is what it is. I wouldn't change the way things have happened in my life, but I hope that I can get him to understand (as he gets older) that the consequences of having sex can alter your entire life - as they did for my wife & I.

Uh Eddie... If u turned out just fine. Don't you think you're not a good example to use? Just keep it real with him to keep things simple. Tellem there's consequences but don't tellem u had him too young.

[ClearmontChief]

When the oldest son was 13 or 14, my wife told me one day that she'd found a dirty magazine in his room and asked "what should we do?"

I thought for about a half second and asked her "was it pictures of girls?"

She, "yes"

Then I said, "Be happy he's looking at girls." That's about the best we could hope for I suppose.

We didn't confront him about it.

[Brock]

Originally Posted by ClearmontChief

When the oldest son was 13 or 14, my wife told me one day that she'd found a dirty magazine in his room and asked "what should we do?"

I thought for about a half second and asked her "was it pictures of girls?"

She, "yes"

Then I said, "Be happy he's looking at girls." That's about the best we could hope for I suppose.

We didn't confront him about it.

As opposed to looking at what? Farm animals?

[ClearmontChief]

Originally Posted by Brock

As opposed to looking at what? Farm animals?

Seriously? That's your question?

As the father of a young man, I was happy that he found interest in the female (human) form!

Enough said...

[Mr. Plow]

Originally Posted by ClearmontChief

Seriously? That's your question?

As the father of a young man, I was happy that he found interest in the female (human) form!

Enough said...

I know what you're saying.

[Brock]

Originally Posted by ClearmontChief

Seriously? That's your question?

As the father of a young man, I was happy that he found interest in the female (human) form!

Enough said...

You'd be unhappy to find he found interest in the male form?

[Mr. Plow]

Originally Posted by wutamess

Uh Eddie... If u turned out just fine. Don't you think you're not a good example to use? Just keep it real with him to keep things simple. Tellem there's consequences but don't tellem u had him too young.

I want him to learn from what I've done. Like I said, I wouldn't change it - because of it I have him, his two brothers, his little sister, and my lovely wife. But I want him to have his time growing up that I didn't get.

[wutamess]

Originally Posted by Mr. Plow

I want him to learn from what I've done. Like I said, I wouldn't change it - because of it I have him, his two brothers, his little sister, and my lovely wife. But I want him to have his time growing up that I didn't get.

Not to nag... but that's contradictory... You wouldn't change it because you're already living it. but you would because u missed your "growing up".

Life happens... It's just me but I think it might make him feel kinda "unwanted" so to speak. Or a sense of obligation (if that's the word I'm looking for). Just educate him without your own experience of making him think he's a problem you can't turn your back on.

[Mr. Plow]

Originally Posted by wutamess

Not to nag... but that's contradictory... You wouldn't change it because you're already living it. but you would because u missed your "growing up".

Life happens... It's just me but I think it might make him feel kinda "unwanted" so to speak. Or a sense of obligation (if that's the word I'm looking for). Just educate him without your own experience of making him think he's a problem you can't turn your back on.

Trust me - I know what you are getting at and you are probably right. I know what I want to say on the subject, but just can't find the right words to describe it. And....if I can't describe it on here, I'd probably do the opposite of what I would want when talking to him.