Life Age when you figured out you were becoming your father/mother

Discuss Thrower · 06-19-2010, 10:32 PM

... and when you figured it out, how'd you deal with it? I've caught myself acting / sounding like, and even probably thinking, just like my dad and I'm not exactly thrilled with the idea for some reasons. Not that he's a bad guy or anything, but there are definitely attributes that I'd rather not emulate and I'm getting a little freaked out.

DISCUS.

Stanley Nickels · 06-19-2010, 10:38 PM

I couldn't hope for much more. I'm one of those people who really admire both of my parents and (although well after my youth) appreciate the way they raised me.

In response to your question, though, I find myself thinking very similarly on certain issues, but probably won't get that "holy cow, I'm my mother/father" epiphany until I have kids

**bevischief** · 06-19-2010, 10:42 PM

Many close calls, but no cigar...

Not trying, or paying for it...

badgirl · 06-19-2010, 11:33 PM

I noticed it most when my kids started becoming more indepedent.

**pr_capone** · 06-20-2010, 06:56 AM

I hope it never happens. Sometimes I can't help but think that I would have rather been an orphan.

**Gonzo** · 06-20-2010, 07:18 AM

I have some personality traits from both of my parents. That being said, I'm fairly different than both of them. By mom is really laid back but has bad mood swings. My dad is a nice guy but really high strung, always on the go etc. He's 62 and still jogs 3-5 miles a day and hits weights etc.
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angelo · 06-20-2010, 07:35 AM

I am almost a dead ringer for my father.
He died when I was young and it is difficult to sometimes to see the pain in my Mothers eyes. She will sometimes call me by his name because we also sound alike and have the same mannerisms. He was an alcoholic, He always drank but for a 2 year period it got out of control. When he was given a choice of the Booze or the Family he went to a 30 day in patient rehab. He died 6 months later of cancer.

My wife say's that I also have a lot of my mothers personality and traits.

I have the utmost respect and love for my parents. My Mother however is a rock. She bows to no one.

Ang

Pushead2 · 06-20-2010, 08:09 AM

everyone calls me my Dad's shadow. I took a lot from him and conformed it to my own ways.

**Bane** · 06-20-2010, 08:58 AM

Never.I'm not like either one of my parents.I loved my parents but they were both alcoholics but they never paid me much attention,and mostly I felt unwanted.They were always busy drinking,fighting,or never home so I kinda grew up on my own.My main goal in life is to make my boys better men than I have become and to never subject them to the bringing up I lived.I could never imagine treating my boys anything like my mother/father did me.

**pr_capone** · 06-20-2010, 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by bane_58

My main goal in life is to make my boys better men than I have become and to never subject them to the bringing up I lived.I could never imagine treating my boys anything like my mother/father did me.

**luv** · 06-20-2010, 09:56 AM

I do and say stuff just like my mom does, which drives me crazy. I have a lot of my dads personality traits. I would say I really started noticing both in my mid twenties.
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Stanley Nickels · 06-20-2010, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by luv

I have a lot of my dads personality traits.
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I dunno.. You don't seem much like milkman

**Rain Man** · 06-20-2010, 12:12 PM

One day several years ago I was walking around and my back was stiff, and I realized that I was walking exactly like my dad walked when he was about my age. Kind of freaked me out. I always thought it was just his physiology or something - didn't realize it was a stiff back.

**kysirsoze** · 06-20-2010, 01:45 PM

I definitely have some aspects of both, but I am very different from them. I went Gaz option since either I am not too much like them, or I haven't realized it yet.

**007** · 06-20-2010, 02:28 PM

Right after I became a parent.

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< 18	3	6.52%
19-24	8	17.39%
25-34	18	39.13%
35-46	10	21.74%
< 47	0	0%
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06-19-2010, 10:32 PM
Discuss Thrower "You like to drink?" Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: "I like to drink." Casino cash: $-380000	Age when you figured out you were becoming your father/mother ... and when you figured it out, how'd you deal with it? I've caught myself acting / sounding like, and even probably thinking, just like my dad and I'm not exactly thrilled with the idea for some reasons. Not that he's a bad guy or anything, but there are definitely attributes that I'd rather not emulate and I'm getting a little freaked out. DISCUS.
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06-19-2010, 10:38 PM	#2
Stanley Nickels [null] Join Date: Sep 2008 Casino cash: $1632893	I couldn't hope for much more. I'm one of those people who really admire both of my parents and (although well after my youth) appreciate the way they raised me. In response to your question, though, I find myself thinking very similarly on certain issues, but probably won't get that "holy cow, I'm my mother/father" epiphany until I have kids __________________ Bacon-wrapped shrimp: My first-favorite food wrapped around my third-favorite food. I'd go to a banquet in honor of those Somali pirates if they served bacon-wrapped shrimp.
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06-19-2010, 11:33 PM	#4
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06-20-2010, 06:56 AM	#5
pr_capone THREEPEAT!!! Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NWMO Casino cash: $9948214	I hope it never happens. Sometimes I can't help but think that I would have rather been an orphan.
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06-20-2010, 07:18 AM	#6
Gonzo Stuff & Things Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: The Yukon Casino cash: $10126924	I have some personality traits from both of my parents. That being said, I'm fairly different than both of them. By mom is really laid back but has bad mood swings. My dad is a nice guy but really high strung, always on the go etc. He's 62 and still jogs 3-5 miles a day and hits weights etc. Posted via Mobile Device
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06-20-2010, 07:35 AM	#7
angelo Starter Join Date: Oct 2007 Casino cash: $9094965	I am almost a dead ringer for my father. He died when I was young and it is difficult to sometimes to see the pain in my Mothers eyes. She will sometimes call me by his name because we also sound alike and have the same mannerisms. He was an alcoholic, He always drank but for a 2 year period it got out of control. When he was given a choice of the Booze or the Family he went to a 30 day in patient rehab. He died 6 months later of cancer. My wife say's that I also have a lot of my mothers personality and traits. I have the utmost respect and love for my parents. My Mother however is a rock. She bows to no one. Ang
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06-20-2010, 08:09 AM	#8
Pushead2 **** off Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: New York Casino cash: $6331882	everyone calls me my Dad's shadow. I took a lot from him and conformed it to my own ways. __________________ "**** up once, lose two teeth....”
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06-20-2010, 08:58 AM	#9
Bane C.H.I.E.F.S Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: **** your face Casino cash: $10005055	Never.I'm not like either one of my parents.I loved my parents but they were both alcoholics but they never paid me much attention,and mostly I felt unwanted.They were always busy drinking,fighting,or never home so I kinda grew up on my own.My main goal in life is to make my boys better men than I have become and to never subject them to the bringing up I lived.I could never imagine treating my boys anything like my mother/father did me. Last edited by Bane; 06-20-2010 at 09:31 AM..
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06-20-2010, 09:56 AM	#11
luv You think you can get by this? Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Springfield, MO Casino cash: $-1250000	I do and say stuff just like my mom does, which drives me crazy. I have a lot of my dads personality traits. I would say I really started noticing both in my mid twenties. Posted via Mobile Device
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06-20-2010, 12:12 PM	#13
Rain Man Seize life. Be an ermine. Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: My house Casino cash: $-682449 VARSITY	One day several years ago I was walking around and my back was stiff, and I realized that I was walking exactly like my dad walked when he was about my age. Kind of freaked me out. I always thought it was just his physiology or something - didn't realize it was a stiff back. __________________ Active fan of the greatest team in NFL history.
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06-20-2010, 01:45 PM	#14
kysirsoze SNAP THE ****ING BALL!!! Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: KCMO Casino cash: $66946	I definitely have some aspects of both, but I am very different from them. I went Gaz option since either I am not too much like them, or I haven't realized it yet.
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06-20-2010, 02:28 PM	#15
007 Shaken. Not stirred. Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: London Casino cash: $12140126 VARSITY	Right after I became a parent. __________________ My dear girl, there are some things that just aren’t done. Such as, drinking Dom Perignon ’53 above the temperature of 38 degrees Fahrenheit. That’s just as bad as listening to the Beatles without earmuffs.
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