Life Flabbergasted and pissed - Page 4

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 04:07 PM

Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain.

I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again.

He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon.

So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!"

When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sh*t. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool.

But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F***'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this a**hole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks.

*So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?

**pr_capone** · 08-01-2010, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

I should of because then I would of used that napkin to wipe your face.

**DeezNutz** · 08-01-2010, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by DaFace

Douche move on his part? Yeah. An understandable thing to overlook? Yeah. He should have been more apologetic. Other than that...meh.
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Overlook? Is that a euphemism for "broke"?

Apparently the dude couldn't swing the cost of his own reception or honeymoon. Thus expecting him to have the limo waiting seems pretty unlikely.

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by DeezNutz

Overlook? Is that a euphemism for "broke"?

Apparently the dude couldn't swing the cost of his own reception or honeymoon. Thus expecting him to have the limo waiting seems pretty unlikely.

The dude even reserved tuxedo's, and made us pay $144 bucks for them.

Oh and he ordered them without shoes too!

*Cheapa** mother****er

**jAZ** · 08-01-2010, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Brock

I know. You're upset because this guy who got married didn't want to listen to your whining on his wedding day and suggested several options to get you back to your car, but you wanted a bus or something to take you back. It's trivial bullshit. You want to start the namecalling, you sound like a whiny little bitch over the whole thing.

I must not be missing anything. Or if I am, I'm not alone.

**jAZ** · 08-01-2010, 05:20 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

The dude even reserved tuxedo's, and made us pay $144 bucks for them.

Oh and he ordered them without shoes too!

*Cheapa** mother****er

That's pretty typical. I was suprised the first time that happened to me. But it's been every single wedding I've been in.

In my own, I didn't ask anyone in the party to stand with me in a tux. Just had them get up during the ceremony and talk for a minute in their regular clothes, then sit back down. Cheap, easy and fun.

**Bugeater** · 08-01-2010, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

The dude even reserved tuxedo's, and made us pay $144 bucks for them.

Oh and he ordered them without shoes too!

*Cheapa** mother****er

That's pretty standard. It's what you sign up for when you agree to be a best man/groomsman/usher. The women normally have to buy their dresses as well.

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by jAZ

That's pretty typical. I was suprised the first time that happened to me. But it's been every single wedding I've been in.

In my own, I didn't ask anyone in the party to stand with me in a tux. Just had them get up during the ceremony and talk for a minute in their regular clothes, then sit back down. Cheap, easy and fun.

Really?

I've been in a few wedding parties and that one was a first for me. I too was surprised, but now that you tell me it has happened to you on numerous counts it may seem like a common thingy.

**DaneMcCloud** · 08-01-2010, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

The dude even reserved tuxedo's, and made us pay $144 bucks for them.

Oh and he ordered them without shoes too!

*Cheapa** mother****er

Wow, you sound like a whiny crybaby.

First off, wedding day is very stressful for both the bride and groom. It's a nerve-racking process that usually takes about a year to plan. You are responsible for your own transportation and if there were any questions, you should have brought them up at an earlier date, even during the rehearsal. And complaining about the bride taking care of family from Greece? Are you insane?

Secondly, every wedding in which I've been a groomsman or usher, I've paid for the tuxedo myself. In cases where the wedding was in a completely different state or city, a local tux shop measures for the suit and shoes, and that is faxed to a shop where the wedding takes place. That said, I paid for the tuxedos for my groomsmen and ushers because most were coming in from out of state on their own dime. But it is NOT unusual to pay for your own tuxedo.

Go to Walgrens and pick up some Midol. You need it.

**pr_capone** · 08-01-2010, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

The dude even reserved tuxedo's, and made us pay $144 bucks for them.

Oh and he ordered them without shoes too!

*Cheapa** mother****er

Jeez... someone has to stop by and change your pampers. That has been the case for every single wedding I have ever been a part of.

Hootie · 08-01-2010, 05:27 PM

I just thought it was funny how he was complaining about the transportation thing...and then the groom went out of his way to try and get him a ride with some other dudes that had transportation...only for that not to be acceptable and him take a cab and bail out!

If a cab was an option the whole time...why was this ever a big deal? That's what I didn't get...

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by pr_capone

Jeez... someone has to stop by and change your pampers. That has been the case for every single wedding I have ever been a part of.

Okay gimme a f***ing break I didn't know it was a common thing.

Lex Luthor · 08-01-2010, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

Cab fare was 60 bucks.

But that's not the point. It's the treatment received.

It was about him being a snake about something, and not being open, honest, and considerate towards me. I acted nice, considerate and did a favor for him, and when I asked him for something back in return I pretty much get abit of f*** you I don't give a sh*t attitude...that pretty much explains the hated and the rage.

that's a big deal to me.

Get the sand out of your vagina. It was his fucking wedding night for Christ's sakes.

If you ever whine about this to him, he would be justified in immediately dropping you from his friend list.

**Bwana** · 08-01-2010, 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by sandynme

fuccccckkkk leach losers,you dont even always notice one when there are bigger ones around.do like i did, dump your wife and it will be like you bought a new pair of glasses.ex gone new woman in life,all better.

English Mother fucker!

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 05:33 PM

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Originally Posted by DaneMcCloud

Wow, you sound like a whiny crybaby.

First off, wedding day is very stressful for both the bride and groom. It's a nerve-racking process that usually takes about a year to plan. You are responsible for your own transportation and if there were any questions, you should have brought them up at an earlier date, even during the rehearsal. And complaining about the bride taking care of family from Greece? Are you insane?

Secondly, every wedding in which I've been a groomsman or usher, I've paid for the tuxedo myself. In cases where the wedding was in a completely different state or city, a local tux shop measures for the suit and shoes, and that is faxed to a shop where the wedding takes place. That said, I paid for the tuxedos for my groomsmen and ushers because most were coming in from out of state on their own dime. But it is NOT unusual to pay for your own tuxedo.

Go to Walgrens and pick up some Midol. You need it.

F*** off dude...i do not have much experience as you or as others in parties..and just because you do or your opinions stand different what gives you the right to insult me?

Saccopoo · 08-01-2010, 05:34 PM

You're pissy about the groom not giving you a ride home on his wedding night?

**** me.

08-01-2010, 04:07 PM
RedThat Banned Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Earth Casino cash: $10004900	Flabbergasted and pissed Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain. I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again. He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon. So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!" When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sht. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool. But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this ahole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks. *So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?
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08-01-2010, 05:27 PM	#55
Hootie Banned Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Dallas, Texas Casino cash: $10004900	I just thought it was funny how he was complaining about the transportation thing...and then the groom went out of his way to try and get him a ride with some other dudes that had transportation...only for that not to be acceptable and him take a cab and bail out! If a cab was an option the whole time...why was this ever a big deal? That's what I didn't get...
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08-01-2010, 05:34 PM	#60
Saccopoo Kindness in words... Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Zion Casino cash: $10025483	You're pissy about the groom not giving you a ride home on his wedding night? **** me.
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