Life Flabbergasted and pissed - Page 8

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 04:07 PM

Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain.

I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again.

He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon.

So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!"

When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sh*t. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool.

But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F***'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this a**hole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks.

*So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?

08-01-2010, 10:59 PM

Hey - RedThat - why don't you pick us up a twelver and come over. We'll drink your beer on my deck and you can cry in your beer. Then you can pass out. I promise to throw a mosquito net over you.

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 11:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

Hey - RedThat - why don't you pick us up a twelver and come over. We'll drink your beer on my deck and you can cry in your beer. Then you can pass out. I promise to throw a mosquito net over you.

I got more than a twelver

**The Bad Guy** · 08-01-2010, 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

I maintained my composure while I was there. I kept it inside, and Im just sharing how I felt about the whole incident. Never told him, hey you're a dick didn't like the way I was treated etc..Never said anything like that..Deep down in my own heart Im mad, I just never express it out to him in person.

Alright. It could have been a lot more organized. Like I said previously, if I was told beforehand that it was my responsibility to find my way back home, no complaints about that. I understand its a wedding and sh*t gets stressful and stuff like that can easily be overlooked. But when you ask a simple question, and someone says to you, "it's not my responsibility." Or, offers me suggestions on what I should do..i.e, like go hitch a ride with someone else. Think about that? Put that together, and the guy sounds like a real dick to me.

Now, if he was apologetic about the incident and said it straight like, "hey you know something, Im really sorry about that. I should of told you beforehand, that it is your own responsibility to find a ride home. Or you know something, let me see if I could do something for you." THATS WHAT A DECENT FRIEND IS ALL ABOUT BUDDY!

But expecting him to do something for you, at that instant, after an insanely stressful day, is bad. Putting a groom in that situation also isn't a decent thing to do. I'm sure you knew others at the wedding and didn't have to put it all on his shoulders at the end of the night when the only thing he wants to do is go upstairs and consumate the marriage.

**chasedude** · 08-01-2010, 11:07 PM

You're "friend" is definitely a dick. I know where you're coming from, having helped out those in need only to seen it thrown back in my face. Drop the dude like a big pile-o-shit and hang out with those that appreciate your friendship.

**pr_capone** · 08-01-2010, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

Alright. It could have been a lot more organized. Like I said previously, if I was told beforehand that it was my responsibility to find my way back home, no complaints about that. I understand its a wedding and sh*t gets stressful and stuff like that can easily be overlooked. But when you ask a simple question, and someone says to you, "it's not my responsibility." Or, offers me suggestions on what I should do..i.e, like go hitch a ride with someone else. Think about that? Put that together, and the guy sounds like a real dick to me.

Now, if he was apologetic about the incident and said it straight like, "hey you know something, Im really sorry about that. I should of told you beforehand, that it is your own responsibility to find a ride home. Or you know something, let me see if I could do something for you." THATS WHAT A DECENT FRIEND IS ALL ABOUT BUDDY!

WOW.

Would it have been nice had he told you ahead of time? Yup. Could you have acted like a man and fended for yourself instead of throwing a hissy fit? Yup.

At that point when you ask him how you are going to get home... what did you expect him to do? Drop you off on the way to take what is maritally his? "Hey guys, can you swing me by my place before you seal the deal?"

Really??? What did you expect from him at that point? What kind of a man tries to cockblock his buddy on his wedding night?

**pr_capone** · 08-01-2010, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by The Bad Guy

But expecting him to do something for you, at that instant, after an insanely stressful day, is bad. Putting a groom in that situation also isn't a decent thing to do. I'm sure you knew others at the wedding and didn't have to put it all on his shoulders at the end of the night when the only thing he wants to do is go upstairs and consumate the marriage.

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 11:14 PM

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Originally Posted by The Bad Guy

But expecting him to do something for you, at that instant, after an insanely stressful day, is bad. Putting a groom in that situation also isn't a decent thing to do. I'm sure you knew others at the wedding and didn't have to put it all on his shoulders at the end of the night when the only thing he wants to do is go upstairs and consumate the marriage.

I did know others at the wedding but honestly Im not going to go up to them and ask them for a ride home. Dude, I'd feel embarrassed to do that.

*I see your point of view, but Im grateful in a way that stuff like this happens because it shows the true colours of a person. jmo

Stanley Nickels · 08-01-2010, 11:14 PM

I don't know if I'm the only one, but this would never happen with my friends. I don't mean the limo, money, etc issues-- that's life. No, I mean the in-fighting and drama. If somebody ****s me over, we get angry at one another. Once the tiff is over, we buy each other a beer and life goes on. If it becomes a pattern, you have everyone call the guy on it until he mans up; if he doesn't, nobody calls him anymore to hang out. I guess that's just our way of handling things. I wouldn't think it's too uncommon though.

LaChapelle · 08-01-2010, 11:15 PM

Stop giving a **** what these mother ****ers think
giving is what got you into this mess to begin with
do what you gotta

**pr_capone** · 08-01-2010, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

I did know others at the wedding but honestly Im not going to go up to them and ask them for a ride home. Dude, I'd feel embarrassed to do that.

But not to embarrassed to ask the groom before he goes to play hide the pickle.

08-01-2010, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by pr_capone

WOW.

Would it have been nice had he told you ahead of time? Yup. Could you have acted like a man and fended for yourself instead of throwing a hissy fit? Yup.

At that point when you ask him how you are going to get home... what did you expect him to do? Drop you off on the way to take what is maritally his? "Hey guys, can you swing me by my place before you seal the deal?"

Really??? What did you expect from him at that point? What kind of a man tries to cockblock his buddy on his wedding night?

He didn't throw a fit. The groom took him to the wedding so a reasonable expectation is that arrangements had been made to get them back to their vehicles. The groom could have said - "crap - my bad, can you make it work" and this dude wouldn't have a problem. Instead, the groom said something kinda crappy. I get where he's coming from.

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 11:17 PM

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Originally Posted by pr_capone

WOW.

Would it have been nice had he told you ahead of time? Yup. Could you have acted like a man and fended for yourself instead of throwing a hissy fit? Yup.

At that point when you ask him how you are going to get home... what did you expect him to do? Drop you off on the way to take what is maritally his? "Hey guys, can you swing me by my place before you seal the deal?"

Really??? What did you expect from him at that point? What kind of a man tries to cockblock his buddy on his wedding night?

No no..do you really think I would expect that?

All i wanted was a little decency. Thats it.

08-01-2010, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

I got more than a twelver

Dude - no crappy water beer at my house. The stuff you bring here ... a twelver is plenty for two dudes.

**chasedude** · 08-01-2010, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by RedThat

No no..do you really think I would expect that?

All i wanted was a little decency. Thats it.

Screw these ****ers... they're just enjoying a good pile on.

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by pr_capone

But not to embarrassed to ask the groom before he goes to play hide the pickle.

Well, the only reason I asked him was because he was responsible for taking me there, and I thought Id ask him only because he and his wife organized the whole damn thing.

08-01-2010, 04:07 PM
RedThat Banned Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Earth Casino cash: $10004900	Flabbergasted and pissed Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain. I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again. He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon. So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!" When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sht. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool. But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this ahole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks. *So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?
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08-01-2010, 11:14 PM	#113
Stanley Nickels [null] Join Date: Sep 2008 Casino cash: $1632893	I don't know if I'm the only one, but this would never happen with my friends. I don't mean the limo, money, etc issues-- that's life. No, I mean the in-fighting and drama. If somebody **s me over, we get angry at one another. Once the tiff is over, we buy each other a beer and life goes on. If it becomes a pattern, you have everyone call the guy on it until he mans up; if he doesn't, nobody calls him anymore to hang out. I guess that's just our way of handling things. I wouldn't think it's too uncommon though. __________________ Bacon-wrapped shrimp: My first-favorite food wrapped around my third-favorite food. I'd go to a banquet in honor of those Somali pirates if they served bacon-wrapped shrimp.**
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