Parenting advice needed: 13 yo female

[Buehler445]

Look at Hootie contributing.

Anyway, I cannot have kids. Particularly girls. I would go to jail for mass genocide for killing all boys in the school system.

Best of luck Rog.

[ShortRoundChief]

Originally Posted by Buehler445

Look at Hootie contributing.

Anyway, I cannot have kids. Particularly girls. I would go to jail for mass genocide for killing all boys in the school system.

Best of luck Rog.

Well if you do have kids particularly a girl please inform us. That way we can get all our boys out of the school system.

[Buehler445]

Originally Posted by MotherLover

Well if you do have kids particularly a girl please inform us. That way we can get all our boys out of the school system.

Will do buddy.

[FlaChief58]

I got a cell for my son when he was 13 with the understanding that it was mine to do with as I pleased as long as I payed the bill. I would ramdomly ask him for the phone and go through it to see what he was up to. The same applied to his computer (my space, facebook, etc). I would tell him to log on, then go through his messages. I never hid the fact I would be doing this, so if he tried to give me any lip about it I simply told him his options. Either you let me check up on you or there will be no phone or computer (except for homework). If chores were not done, the phone was taken for no less than 1 week.

He's out on his own now so I don't have to worry about it anymore. I would say that you should be honest with her about the situation and tell her how you will be handeling things in the future and most importantly, follow through with whatever the penalty is for not following the rules of the house.

[L.A. Chieffan]

i have a 12 year old daughter and she sill thinks boys are gross. parenting superwin!

[R8RFAN]

Originally Posted by L.A.Chieffan

i have a 12 year old daughter and she sill thinks boys are gross. parenting superwin!

Give it a year and see how that superwin is working for ya.

[L.A. Chieffan]

Originally Posted by R8ers

Give it a year and see how that superwin is working for ya.

i said she could go the social d concert the other nite and she didnt come back drunk or nothin

[ShortRoundChief]

Originally Posted by L.A.Chieffan

i said she could go the social d concert the other nite and she didnt come back drunk or nothin

lol

[R8RFAN]

Originally Posted by L.A.Chieffan

i said she could go the social d concert the other nite and she didnt come back drunk or nothin

God bless you and her

Just hang tight a yr and get back to me....

P.S. My daughter is 14

[NewChief]

Originally Posted by L.A.Chieffan

i said she could go the social d concert the other nite and she didnt come back drunk or nothin

Mike Ness thanks you.

[ShortRoundChief]

Originally Posted by L.A.Chieffan

i have a 12 year old daughter and she sill thinks boys are gross. parenting superwin!

Yes at 12 my daughter thought boys were gross as well. Fast forward 2 years later and she's hormonally supercharged.


Premature win.

[L.A. Chieffan]

Originally Posted by MotherLover

Yes at 12 my daughter thought boys were gross as well. Fast forward 2 years later and she's hormonally supercharged.


Premature win.

nah you guys just aint cool dads i guess

[ShortRoundChief]

Originally Posted by L.A.Chieffan

nah you guys just aint cool dads i guess

My child can be my friend when she's an adult. Until then that's not my job.

[L.A. Chieffan]

Originally Posted by MotherLover

My child can be my friend when she's an adult. Until then that's not my job.

my job is to make sure she aint on the pole and my son aint on the pipe

[Mosbonian]

Originally Posted by wutamess

I know what to do with my younger ones because they're younger and I can discipline them pretty much at will but my 13 yo is at the age where she doesn't get spankings anymore.

So with her it's more punishments, etc. for the last 2 years or so.

Anyhow, reluctantly got her a phone for Xmas because of the wifes constant harping on the issue. I told wifey this is on her. So today I ask the daughter to clean the kitchen and empty out the dishwasher. After she left the kitchen I noticed eating utensils still in there. So I told her to clean it out. At that time, she had her phone in her hand.

I noticed she's been running to this phone a lot over the last couple of days. So she lays the phone down on the couch and I pick it up and go to my room to see what the "fun is all about".

When I initially gave her the phone, I told her not to call any boys, etc. I disabled text on the phone and web access but I knew kids act like prisoners and mind ways around everything.

So I went through her phone and she's been skyping a guy. Their conversation was basically useless until i saw that she must've been going out with the guy or something and she's trying to impress him to get his attention again but he doesn't seem interested anymore. Then she tells him about her cup size, how far she's been, etc.

Here's your answer Mr. Obvious next question: She's grinded on someone (while dancing at one of her previous schools dances). And she's french kissed someone. Haven't questioned her about it yet.

My question is... WTF do I do?

My initial gut feeling is to turn the phone off as I didn't really see a need for it anyways and it seems like more of a distraction/enabler more than anything. Besides, her friends all have cell phones if she needs to use one.

I'm more of a traditional raising parent. I think 13 is too young for a cell phone (NTTAWWT). I just think she needs one when she gets a car but not at the moment.

Don't really feel like looking dumb witty replies/smilies. Please keep it serious/mature for a moment before the shinanigans start..

wutamess:

My input for you....buy the following book it gives you some good tips.

"52 Things Kids Need from a Dad"

While it doesn't have every answer to every problem, it does give some good insight. But the best advice anyone should give you is that you know your child better than any of us, and you probably already know the answer to your own questions.

Good luck.