Misc Does the "no contact" rule work? - Page 6

God of Thunder · 11:39 AM

We've all had those breakups! The ones you didn't see coming, or the ones you did and didn't do anything about it! For whatever reason though, your friends, family, and everyone else always seem to say...

"Do NOT contact them, and in time, they'll come running and begging back"

This always seems strange, however, I think it generally holds true. Once you're gone, you start to mean more to that person. Once you know longer think about it, they tend to come flying back.

Do you all find this to be true or not?

BigCatDaddy · 02-08-2012, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by bevischief

That is not a good idea. I sat on Federal jury trial that a boyfriend did this. It did not end up well for him. No jail time but it cost him a lot of cash.

Did he post it online or just mail them out?

I would think there are ways he could have just accidently left a copy here or there

trndobrd · 02-08-2012, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by bevischief

That is not a good idea. I sat on Federal jury trial that a boyfriend did this. It did not end up well for him. No jail time but it cost him a lot of cash.

That sounds a lot better than sitting in a jury trial for some oil lease contract dispute. How long did it take the jury to 'carefully review the evidence?"

qabbaan · 02-08-2012, 12:54 PM

Does anyone believe this is the first "date" she has been on?

God of Thunder · 02-08-2012, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Demonpenz

so are you going to blog on here and man up and move on or are you going to text or email her (cause you lie to yourself, that's not REALLY CONTACTING HER) hehe.

Ain't no way in hell I will contact her......actually that's not true, if I decide I need my clothes at her house, and she doesn't ever speak to me again (not sure of the chances), then I MAY text her asking to give me my stuff back so I can move on...........not sure.

cookster50 · 02-08-2012, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder

I am doing my best at moving on. Monday night I went and played bar poker, tuesday I went to my buddies and played ping pong. Tonight i'm chilling at home, Tomorrow I will be at a bar.

I am trying to move on like i'll never speak to her again. It's hard that she ended it the way she did, and then admitted to dating someone else....that's whats making this hard. The revenge part may be childish, but I feel like she deserves it.

And FAX, it wasn't just lying. It was lying about stupid shit.

She'd claim "I am going to Houlihans with my work friends" and i'd say "okay!" and I was in the area, and drove by there to see if she was there (I had suspicions she was seeing someone else at this time) and she WAS NOT THERE!! when I confronted her about it later, she said "fine.....we actually went to a movie, and I was scared to tell you because you always invite me to movies and I say no"

Then, couple days later, she said she was having "ladies" night at Whiskey tango. Well, I went with some of my friends, and on teh way home from the Casino, they stopped by there. Needless to say, SHE WAS NOT THERE. I had a stamp on my hand showing I paid cover, when I met up with her later that night, I asked to see her hands like I was going to say something important.........I asked her what she did at WT, and she said "we just watched people dance!" and then I sprung it on her! NO STAMP ON THE HAND. She then admitted they actually went to power and light..............so trust me, there was A LOT of red flags,and I just kept allowing it.

Dude, you were her sloppy seconds. Yuck!

God of Thunder · 02-08-2012, 01:04 PM

I also want to add, that all this shit happened Sunday night, and Monday morning, she sent this text.......

"I honestly care about you but not in the way you want. I just don't feel out connection anymore and haven't for awhile. I'm sorry I haven't been honest. You deserve better. Try to have fun this week and in Florida."

KCUnited · 02-08-2012, 01:04 PM

Wait for ol boy to knock her up and then MTG#10 dat ass!

**Rain Man** · 02-08-2012, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder

I also want to add, that all this shit happened Sunday night, and Monday morning, she sent this text.......

"I honestly care about you but not in the way you want. I just don't feel out connection anymore and haven't for awhile. I'm sorry I haven't been honest. You deserve better. Try to have fun this week and in Florida."

Say goodbye, Gracie.

Move on to the next chapter. You're done here, and as others have mentioned, be glad that it's happening without a bunch of lawyers. (No offense to the lawyers around here.)

God of Thunder · 02-08-2012, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

Say goodbye, Gracie.

Move on to the next chapter. You're done here, and as others have mentioned, be glad that it's happening without a bunch of lawyers. (No offense to the lawyers around here.)

So i'll never hear from her again?

YourMult · 02-08-2012, 01:12 PM

She's a skank, and you chose poorly. Find another one of the 3.5 billion women on Earth to date. At least none of them have used your sheets to wipe off another man's jizz.

Crush · 02-08-2012, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder

Ain't no way in hell I will contact her......actually that's not true, if I decide I need my clothes at her house, and she doesn't ever speak to me again (not sure of the chances), then I MAY text her asking to give me my stuff back so I can move on...........not sure.

Unless she has your three wolf shirt, I wouldn't bother getting your clothes back.

Graystoke · 02-08-2012, 01:16 PM

They are all Bitches...except our Mom's.

ghak99 · 02-08-2012, 01:16 PM

You've already missed several opportunities to exit the situation with the cards falling in your favor, and might have screwed up your opportunity to get the revenge **** you desire. If you've been allowing yourself to get played all along you're screwed and might as well start licking your wounds and forgetting about her. If you've kept cool through this and have any kind of an upper hand.. DO NOT initiate contact with her in any way. Go silent, disappear, move on, work out, play cards, do whatever it is you do. If for some dumb ass reason you have contact with her mom again, leave the conversation with a subtle compliment to her daughter from a straight face... It'll get back to her.

We all know a cute "girl next door", so scoop her up and make a couple public appearances with her while remaining single. Break out the black book and work over a few of the good ones who know how to keep their mouth shut so you're not tempted to nut youself by getting drunk and calling your ex in the middle of the night. Give her enough time to cycle through the current loser, gain 10 pounds, and crash and burn. When your phone blows up a week, a month, or a year from now show no emotion but hit the buttons and pull the strings that'll land her on her knees. LEAVE ALL YOUR EMOTIONS OUT OF IT... from here on out its a business transaction, she just doesn't know it yet. Buy the dinner, the drinks, & go through the motions... wrap the night up with trying to put her head through the head board, PuttingIIHB, and painting her face. Leave absolutely nothing behind when you leave in the middle of the night. Play it out right and it'll happen more than once.

If you don't have the experience to make this play out right, learn from it and put the knowledge gained into play on the next one.

**Rain Man** · 02-08-2012, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder

So i'll never hear from her again?

Hopefully not.

And that's no offense to you or to her, but you're done with her. She's made that pretty clear. The ideal solution is the one mentioned earlier where you bump into her 20 years from now when you're happy and affluent and have a two-vaginaed wife with K-cup breasts, and when she asks how you're doing you say, "Couldn't be better!"

But yeah, a clean break is good in this type of situation. We've all been there.

**Rain Man** · 02-08-2012, 01:19 PM

If I ever need someone to help clean up a murder scene, I'm thinking that ghak99 is my guy. He's got this stuff down.

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02-08-2012, 01:04 PM	#81
God of Thunder Trained to reign as the one. Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Casino cash: $8849344	I also want to add, that all this shit happened Sunday night, and Monday morning, she sent this text....... "I honestly care about you but not in the way you want. I just don't feel out connection anymore and haven't for awhile. I'm sorry I haven't been honest. You deserve better. Try to have fun this week and in Florida."
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02-08-2012, 01:12 PM	#85
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02-08-2012, 01:16 PM	#88
ghak99 MVP Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Missouri Casino cash: $-1907750	You've already missed several opportunities to exit the situation with the cards falling in your favor, and might have screwed up your opportunity to get the revenge **** you desire. If you've been allowing yourself to get played all along you're screwed and might as well start licking your wounds and forgetting about her. If you've kept cool through this and have any kind of an upper hand.. DO NOT initiate contact with her in any way. Go silent, disappear, move on, work out, play cards, do whatever it is you do. If for some dumb ass reason you have contact with her mom again, leave the conversation with a subtle compliment to her daughter from a straight face... It'll get back to her. We all know a cute "girl next door", so scoop her up and make a couple public appearances with her while remaining single. Break out the black book and work over a few of the good ones who know how to keep their mouth shut so you're not tempted to nut youself by getting drunk and calling your ex in the middle of the night. Give her enough time to cycle through the current loser, gain 10 pounds, and crash and burn. When your phone blows up a week, a month, or a year from now show no emotion but hit the buttons and pull the strings that'll land her on her knees. LEAVE ALL YOUR EMOTIONS OUT OF IT... from here on out its a business transaction, she just doesn't know it yet. Buy the dinner, the drinks, & go through the motions... wrap the night up with trying to put her head through the head board, PuttingIIHB, and painting her face. Leave absolutely nothing behind when you leave in the middle of the night. Play it out right and it'll happen more than once. If you don't have the experience to make this play out right, learn from it and put the knowledge gained into play on the next one.
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