Misc Does the "no contact" rule work? - Page 8

God of Thunder · 11:39 AM

We've all had those breakups! The ones you didn't see coming, or the ones you did and didn't do anything about it! For whatever reason though, your friends, family, and everyone else always seem to say...

"Do NOT contact them, and in time, they'll come running and begging back"

This always seems strange, however, I think it generally holds true. Once you're gone, you start to mean more to that person. Once you know longer think about it, they tend to come flying back.

Do you all find this to be true or not?

Skyy God · 02-08-2012, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder

I have before!

Seriously, how will we know whether a grudge-3some is worth it without pics?

Imon Yourside · 02-08-2012, 02:10 PM

The no contact rule didn't work last nite, you can ask my wife if you don't believe me.

Mr. Laz · 02-08-2012, 02:11 PM

i find it ONLY WORKS if you really mean it.

The problem is that you can't really mean it if it's a ploy.

it's similar to the problem about finding a girl when you NEED a girl.

It's always easier to get a chick when you already have one because you truly act different.

You have to really move on ... REALLY,REALLY move on, or it's just fake and it won't work.

Skyy God · 02-08-2012, 02:20 PM

As always, Swingers has sage advice on the topic.

**bevischief** · 02-08-2012, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Pittsie

Did she cheat on him? I doubt it matters legally, but it's probably a mitigating factor for the jury.

She was just divorced and wanted to have some fun (the kind you see in porn films), he wanted to get married she didn't and cut him off. So he sent the pics. He spent some money on her flying back and forth from KC area to out to California and a few resorts.

Skyy God · 02-08-2012, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by bevischief

She was just divorced and wanted to have some fun (the kind you see in porn films), he wanted to get married she didn't and cut him off. So he sent the pics. He spent some money on her flying back and forth from KC area to out to California and a few resorts.

Interesting. They also charge him with violating the Mann Act?

tooge · 02-08-2012, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder

I also want to add, that all this shit happened Sunday night, and Monday morning, she sent this text.......

"I honestly care about you but not in the way you want. I just don't feel out connection anymore and haven't for awhile. I'm sorry I haven't been honest. You deserve better. Try to have fun this week and in Florida."

Oooouuuuch! Let me translate for you. "I needed a guy when I was lonely to hang out with. You were there and it was, well, Ok. Then, I realized a really wanted a guy I could have lots of fun with and have sex like crazy. You weren't that guy. You wanted to be, but I found some other guys that were more fun to let treat me like a $40 **** doll. Soooo, even tho you want to be that guy, I'm gonna let you off easy and just tell you that I needed a break and go back to getting pummeled by other guys"

KCUnited · 02-08-2012, 03:37 PM

I know it hurts now, but the reality is that a year from now this chick will simply be fap memory material while your new girl is upstairs getting ready.

Imon Yourside · 02-08-2012, 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by htismaqe

Dude, in all seriousness. That last conversation should be the last time you EVER initiate contact with her.

If she "wants a break" and wants to keep dating this other guy, she's EXPLORING. She doesn't want you but she wants the security she has with you. If she can't find it somewhere else, she's gonna come crawling back. You don't wanna be that guy.

Cut her loose and move on.

I apologize for not taking this thread seriously, but this is the best advice you could take. You might take the low road and give her an earful but it would be better to not have ANY contact at all with her and let it go.

trndobrd · 02-08-2012, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Laz

i find it ONLY WORKS if you really mean it.

The problem is that you can't really mean it if it's a ploy.

it's similar to the problem about finding a girl when you NEED a girl.

It's always easier to get a chick when you already have one because you truly act different.

You have to really move on ... REALLY,REALLY move on, or it's just fake and it won't work.

The "No Contact" rule also works when imposed by a judge. A common result when the self-imposed "No Contact" rule is ignored.

Bump · 02-08-2012, 03:58 PM

nope, just call a cab and move on

Pasta Little Brioni · 02-08-2012, 04:36 PM

Thank your lucky stars you didn't get an STD and walk away.

02-08-2012, 05:49 PM

Just be glad the gal told you and move on. Lots of sluts don't even tell you until they're caught in bed with your best friend and then you're scarred and turn gay. That's how it happens.

HMc · 02-08-2012, 06:15 PM

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Originally Posted by tooge

Oooouuuuch! Let me translate for you. "I needed a guy when I was lonely to hang out with. You were there and it was, well, Ok. Then, I realized a really wanted a guy I could have lots of fun with and have sex like crazy. You weren't that guy. You wanted to be, but I found some other guys that were more fun to let treat me like a $40 **** doll. Soooo, even tho you want to be that guy, I'm gonna let you off easy and just tell you that I needed a break and go back to getting pummeled by other guys"

Huh?

I think she's being pretty reasonable. It sounds like he's pushed her away with borderline stalkerish behaviour.

Tip: Girls don't like obsessive boys. At least not the ones worth having.

Mr. Laz · 02-08-2012, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by HMc

Huh?

I think she's being pretty reasonable. It sounds like he's pushed her away with borderline stalkerish behaviour.

Tip: Girls don't like obsessive boys. At least not the ones worth having.

it's true, the girl has got to need you before you let her see/know that you need her.

This is like rule #1 for dating

NEVER,EVER be needy until after you have her hooked ... EVER!!!

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