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R8RFAN · 02-19-2012, 07:20 AM

Help me figure out this chick for a good friend of mine..

Ok, my friend was married for 16 years, his wife basically came home one day and said she did not want to be married anymore... So that's over... He has been legally separated for like 6 months now. He has 2 very well behaved children....

Ok here's the deal, the guy met a good looking woman about 3 months ago and she would like to come over in the mornings to his house and booty call him after all the kids go to school (he works nights too) and she was happy with that.

Background on her, she is very good looking , 35 years old but she has one major problem and that problem is her 2 kids from hell,(10 & 5) I mean these kids hit her, disrespect her and everybody she is around, run in restaurants , slam doors so hard you think they are coming off the hinges etc... imagine bad then add 10 times more to it... I mean really bad.

He is a very dedicated Dad and his kids come #1 in his life and she is mad because he will not spend more time with her, she is now withholding the promised land from him now trying to get her way.... Should he just dump her and move onto another woman who just wants to date? He has 3 or 4 scoping him out and want to date him. What do I tell this dumbass to prevent him from living a life of misery with this girl

R8RFAN · 02-20-2012, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Predarat

If she is just a **** buddy she should not be all that hard to cut loose. That is what they are there for, they serve their purpose, when you are done with them its well...bye time.

She has an agenda though

R8RFAN · 02-20-2012, 08:53 AM

PS the dumbass texted her last night, so I get to hear about this shit for another week

**Predarat** · 02-20-2012, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by R8ers

She has an agenda though

Its that ****ing apple.

**Lzen** · 02-20-2012, 09:19 AM

My initial instincts, like everyone else here, is to just move on and forget about her. But just to look at the other side for a minute, perhaps he should consider telling her what he thinks of her kids' behavior. Tell her that it needs to change or he's gone. Be honest. Let her know that he needs to be allowed to discipline them. I don't know, maybe he has already done this to no avail.

And I admit that I don't know how these things work as I have never been divorced. However, I was one of those kids from a divorce. I can tell you that I was not always pleasant to my mom's boyfriends. Once, we were supposed to go boating with my cousins on a Sunday afternoon. Her boyfriend at the time decided he didn't feel like it. I was so pissed because I was so looking forward to that. I kicked the shit out of his briefcase. It was a nice, expensive one. It was toast.

I also got into a few confrontations (later on) with my step dad. I'm just saying that divorce is not always easy on the kids and just because they are acting out now does not mean they won't end up being productive members of society. Perhaps the good Lord has put your friend in this position to be a positive role model for these kids.

R8RFAN · 02-20-2012, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Lzen

My initial instincts, like everyone else here, is to just move on and forget about her. But just to look at the other side for a minute, perhaps he should consider telling her what he thinks of her kids' behavior. Tell her that it needs to change or he's gone. Be honest. Let her know that he needs to be allowed to discipline them. I don't know, maybe he has already done this to no avail.

And I admit that I don't know how these things work as I have never been divorced. However, I was one of those kids from a divorce. I can tell you that I was not always pleasant to my mom's boyfriends. Once, we were supposed to go boating with my cousins on a Sunday afternoon. Her boyfriend at the time decided he didn't feel like it. I was so pissed because I was so looking forward to that. I kicked the shit out of his briefcase. It was a nice, expensive one. It was toast.

I also got into a few confrontations (later on) with my step dad. I'm just saying that divorce is not always easy on the kids and just because they are acting out now does not mean they won't end up being productive members of society. Perhaps the good Lord has put your friend in this position to be a positive role model for these kids.

Dude does not live with her and has known her for only 3 months... it's not his job to discipline her kids, that's her job... I told him a few minutes ago he was a fool for falling for the first pretty face that comes along after coming from a 16 yr marriage that to be honest he isn't even over yet... The girls love the dude, it's not like he is a loser, Has a nice home, nice car, kinda a neat freak, a 25k bass boat in the garage and makes good money (he works with me) He just needs to slow down is what he needs more than anything....

Monty · 02-20-2012, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by R8ers

Seriously, if you were a single man and a knockout comes over to your house and wakes you up and is totally naked.... Are you going to lock her out? Seriously?

There is no such thing as free Tang. He'll pay for it one way or the other, I guarantee it. I've been in this situation and he needs to break it off ASAP and leave the teacher behind too. He needs to give it some time. Nothing wrong with having fun, but set some boundaries upfront. Self preservation is more important long term. Life has enough challenges without willingly introducing more into the equation.

R8RFAN · 02-20-2012, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Monty

There is no such thing as free Tang. He'll pay for it one way or the other, I guarantee it. I've been in this situation and he needs to break it off ASAP and leave the teacher behind too. He needs to give it some time. Nothing wrong with having fun, but set some boundaries upfront. Self preservation is more important long term. Life has enough challenges without willingly introducing more into the equation.

Yea that's the problem, she acts like she don't understand boundaries, I tell you this woman acts like a 20 yr old in a 35 yr old body...

I told him that a man has no obligation to give up his world to someone he is not married to, she plays head games with him and knows he is a bit fragile after that breakup of his high school sweetheart...

He will get a belly full soon, last time he took her out those hell children were with them, he said that one of them squirted ketchup on him while standing in the booth screaming... he said the whole restaurant was looking at them and he thought of hiding under the table.

Monty · 02-20-2012, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by R8ers

Yea that's the problem, she acts like she don't understand boundaries, I tell you this woman acts like a 20 yr old in a 35 yr old body...

I told him that a man has no obligation to give up his world to someone he is not married to, she plays head games with him and knows he is a bit fragile after that breakup of his high school sweetheart...

He will get a belly full soon, last time he took her out those hell children were with them, he said that one of them squirted ketchup on him while standing in the booth screaming... he said the whole restaurant was looking at them and he thought of hiding under the table.

He's the only one who can change his situation. If you've advised him, that's all you can do as a friend. IMO, he'd be better off using an escort service until his perspective improves if he's allowing the sex to control everything else in his life. If it were 5-7 years from now, I'm sure he'd look at his situation differently.

R8RFAN · 02-20-2012, 11:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Monty

He's the only one who can change his situation. If you've advised him, that's all you can do as a friend. IMO, he'd be better off using an escort service until his perspective improves if he's allowing the sex to control everything else in his life. If it were 5-7 years from now, I'm sure he'd look at his situation differently.

He asked me to text him everyday and remind him of those hellion kids, so I have been wearing his ass out

I told him to keep the fire department on speed dial because one of those future felons would probably try to burn it down.

R8RFAN · 02-20-2012, 04:30 PM

He is driving me crazy now, She is going out with the girls and this dumbass is feeling sorry for himself... boy is sickening

**Predarat** · 02-20-2012, 04:38 PM

Sometimes you just have to let them **** it up for themselves. Bet she will tell him she met a guy she was interested in while she was out just to minipulate him.

R8RFAN · 02-20-2012, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Predarat

Sometimes you just have to let them **** it up for themselves. Bet she will tell him she met a guy she was interested in while she was out just to minipulate him.

Oh yea, she posted on her facebook that she was going out with the girls and he is like a puppy pissing down his leg now

Monty · 02-20-2012, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by R8ers

Oh yea, she posted on her facebook that she was going out with the girls and he is like a puppy pissing down his leg now

R8RFAN · 02-20-2012, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Monty

little bastard just texted me he has the school teacher on the phone now.... Good, maybe he will leave me alone for a while

R8RFAN · 02-20-2012, 06:07 PM

said she wanted to come over and watch a Tarheel game... I told him that was great, they could do it doggy style and neither would miss the game

02-19-2012, 07:20 AM
R8RFAN Molôn Labé Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: North Carolina Casino cash: $8466872	Dear Chiefsplanet Help me figure out this chick for a good friend of mine.. Ok, my friend was married for 16 years, his wife basically came home one day and said she did not want to be married anymore... So that's over... He has been legally separated for like 6 months now. He has 2 very well behaved children.... Ok here's the deal, the guy met a good looking woman about 3 months ago and she would like to come over in the mornings to his house and booty call him after all the kids go to school (he works nights too) and she was happy with that. Background on her, she is very good looking , 35 years old but she has one major problem and that problem is her 2 kids from hell,(10 & 5) I mean these kids hit her, disrespect her and everybody she is around, run in restaurants , slam doors so hard you think they are coming off the hinges etc... imagine bad then add 10 times more to it... I mean really bad. He is a very dedicated Dad and his kids come #1 in his life and she is mad because he will not spend more time with her, she is now withholding the promised land from him now trying to get her way.... Should he just dump her and move onto another woman who just wants to date? He has 3 or 4 scoping him out and want to date him. What do I tell this dumbass to prevent him from living a life of misery with this girl
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02-20-2012, 08:53 AM	#77
R8RFAN Molôn Labé Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: North Carolina Casino cash: $8466872	PS the dumbass texted her last night, so I get to hear about this shit for another week
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02-20-2012, 09:19 AM	#79
Lzen Banded Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Oz Casino cash: $-679308	My initial instincts, like everyone else here, is to just move on and forget about her. But just to look at the other side for a minute, perhaps he should consider telling her what he thinks of her kids' behavior. Tell her that it needs to change or he's gone. Be honest. Let her know that he needs to be allowed to discipline them. I don't know, maybe he has already done this to no avail. And I admit that I don't know how these things work as I have never been divorced. However, I was one of those kids from a divorce. I can tell you that I was not always pleasant to my mom's boyfriends. Once, we were supposed to go boating with my cousins on a Sunday afternoon. Her boyfriend at the time decided he didn't feel like it. I was so pissed because I was so looking forward to that. I kicked the shit out of his briefcase. It was a nice, expensive one. It was toast. I also got into a few confrontations (later on) with my step dad. I'm just saying that divorce is not always easy on the kids and just because they are acting out now does not mean they won't end up being productive members of society. Perhaps the good Lord has put your friend in this position to be a positive role model for these kids. __________________ Conversation would be vastly improved by the constant use of four simple words: I do not know.
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02-20-2012, 04:30 PM	#85
R8RFAN Molôn Labé Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: North Carolina Casino cash: $8466872	He is driving me crazy now, She is going out with the girls and this dumbass is feeling sorry for himself... boy is sickening
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02-20-2012, 04:38 PM	#86
Predarat Run Chiefs fans, run!! Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Nashville, TN Casino cash: $9963863	Sometimes you just have to let them **** it up for themselves. Bet she will tell him she met a guy she was interested in while she was out just to minipulate him.
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02-20-2012, 06:07 PM	#90
R8RFAN Molôn Labé Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: North Carolina Casino cash: $8466872	said she wanted to come over and watch a Tarheel game... I told him that was great, they could do it doggy style and neither would miss the game
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