Do you ever feel like a disappointment?

[TLO]

A bit of a more serious thread for our Sunday night.

Do you ever feel like a disappointment to;
To your family?
Your friends
Significant other?
Other people you care about?

Just a little background.

I would consider myself to be at least somewhat successful in life. I graduated high school, got my Bachelor's degree, and I make a positive impact on people's lives each day. I would say that I'm generally a good person. I help people when I can. I treat all people I interact with kindness. Am I perfect? No. But who is?

I've been having this nagging feeling that I'm not good enough for the people around me. It's not a fun feeling.

Anyone else experience anything like this?

[loochy]

Originally Posted by George Brett Statue

A bit of a more serious thread for our Sunday night.

Do you ever feel like a disappointment to;
To your family?
Your friends
Significant other?
Other people you care about?

Just a little background.

I would consider myself to be at least somewhat successful in life. I graduated high school, got my Bachelor's degree, and I make a positive impact on people's lives each day. I would say that I'm generally a good person. I help people when I can. I treat all people I interact with kindness. Am I perfect? No. But who is?

I've been having this nagging feeling that I'm not good enough for the people around me. It's not a fun feeling.

Anyone else experience anything like this?

Every single day. I might seem successful on the outside to others, but my job, while paying extremely well, is a soulless existence as a cog in a massive corporation that profits from the suffering and destruction of fellow humans. I can't just drink the koolaid like everyone else and hide behind "patriotism", "freedom", "our troops". I was pointed out at a very early age as an intellectually gifted individual and I've come nowhere close to realizing my potential, and at my age it's too late to make a major change, as my family depends on me. I've failed myself. I've failed my family because I want them to be proud of what I do, but I'm not even proud of what I do.

[Couch-Potato]

Usually, but sometimes I drink and then I feel drunk

[KCUnited]

I honestly think Simply Red posted an article along these lines back in the day.

The gist of it, and the best sentiment I’ve ever read and carry with me everyday, is that no one is thinking about you.

No one is thinking about you.

That’s not an insult. It’s reality.

Free yourself from thinking that people are thinking about you because they’re not.

[Spott]

Originally Posted by loochy

Every single day. I might seem successful on the outside to others, but my job, while paying extremely well, is a soulless existence as a cog in a massive corporation that profits from the suffering and destruction of fellow humans. I can't just drink the koolaid like everyone else and hide behind "patriotism", "freedom", "our troops". I was pointed out at a very early age as an intellectually gifted individual and I've come nowhere close to realizing my potential, and at my age it's too late to make a major change, as my family depends on me. I've failed myself. I've failed my family because I want them to be proud of what I do, but I'm not even proud of what I do.

Even though you work for Comcast, we still think you’re a good dude.

[Katipan]

Originally Posted by loochy

Every single day. I might seem successful on the outside to others, but my job, while paying extremely well, is a soulless existence as a cog in a massive corporation that profits from the suffering and destruction of fellow humans. I can't just drink the koolaid like everyone else and hide behind "patriotism", "freedom", "our troops". I was pointed out at a very early age as an intellectually gifted individual and I've come nowhere close to realizing my potential, and at my age it's too late to make a major change, as my family depends on me. I've failed myself. I've failed my family because I want them to be proud of what I do, but I'm not even proud of what I do.

Well you’ve pretty much ruined any future snarky comments I may have made towards you. Thanks a lot.

[Vladimir_Kyrilytch]

Originally Posted by Couch-Potato

Usually, but sometimes I drink and then I feel drunk

At the risk of getting in trouble for cross-promoting threads within the same website, don't miss the drinking contests going on in the Romper Room, Mr. Potato.

[|Zach|]

Originally Posted by Vladimir_Kyrilytch

The only people that could honestly answer "no, I've never felt like a disappointment" are this new younger generation, the participation trophy generation.

Know how I know you never actually talk to young people? There are a lot of ways to describe Gen Z or younger this is not remotely one of them.

[Vladimir_Kyrilytch]

Originally Posted by |Zach|

Know how I know you never actually talk to young people? There are a lot of ways to describe Gen Z or younger this is not remotely one of them.

Yeah, it usually involves some wack "pronoun" like "they" and "she/they" and "their/them" and yes, there are plant and cat based pronouns, and yes, they'll cancel ya if you don't learn em. Next time you talk to those fine folks, teach them how words work, and then I can talk to them using words. Until then, they'll be mad at my words.

[|Zach|]

Originally Posted by Vladimir_Kyrilytch

Yeah, it usually involves some wack "pronoun" like "they" and "she/they" and "their/them" and yes, there are plant and cat based pronouns, and yes, they'll cancel ya if you don't learn em. Next time you talk to those fine folks, teach them how words work, and then I can talk to them using words. Until then, they'll be mad at my words.

You are full of shit. You are not speaking about real experiences. Nobody who is actually around the younger generation thinks they walk around thinking they are without fault. A group of kids riddled with anxiety who grew up on the internet understanding the full scale of the world as to wonder if they even have a place in it.

[Tylerthigpen!1!]

Originally Posted by George Brett Statue

I've been having this nagging feeling that I'm not good enough for the people around me. It's not a fun feeling.

Anyone else experience anything like this?

What triggers the feeling? Is it something implied or said? Does "good enough" equate to money? morality? purposeful job? kids?

I know i feel like a complete piece of shit when i slack off at work. It turns into me not wanting to face my problems then i slack off even more and the cycle goes further down the drain.

[Vladimir_Kyrilytch]

Originally Posted by |Zach|

You are full of shit. You are not speaking about real experiences. Nobody who is actually around the younger generation thinks they walk around thinking they are without fault. A group of kids riddled with anxiety who grew up on the internet understanding the full scale of the world as to wonder if they even have a place in it.

Zach, we're about to both get kicked out in the lounge if we keep this up. Let me just tell you I think you're naive, outright stupid, and fully brainwashed. I don't respect you at all and I judge you on the trash ideas you spit out, like a dirty asshole spits out diarrhea after a meal of improperly cooked food.

We can bring it to DC, mate.

[|Zach|]

Originally Posted by Vladimir_Kyrilytch

Zach, we're about to both get kicked out in the lounge if we keep this up. Let me just tell you I think you're naive, outright stupid, and fully brainwashed. I don't respect you at all and I judge you on the trash ideas you spit out, like a dirty asshole spits out diarrhea after a meal of improperly cooked food.

We can bring it to DC, mate.

Nothing political about you making up a bunch of fake shit pretending you know anything about the younger generation. No reason to move this thread.

The rest of your post is just you being a drama queen.

[Katipan]

Why would you get punished for cross promoting a thread but not a forum?
What’s the ****ing difference?

[jerryaldini]

Originally Posted by loochy

Every single day. I might seem successful on the outside to others, but my job, while paying extremely well, is a soulless existence as a cog in a massive corporation that profits from the suffering and destruction of fellow humans. I can't just drink the koolaid like everyone else and hide behind "patriotism", "freedom", "our troops". I was pointed out at a very early age as an intellectually gifted individual and I've come nowhere close to realizing my potential, and at my age it's too late to make a major change, as my family depends on me. I've failed myself. I've failed my family because I want them to be proud of what I do, but I'm not even proud of what I do.

Hey Loochy, that's some heavy karma to feel like you're contributing directly to the suffering of others. Here's a perspective from another old guy that has experienced the emptiness of the corporate machinery, take it or leave it.

You didn't ultimately choose this path, it chose you. Think back to when you made the decisions that led you here. Examine all the causes and conditions that influenced those decisions. For whatever reason we'll never know, this is the part the universe chose you to play in the dance at this stage of your existence. Maybe that soulless place you work needs a cog that sees beyond the profits, in whatever way that manifest at work. Just the fact you posted this in such an honest way gave me a boost.

You can only do the good that's in front of you, and if it's not at work, then the time and energy you're giving your family and community can provide plenty of meaning and create loads of good karma. The way you expressed this wisdom, I bet those kids think the world of you! Sending some good mental vibes your way Looch!

[Rain Man]

Originally Posted by |Zach|

What would you be doing if you family had control of your path instead of you?

They believe that I should live in their town, doing an old-economy job that they understand and relate to. I would also be unmarried so I could spend all my time serving them, and I would have their exact hobbies and no other.

This is not speculation.