Life Chiefsplanet advice - Page 4

MOhillbilly · 08-29-2013, 08:41 AM

For a fee I'm happy to be your back door man.

No homo.

For real I'd confront them face to face. Nothing solves problems like violence.

**SAUTO** · 08-29-2013, 04:59 PM

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Originally Posted by MOhillbilly

For a fee I'm happy to be your back door man.

No homo.

For real I'd confront them face to face. Nothing solves problems like violence.

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Red Beans · 08-29-2013, 08:45 AM

I "dated" a dancer/instructor. She was by far the most insane sexual creature I've ever dealt with. That was certainly a good and bad thing...

Rasputin · 08-29-2013, 08:49 AM

I can't stand them damn dance mom kid shows on tv

Discuspting and spitting when I say that.

Chiefshrink · 08-29-2013, 09:12 AM

Baby and Luv have given good advice and I will piggyback off of them. Here's a curveball tooge. In our culture in America too many families let the wife lead the way,way too much and clean up all the messes(literally and figuratively) and especially when Dads are very pissed because Mom doesn't want Dad to lose his temper and the relational politics are not ruined. Women in general avoid conflict and it is very easy for them to smooth it out without real resolution and men in general just want to fight thus resolution is avoided as well.

However, you are an adult and you were wise enough to calm your emotions. I think both you and your wife need to show a united front with 'you' taking the lead. There is nothing more refreshing and desired by a wife than a husband who truly takes the lead for the family in most things good or bad. Men have gotten lazy in our society and let the wife pretty much do it all. Now I am not saying you are like this whatsoever but if I'm reading between the lines correctly here you not only want to be a part of this resolution but you actually want to take the lead because this is your little girl !! Correct ?

This is what 'real men' do and it will do wanders for your relationship with your wife as well as your family and you will find surprisingly that leadership is how we as men are wired and it feels more comfortable and more confident as time goes on if you are not doing this already. Again, I'm not saying you have this issue, I'm speaking in general here.

Just a thought

KCGal · 08-29-2013, 09:19 AM

[QUOTE=Chiefshrink;9922844]Baby and Luv have given good advice and I will piggyback off of them. Here's a curveball tooge. In our culture in America too many families let the wife lead way too much and clean up all the messes(literally and figuratively) and especially when Dads are very pissed because Mom doesn't want Dad to lose his temper and the relational politics are not ruined. Women in general avoid conflict and it is very easy for them to smooth it out without real resolution and men in general just want to fight thus resolution is avoided as well. ]

Amen! Go about it in a calm, assertive way. She might not like having the relational politics of the dance studio messed up, but I would respect the hell out of my husband for protecting my family.

**LoneWolf** · 08-29-2013, 08:48 AM

What is with all the people wanting to run to the police on this issue? Are we afraid to have difficult converstations with people?

Go to the woman and tell her what your daughter told you. Let her know that this type of behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated again. Let her tell you her side of the story.

Who knows, it may have been a joke and she feels really bad about it afterward. She may just be a dumbass who needs to be told that she is a dumbass, but get all the facts before running to the police. Sometimes I think we have evolved into a nation of complete pussies.

tooge · 08-29-2013, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by LoneWolf

What is with all the people wanting to run to the police on this issue? Are we afraid to have difficult converstations with people?

Go to the woman and tell her what your daughter told you. Let her know that this type of behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated again. Let her tell you her side of the story.

Who knows, it may have been a joke and she feels really bad about it afterward. She may just be a dumbass who needs to be told that she is a dumbass, but get all the facts before running to the police. Sometimes I think we have evolved into a nation of complete pussies.

Yeah, not going to the police. I'm guessing (hoping) that was the case with fake jello shots for the girls. That still doesn't make it OK in my book though. Again, children do what they see adults do, and even if the shots didn't have alcohol in them, it is wrong to have little girls doing acts like things that big girls do to get drunk. I'm guessing this mom is in ler late 20's/early 30's. Regardless, old enough to know better. I will be discussing this with her at some point. I'm old enough to be her father, so thats the tone I will use.

**Dartgod** · 08-29-2013, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by tooge

I'm guessing (hoping) that was the case with fake jello shots for the girls. That still doesn't make it OK in my book though. Again, children do what they see adults do, and even if the shots didn't have alcohol in them, it is wrong to have little girls doing acts like things that big girls do to get drunk.

Pfffft!

I had candy cigarettes when I was a kid and that didn't make me take up smoki...

Wait, never mind.

Chief Roundup · 08-29-2013, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by tooge

Yeah, not going to the police. I'm guessing (hoping) that was the case with fake jello shots for the girls. That still doesn't make it OK in my book though. Again, children do what they see adults do, and even if the shots didn't have alcohol in them, it is wrong to have little girls doing acts like things that big girls do to get drunk. I'm guessing this mom is in ler late 20's/early 30's. Regardless, old enough to know better. I will be discussing this with her at some point. I'm old enough to be her father, so thats the tone I will use.

The offering of jello shots to the children is only ONE of the issues here.
These "adults" were drunk. How are they suppose to be able to properly take care of these children if they are drunk?
What if one of these children need medical attention? These drunks would not have been able to do anything other than call for an ambulance and hope there was time.
They might even just put them in a vehicle and start driving them around drunk.

tooge · 08-29-2013, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Chief Roundup

The offering of jello shots to the children is only ONE of the issues here.
These "adults" were drunk. How are they suppose to be able to properly take care of these children if they are drunk?
What if one of these children need medical attention? These drunks would not have been able to do anything other than call for an ambulance and hope there was time.
They might even just put them in a vehicle and start driving them around drunk.

I don't know that they were drunk.

**ShortRoundChief** · 08-29-2013, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by tooge

I don't know that they were drunk.

They were fat, that's enough to kill em for/Clay

Chief Roundup · 08-29-2013, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by tooge

I don't know that they were drunk.

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Originally Posted by tooge

they had some drinks and did jello shots. I know this because the dumbass posted it on facebook.

You don't...That is plural on drinks and jello shots and types. Being drunk is math. How many drinks in how much time. But if she wasn't drunk then what is her reason for offering children alcoholic beverages? Surely this isn't something she would do if she had been sober. I would hope not and she would be stupid if she didn't stipulate to being drunk when this transpired.

**mikeyis4dcats.** · 08-29-2013, 08:59 AM

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Originally Posted by LoneWolf

What is with all the people wanting to run to the police on this issue? Are we afraid to have difficult converstations with people?

Go to the woman and tell her what your daughter told you. Let her know that this type of behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated again. Let her tell you her side of the story.

Who knows, it may have been a joke and she feels really bad about it afterward. She may just be a dumbass who needs to be told that she is a dumbass, but get all the facts before running to the police. Sometimes I think we have evolved into a nation of complete pussies.

If it was my kid and her kid, that is one thing. But when a mother provides (or appears to have provided) numerous children (CHILDREN!, not teenagers, CHILDREN) with alcohol, then it IS time to escalate beyond parent to parent.

blaise · 08-29-2013, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by mikeyis4dcats.

If it was my kid and her kid, that is one thing. But when a mother provides (or appears to have provided) numerous children (CHILDREN!, not teenagers, CHILDREN) with alcohol, then it IS time to escalate beyond parent to parent.

Yeah, but I would try and get her story because you could be ruining some lady's reputation based on something a 9 year old said.

One of my kid's teachers once said something I thought was pretty smart - "I won't automatically everything your kid says about you is true, if you don't automatically believe everything they say about me is true."

The woman obviously has bad judgement to do jello shots and then offer the kids jello, but I'd want to hear her talk before I called the cops.

08-29-2013, 08:41 AM	#1
MOhillbilly Mama Tried Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Missouri Casino cash: $9949903	For a fee I'm happy to be your back door man. No homo. For real I'd confront them face to face. Nothing solves problems like violence. __________________ True Son of Liberty
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08-29-2013, 08:45 AM	#3
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08-29-2013, 08:49 AM	#4
Rasputin Tip of the hat LIV Champs Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: ks Casino cash: $35421	I can't stand them damn dance mom kid shows on tv Discuspting and spitting when I say that. __________________ "Those who don't believe in magic will never find it"
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08-29-2013, 09:19 AM	#6
KCGal Starter Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Overland Park KS Casino cash: $10005020	[QUOTE=Chiefshrink;9922844]Baby and Luv have given good advice and I will piggyback off of them. Here's a curveball tooge. In our culture in America too many families let the wife lead way too much and clean up all the messes(literally and figuratively) and especially when Dads are very pissed because Mom doesn't want Dad to lose his temper and the relational politics are not ruined. Women in general avoid conflict and it is very easy for them to smooth it out without real resolution and men in general just want to fight thus resolution is avoided as well. ] Amen! Go about it in a calm, assertive way. She might not like having the relational politics of the dance studio messed up, but I would respect the hell out of my husband for protecting my family.
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08-29-2013, 08:48 AM	#7
LoneWolf Constable of Untruths Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Wichita Casino cash: $-958916	What is with all the people wanting to run to the police on this issue? Are we afraid to have difficult converstations with people? Go to the woman and tell her what your daughter told you. Let her know that this type of behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated again. Let her tell you her side of the story. Who knows, it may have been a joke and she feels really bad about it afterward. She may just be a dumbass who needs to be told that she is a dumbass, but get all the facts before running to the police. Sometimes I think we have evolved into a nation of complete pussies.
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