Do you ever feel like a disappointment?

[Katipan]

Originally Posted by RealSNR

The guy who says championships don't matter is mocking young people for being the so-called "participation trophy generation"

Oh the irony.

Their ancestors gave them participation trophies too.

[kcmulhurn]

I dissapoint myself more than anyone else.

[KCUnited]

I honestly think Simply Red posted an article along these lines back in the day.

The gist of it, and the best sentiment I’ve ever read and carry with me everyday, is that no one is thinking about you.

No one is thinking about you.

That’s not an insult. It’s reality.

Free yourself from thinking that people are thinking about you because they’re not.

[loochy]

Originally Posted by George Brett Statue

A bit of a more serious thread for our Sunday night.

Do you ever feel like a disappointment to;
To your family?
Your friends
Significant other?
Other people you care about?

Just a little background.

I would consider myself to be at least somewhat successful in life. I graduated high school, got my Bachelor's degree, and I make a positive impact on people's lives each day. I would say that I'm generally a good person. I help people when I can. I treat all people I interact with kindness. Am I perfect? No. But who is?

I've been having this nagging feeling that I'm not good enough for the people around me. It's not a fun feeling.

Anyone else experience anything like this?

Every single day. I might seem successful on the outside to others, but my job, while paying extremely well, is a soulless existence as a cog in a massive corporation that profits from the suffering and destruction of fellow humans. I can't just drink the koolaid like everyone else and hide behind "patriotism", "freedom", "our troops". I was pointed out at a very early age as an intellectually gifted individual and I've come nowhere close to realizing my potential, and at my age it's too late to make a major change, as my family depends on me. I've failed myself. I've failed my family because I want them to be proud of what I do, but I'm not even proud of what I do.

[Spott]

Originally Posted by loochy

Every single day. I might seem successful on the outside to others, but my job, while paying extremely well, is a soulless existence as a cog in a massive corporation that profits from the suffering and destruction of fellow humans. I can't just drink the koolaid like everyone else and hide behind "patriotism", "freedom", "our troops". I was pointed out at a very early age as an intellectually gifted individual and I've come nowhere close to realizing my potential, and at my age it's too late to make a major change, as my family depends on me. I've failed myself. I've failed my family because I want them to be proud of what I do, but I'm not even proud of what I do.

Even though you work for Comcast, we still think you’re a good dude.

[Katipan]

Originally Posted by loochy

Every single day. I might seem successful on the outside to others, but my job, while paying extremely well, is a soulless existence as a cog in a massive corporation that profits from the suffering and destruction of fellow humans. I can't just drink the koolaid like everyone else and hide behind "patriotism", "freedom", "our troops". I was pointed out at a very early age as an intellectually gifted individual and I've come nowhere close to realizing my potential, and at my age it's too late to make a major change, as my family depends on me. I've failed myself. I've failed my family because I want them to be proud of what I do, but I'm not even proud of what I do.

Well you’ve pretty much ruined any future snarky comments I may have made towards you. Thanks a lot.

[jerryaldini]

Originally Posted by loochy

Every single day. I might seem successful on the outside to others, but my job, while paying extremely well, is a soulless existence as a cog in a massive corporation that profits from the suffering and destruction of fellow humans. I can't just drink the koolaid like everyone else and hide behind "patriotism", "freedom", "our troops". I was pointed out at a very early age as an intellectually gifted individual and I've come nowhere close to realizing my potential, and at my age it's too late to make a major change, as my family depends on me. I've failed myself. I've failed my family because I want them to be proud of what I do, but I'm not even proud of what I do.

Hey Loochy, that's some heavy karma to feel like you're contributing directly to the suffering of others. Here's a perspective from another old guy that has experienced the emptiness of the corporate machinery, take it or leave it.

You didn't ultimately choose this path, it chose you. Think back to when you made the decisions that led you here. Examine all the causes and conditions that influenced those decisions. For whatever reason we'll never know, this is the part the universe chose you to play in the dance at this stage of your existence. Maybe that soulless place you work needs a cog that sees beyond the profits, in whatever way that manifest at work. Just the fact you posted this in such an honest way gave me a boost.

You can only do the good that's in front of you, and if it's not at work, then the time and energy you're giving your family and community can provide plenty of meaning and create loads of good karma. The way you expressed this wisdom, I bet those kids think the world of you! Sending some good mental vibes your way Looch!

[Rain Man]

Originally Posted by loochy

Every single day. I might seem successful on the outside to others, but my job, while paying extremely well, is a soulless existence as a cog in a massive corporation that profits from the suffering and destruction of fellow humans. I can't just drink the koolaid like everyone else and hide behind "patriotism", "freedom", "our troops". I was pointed out at a very early age as an intellectually gifted individual and I've come nowhere close to realizing my potential, and at my age it's too late to make a major change, as my family depends on me. I've failed myself. I've failed my family because I want them to be proud of what I do, but I'm not even proud of what I do.

I think we all have dreams of being that 1 in a million great person. Most of us aren't going to get there for reasons outside our control, or because the risk of trying is not a good, rational decision. For someone who's bright, there's a pretty straightforward and low-risk path to success. That success may not be the 1 in a million type, but it's actually the smart decision to choose a high likelihood of being in the 90th percentile versus rolling the dice at great risk to be in the 99.9th percentile.

Back in 1999, I had a career crossroads. I was interested in being a professional writer and the world's greatest novelist. Simultaneously, I started a market research company to keep the bills paid. I actually was having early signs of success in writing, but the odds of getting rich at it were low, and the odds were pretty good that I would enjoy that work while living under an overpass. In the meantime, the research company took off and I enjoyed the work. So I put the writing aside - the theoretical ceiling was really high, but the odds of reaching it were low. The research company had a high floor and I eventually learned that it had a pretty good ceiling as well.

It's a bummer that I'm not a world-famous novelist, but it's been a good 25 years running the company, and it was the right decision. Now that I'm moving toward retirement I'm picking up the writing again and we'll see if I can knock Mark Twain and Leo Tolstoy off that pedestal.

[Titty Meat]

No but you're younger than I am eventually you'll learn to cut people out if the vibe ain't right

[mr. tegu]

Originally Posted by loochy

Every single day. I might seem successful on the outside to others, but my job, while paying extremely well, is a soulless existence as a cog in a massive corporation that profits from the suffering and destruction of fellow humans. I can't just drink the koolaid like everyone else and hide behind "patriotism", "freedom", "our troops". I was pointed out at a very early age as an intellectually gifted individual and I've come nowhere close to realizing my potential, and at my age it's too late to make a major change, as my family depends on me. I've failed myself. I've failed my family because I want them to be proud of what I do, but I'm not even proud of what I do.

If your family is proud of who you are, the father/husband, that’s what matters and where true meaning comes from. Happiness comes and goes. It’s fleeting, changing with the wind. Meaning is forever and is what everyone truly needs. You may not be happy day to day in work or proud or what you do there, but that does not a factor in who you are to the most important people around you.

And be careful with concepts like potential. It’s ambiguous and undefinable and “reaching it” is often impossible as it creates expectations one would never think to choose for themself.

[Tylerthigpen!1!]

Originally Posted by George Brett Statue

I've been having this nagging feeling that I'm not good enough for the people around me. It's not a fun feeling.

Anyone else experience anything like this?

What triggers the feeling? Is it something implied or said? Does "good enough" equate to money? morality? purposeful job? kids?

I know i feel like a complete piece of shit when i slack off at work. It turns into me not wanting to face my problems then i slack off even more and the cycle goes further down the drain.

[scho63]

The day I stopped worrying about what others thought about me made me incredibly content.

No matter what I did in life, zero ****s given since we are all very flawed human beings.

My goal has always been to never maliciously hurt anyone, especially my family and friends.

[bluehawkdoc]

https://youtu.be/tHxip2x-PLc

[InChiefsHeaven]

Originally Posted by bluehawkdoc

https://youtu.be/tHxip2x-PLc

That's actually a really good message...and I don't really dig that kind of music...but that was pretty good. Thanks for posting.

[Vladimir_Kyrilytch]

Thanks man a weird undescribed youtube link from a poster no one has ever heard from is what this thread was missing. Thanks again.