Do you ever feel like a disappointment?

[TLO]

A bit of a more serious thread for our Sunday night.

Do you ever feel like a disappointment to;
To your family?
Your friends
Significant other?
Other people you care about?

Just a little background.

I would consider myself to be at least somewhat successful in life. I graduated high school, got my Bachelor's degree, and I make a positive impact on people's lives each day. I would say that I'm generally a good person. I help people when I can. I treat all people I interact with kindness. Am I perfect? No. But who is?

I've been having this nagging feeling that I'm not good enough for the people around me. It's not a fun feeling.

Anyone else experience anything like this?

[SuperBowl4]

People try to bring you down with their bs. The key is not to give a ****.

[InChiefsHeaven]

Originally Posted by bluehawkdoc

https://youtu.be/tHxip2x-PLc

That's actually a really good message...and I don't really dig that kind of music...but that was pretty good. Thanks for posting.

[In58men]

All the time, my 8 year old son keeps me going though.

[crispystl]

Originally Posted by Bearcat

Ok, let's be real here.

You won't ever be the Rocky Statue, but that doesn't mean you're a failure by a long shot.

Seriously, you've initiated more brawls than Michael Buffer.

[RealSNR]

Originally Posted by Vladimir_Kyrilytch

The only people that could honestly answer "no, I've never felt like a disappointment" are this new younger generation, the participation trophy generation. Nothing they've ever done has ever been wrong, in fact it is amazing and to be celebrated. They are the ones that can't have a discussion without screaming and yelling. They are the ones leading cancel culture. They are big on punishing not just the son for the sin of the father, but the white for the sin of 200 years ago. Your ancestor fought for the Union to end slavery? Doesn't matter. He profited from it more. They are the ones leading us into this bold new future that I for one don't think is gonna be great at all, nor is it futuristic.

But if George Orwell couldn't warn the masses what the hell chance does old Vladdy Kyrilytch have?

The guy who says championships don't matter is mocking young people for being the so-called "participation trophy generation"

Oh the irony.

[FlaChief58]

No one appreciates me for all I do for them. I take one day off and everyone loses their minds/cp server

[Katipan]

Originally Posted by RealSNR

The guy who says championships don't matter is mocking young people for being the so-called "participation trophy generation"

Oh the irony.

Their ancestors gave them participation trophies too.

[seclark]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

It took me a long time to figure them out. I don't think they're evil or overly controlling. I think the issue is that they merely have a very narrow view of the world, and have a masssive aversion to trying anything new. In their world, it's a bad idea to ever try anything that's unfamiliar to them, and my whole life is unfamilar to them.

Of course, it doesn't help that I grew up with eight cousins and I'm the only one who lives outside Missouri. So that makes my life path even more of an outlier, which in their minds solidifies their skepticism about me. I've flat-out been told that they're disappointed in how I turned out.

But it's really kind of ridiculous. My most telling story is that I got my undergraduate degree in aerospace engineering, and as I was interviewing for jobs, my mother argued that I should stay in town and get a minimum-wage job at the local lumberyard.


In light of the lumberyard story and some other really bad events, I eventually figured out that my parents consistently acted against my best interests for their own reasons, so I had to learn to ignore them. This isn't well received by them and causes friction.

Thanks for the therapy session.

Kind of been there.
I was 16 years old when I finally found the balls to tell my old man that I was going to start living my own life the way I wanted to. Hair, clothes, classes. Etc.
I figured he’d knock the shit out of me, but he came home from work and said that he respected my opinion.
Then, the following week the family moved and I stayed there.
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[PAChiefsGuy]

Keep your head up OP!!!

Do a Google search on positive thinking. Study it and try to apply it to your situations in life and you will be alright. Life is mostly about how we perceive it. Same way you go looking for trouble, eventually you will find it. Same way, if you look at life in a certain way, of course you will look at yourself as a disappointment no matter who you are.

Best of luck man. Make the most of today and stay positive.

[ChiefaRoo]

https://youtu.be/kA29JVYP9rg

Could be worse. You could be this guy.


….

Seriously, do the things in life that make you happy. Small things and big things.

[Wisconsin_Chief]

Considering the junk DNA and family life I came from, I couldn't be prouder of where I am. Of course, because of those things there is a lot of self doubt that I'm constantly fighting, but I try to maintain a confident demeanor. I deal with a lot of very successful people on a daily basis and it can be very intimidating, but I try to look at it as I wouldn't be in position to deal with those people if I wasn't somewhat passable as a man.

I've always looked at is as if you're doing better for your family and society than your parents did, you're at least making progress. My sons will be even better than me without a shadow of a doubt, so I'm happy with my overall standing in life. As the old saying goes, all you can do is all you can do. If you're doing that, you have nothing to be ashamed of.

[notorious]

You are a CP member.


That alone makes you the top 1% of males to ever walk the Earth.

[notorious]

In all seriousness, happiness is not a long term thing. It’s temporary.

Find those things that give you that dose of happy. My things are: my kids, the kids I coach, and my creations at work.

Very little of it has to do with directly making myself happy. Bring joy to those around you, make them feel special. That’s the key for me.

[tooge]

I'm happy with myself and my role to my family and friends. If anyone else thinks I've fallen short of their expectations, then it doesn't concern me. I answer to God, my family, and myself first. Having said that, we aren't perfect. We can and should strive for perfection but only knowing that most of the time that is an unrealistic goal and my advice is you shouldn't beat yourself up.

[ToxSocks]

No matter how much you do, people will always ask more from you. The more you do, the more people will take you for granted and simply expect you to do those things and then assume you can and will do more on top of that. Because you've already shown that you can. If people thought less of you, they wouldn't ask you for shit. So yeah, if you don't want people to have expectations or demands or think you can do this or that, or rely on you for this or that....you could just be a lowlife loser. Then you won't have to worry about it.

That's never, ever going away. That's just part of being a man.