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12-23-2005, 04:02 AM | #2 |
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I wouldn't tell him because it will amost always turn out bad for you. Odds are he won't believe you, then will go off on you about being an asshole trying to **** up his life.
People generally only believe what they wanna believe. If she's never given him a reason to believe that, he's just going to think you're a dick. |
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12-23-2005, 04:05 AM | #3 | |
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If he really likes her as in wife material, it will take time to seperate you being the deliver of bad news from the guy who did the right thing. Damned if you do.... I would want to know though. |
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12-23-2005, 04:40 AM | #4 |
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Brad, I think you're in the right, but yeah it's gonna smart in the get go...
He probably won't believe you... maybe think you were even making it up to move in on Girl X.... In the long run, you guys will be cool... I wish I had more friends like you...
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12-23-2005, 04:53 AM | #5 |
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The bro's most likely now gettin' a piece of the action. You should too.
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12-23-2005, 05:05 AM | #6 |
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I kind of agree, but is there a way to lead him to the truth without throwing it directly in his face? Seems kind of harsh.
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12-23-2005, 06:21 AM | #7 |
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As someone who has been married for 20 years, keep your nose out of it. It really isn't your place. In any relationship there will be things to work through. Let them work through it on thier own. The chances of people working through thier issues is much more difficult when other people are involved.
Contrary to what some may believe, sometimes it's worth working through for the couple. But when it becomes congested with friends and family, suddenly what's important to the couple gets lost in whats important to the family. Ego also plays more of a role when other people are involved. I can understand you wanting to be a friend. But if being a friend means helping him disolve the relationship, then you need to help him when the break up is over. I know it's tough to watch another guy get punked. But it's tough to be alone in Iraq too. He needs something to come home to, even if you have determined what he's coming home to isn't worth it. Believe me, it's worth it to him. You are a good friend |
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12-23-2005, 06:24 AM | #8 |
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I would not say anything unless he asks. He is not going to want to hear it or believe it.
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12-23-2005, 06:25 AM | #9 |
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If it was me, i would want to know. It will save his ass the heartache later on. If he is a real good friend of yours, then you know what the right thing to do is.
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It's a tough choice, but I'd be absolutely sure it was truly happening before I made the decision to say something. |
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12-23-2005, 07:22 AM | #13 |
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Don't tell him now, when he's overseas and powerless to confront the problem.
But you DAMN WELL should tell him when he gets back. The bitch needs to be set straight. What she's doing is one of the worst things a woman can do... As for the brother actually HITTING you over it. WTF?!?! My guess is he's tapping it and doesn't want to stop. |
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12-23-2005, 07:26 AM | #14 |
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I'm not sure I'd want to tell a combat veteran his wench is banging someone else. Let him find out on his own. It will save you a lot of grief and possibly, bullet holes in your skull. Guys do stupid shit and go off the deep end sometimes when you talk trash about their woman, even if it is true.
I'm also unclear as to what you hoped to accomplish by being a buttinski on this one. I know, he's your friend and all but the dude is a big boy. If he can handle shooting at the Taliban and them shooting back at him, I'm pretty sure he can handle this wench.
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