Other women.

[Micjones]

I had a discussion last night with my girlfriend about a relationship dilemma one of her closest friends is faced with. These kinds of conversations often serve as firestarters. If a man is too candid he can often represent an opinion that will be superimposed onto his own relationship.

So the two of us were talking about the process of a man "settling down".

I told her about a song I'd been listening to that gives the male perspective of this process. A skit preceded the song. In that skit a man lays out his account of how men always wrestle with the urge to sleep with other women. It was an "inside" conversation. The language was brash, but it was something most men could identify and stand in agreement with. Needless to say, she was repulsed by the idea that men are often desirous of other women. So now I'm in an odd position of having to answer to her about my own desires. I think women have these heart-warming ideas that a man who has committed himself to her no longer has an eye for other women. I think that's patently false.

Gents when you settled down to a monogamous relationship...
Was that a by-product of having sewn your oats or are you simply managing the urge to sleep with other women?

In taking to older male friends I've been told time and time again that the desire to be with other women never goes away...you just manage it for fidelity's sake.

True or false?

[Predarat]

Originally Posted by scho63

Desires never go away but a great GF or Wife can suppress those desires greatly by taking care of their man. Men who get great sex at home rarely cheat.
Also, women always claim they want to be open, share your feelings and the truth but the moment you let the cat out of the bag, it's a bad decision. You learned a good lesson and in the future, you probably should hold some things in reserve.

That is the key, if the partners are being taken care of by each other, it sure helps keep the desires supressed, and keeps them only as desires. Once one or both is not being taken care of that really increases the desire and the motivation to act on those desires.

[Pants]

Originally Posted by scho63

Desires never go away but a great GF or Wife can suppress those desires greatly by taking care of their man. Men who get great sex at home rarely cheat.

Also, women always claim they want to be open, share your feelings and the truth but the moment you let the cat out of the bag, it's a bad decision. You learned a good lesson and in the future, you probably should hold some things in reserve.

Queue Chris Rock's "Fresh Pussy" routine.

[luv]

So it's the woman's responsibility to make sure her man doesn't cheat. Interesting.

[Micjones]

Lesson learned.

Me being able to be forthright and honest isn't worth the argument her and I are having about this today.

[scho63]

Originally Posted by tooge

Lets be very clear here. A great GF or Wife feels bad for your repressed feelings and asks her hottest friend to come over for a threesome with you.

You are correct sir! LOL

[Fire Me Boy!]

My wife subscribes to her grandfather's old saying: I'll stop looking when I'm dead.

My wife says as long as I'm not cheating, it don't matter. And lookin' ain't cheating.

[Predarat]

And its not just men that look. If women claim they do not, they are ****ing liars.

[scho63]

Originally Posted by luv

So it's the woman's responsibility to make sure her man doesn't cheat. Interesting.

It works both ways-if a guy doesn't spend the time taking care of a woman's emotional needs she always finds a friend who will.....and guess what? It's usually a guy who she winds up sleeping with.

Originally Posted by rageeumr

The primal, instinctive urge never goes away. It might even get worse. But, in my case at least, it's repressed by my love for my wife, the desire to give the kids a stable family and the hesitance to lose half (or more) of my shit.

/thread

[sedated]

Originally Posted by luv

So it's the woman's responsibility to make sure her man doesn't cheat. Interesting.

Semantics. I wouldn't say its her responsibility, but it certainly makes it easier to make rational decisions when we've just recently splooged out the devil voices.

[kindra68]

Would she rather have you checking out men instead?

[raybec 4]

Only one thing in the world is better than pussy- and that's new pussy

[loochy]

Originally Posted by luv

So it's the woman's responsibility to make sure her man doesn't cheat. Interesting.

It's not her responsibility, but sometimes preventative measures work wonders.

[stevieray]

Originally Posted by luv

So it's the woman's responsibility to make sure her man doesn't cheat. Interesting.

moreso to know what your responsibilities are..the rest will usually take care of itself.

[Pants]

Originally Posted by raybec 4

Only one thing in the world is better than pussy- and that's new pussy

R