Other women.

[Micjones]

I had a discussion last night with my girlfriend about a relationship dilemma one of her closest friends is faced with. These kinds of conversations often serve as firestarters. If a man is too candid he can often represent an opinion that will be superimposed onto his own relationship.

So the two of us were talking about the process of a man "settling down".

I told her about a song I'd been listening to that gives the male perspective of this process. A skit preceded the song. In that skit a man lays out his account of how men always wrestle with the urge to sleep with other women. It was an "inside" conversation. The language was brash, but it was something most men could identify and stand in agreement with. Needless to say, she was repulsed by the idea that men are often desirous of other women. So now I'm in an odd position of having to answer to her about my own desires. I think women have these heart-warming ideas that a man who has committed himself to her no longer has an eye for other women. I think that's patently false.

Gents when you settled down to a monogamous relationship...
Was that a by-product of having sewn your oats or are you simply managing the urge to sleep with other women?

In taking to older male friends I've been told time and time again that the desire to be with other women never goes away...you just manage it for fidelity's sake.

True or false?

[raybec 4]

Originally Posted by Pants

R

damn, I gotta start reading through these threads before posting

Originally Posted by Micjones

Lesson learned.

Me being able to be forthright and honest isn't worth the argument her and I are having about this today.

Nothing wrong with being honest about it. Many women are secure enough and mature enough to understand and accept a man's primal urge. It's a daily battle for us as most reasonable people know. But it might not be the thing she needs to hear from YOU. You just have to figure out what she's able to hear and not hear. It's a lifelong quest in figuring those things out. How long you been with this girl?

[stevieray]

Originally Posted by Phobia

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partially disagree.. if someone is staying faithful just for the kids and the stuff, that compromise will eventually find its way to the surface.

I will always put my wife first, kids second...and they know it.

Originally Posted by luv

So it's the woman's responsibility to make sure her man doesn't cheat. Interesting.

Don't think anybody said that but it's never a shock to discover the bedroom life sucks when one partner steps out. Don't make your man wait more than 72 hours and do something other than missionary every third time then he's going to be fairly happy in that department.

[eazyb81]

No man ever manages the urge other women. It is in our DNA.

But we're also not animals and you have to consider the impact of your actions, i.e. potentially ruining the lives of other people, kids, etc.

Originally Posted by stevieray

partially disagree.. if someone is staying faithful just for the kids and the stuff, that compromise will eventually find its way to the surface.

I will always put my wife first, kids second...and they know it.

I think you skipped something in his post. That's the way he wrote it - in that order.

[scho63]

Another big lesson for you-if you talk to her tonight DON'T tell her "I was discussing this today with all my friends on the Chiefs Planet to get their opinions"

You will be deeper in the doghouse and on double secret probation for an extra month!

[KC-TBB]

Originally Posted by scho63

Another big lesson for you-if you talk to her tonight DON'T tell her "I was discussing this today with all my friends on the Chiefs Planet to get their opinions"

You will be deeper in the doghouse and on double secret probation for an extra month!

[tooge]

She needs to read that book....
Women are from Mars, men are from....somewhere they wish had lots of hot and horny women.

[aturnis]

Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP

Not blabbering & lying aren't the same thing.

Bullshit. You don't Look at other women? Riiiiight. Bet you stop watching porn altogether too, but huh?

[Rasputin]

I kind of just go with this philosphy & I've been devorce twice and am single in my late 30's fwiw.

I think a person has to be happy with themselves before they can make any one else happy & it's impossible to understand women so just love them as they are or leave them that way you don't become a miserable smuck.

[Predarat]

Originally Posted by Phobia

Don't think anybody said that but it's never a shock to discover the bedroom life sucks when one partner steps out. Don't make your man wait more than 72 hours and do something other than missionary every third time then he's going to be fairly happy in that department.

You nailed it right on the head!

[Nzoner]

Originally Posted by Phobia

Don't think anybody said that but it's never a shock to discover the bedroom life sucks when one partner steps out. Don't make your man wait more than 72 hours and do something other than missionary every third time then he's going to be fairly happy in that department.

Originally Posted by Predarat

You nailed it right on the head!

I prefer to subscribe to the 48 hour rule but when the wife and I first started going to church several years ago, she heard the 72 hour rule during a break-out session at a marriage conference and has followed it closely ever since. I added the missionary portion.

[tooge]

Originally Posted by Phobia

Don't think anybody said that but it's never a shock to discover the bedroom life sucks when one partner steps out. Don't make your man wait more than 72 hours and do something other than missionary every third time then he's going to be fairly happy in that department.

Every woman on earth needs to read this. Doesn't sound so difficult does it?